What do you say to a new stepmother at your first meeting...and keep it from being awkward?

So, how’d you meet my dad? Did you click right away, or did you take a long time to connect? Is meeting me awkward for you at all? I was nervous, were you?

Admitting the awkwardness is good. So is saying something like “I was excited and nervous about meeting you. I’m looking forward to getting to know you and I’m glad that you and my Dad are together.”

I’m just curious , did your dad just meet someone and immediately get married? seems like the dad would of introduced the new “wife to be” beforehand.. maybe while they were dating… maybe I’m just old fashioned. but if it were me first thing I’d say would be…. “hey”

well my dad lives in another country and he met his new wife over there..and i guess theyve been dating for a while before they got married..and this coming march will be the first time i meet her.

oh wow.. yea I can see the awkwardness. I’d say just go with the flow. start out by saying hey. then maybe ask how their trip was.. Hopefully she will be a person that you can feel comfortable around and get along with. If thats the case, after each others first impressions, conversations from then on would be ok. good luck whatever you decide..

Wow, I can see how that might be an awkward meeting.

At first I’d treat it as meeting anyone; “hi, nice to meet you, how was the flight”, etc. Ask her about herself, her background, without getting too casual too quickly.

I guess, for myself, I’d treat it as meeting any new person who is older than myself, and then let things progress into familiarity as they will.