How can a person improve his/her life?

**** them!

Criticism itself doesn’t have much direct effect, and it tends to be mostly in our own heads anyway (see for example, Embracing Your Inner Critic by Stone and Stone. Mostly, people are stopped by their fear or imagination of what other people will think, when in fact mostly people don’t pay others nearly so much attention.

I bet you must be one of those who doesn’t speak their mind out. I just guessing that cause I am like you. WHen i say that, i mean i complain about other people and often dont understand people and their peculiar behaviour and thoughts. More often, i get discourage by people ‘s attitude and non constructive critism. Pissing me off everyday but i try not to think so much about those people. Everyday is a gem and it belongs to us and for us to decide. We are losing our breath everyday ! why bother so much about what others say ! only do and think when you can make a difference. If not forget it ! we are not almighty and capable of doing all the changes. Easy to say hard to implement the thoughts.

Based on your name and the fact that your father cant endanger you any longer id say your already off to a good start.

Decide to live your life for yourself and not your family. You are the one who has to live it everyday, not them. And finish college.

@Noel_S_Leitmotiv

come on… he’s gone and i dont believe hes wrong in that sense

If you ask me, the only reason we keep living is to achieve happiness, which constantly changes. Why do we go to work? Because money can buy things that make us happy (its not shallow, how happy would you be right now if you had no home or food?). Everything we do is to make us happy, even if its for someone else and its just social approval which then makes us feel good about ourselves, aka happy.

What we need to learn is that we can’t live a fulfilling life if we do not pursue our own happiness. If someone is standing in the way by using their judgement, it is not good enough for you to put aside your happiness because of what someone thinks. If they really love you, they’ll learn to accept it or ignore it anyway (within reason, of course).

I am also assuming you are very analytical and observent. Those skills if overused could be bring more bad than good. Let it go , let all the ego and self- restrained away and you will find yourself free. Easy to say hard to do it.

Find friends that share your values and views

Live your life for you—whatever makes you happy. Don’t worry about what they think/feel. Otherwise, you’ll be miserable.

You have to make a decision. Are you going to listen to what they say and let it take a toll on you; or, are you going to live your life, for you. I’m not sure how old you are, but I know by the time I hit college, I started to realize that while I love my family – very much – we weren’t always on the same page. I had to stand up for what I believed in and back it up with my actions. Turns out, they respected the fact that I did continue with what I wanted to do and they respected that I lived the life I wanted to live.

Recognize that sometimes, when family criticizes, it’s because they are scared that you are making the wrong choices. They may think that you could be doing more or that you just need to move in a different direction. I know it’s not the best way for a family to communicate, but it does happen.