What does harassment consist of?

I’m not exactly sure of the consequences..but finding all the contact info seems more like stalking, whereas violent/rude messages are definitely harassment. Also, if you’ve told them to stop, several times, it’s time to report them. If there are messages saved to your inbox from them that are rude/violent in nature…keep them! They will be useful if/when a trial comes.

I am going to ask a rude question: Is this a former lover, or spouse? Because if the answer is yes, then the person is actually quite dangerous. This is the type of activity that precedes violence, and sometimes even murder. Go immediately to a Domestic Violence counseling center and tell them what is going on.

@pdworkin Not a former spouse or lover, rather an someone with whom I used to be friends with. Thanks for the concern.

A restraining order is really easy to get. I got one in about a hour against a roommate that was crazy. The cops came later that night and got her to go away.

You could look into what it takes to get a restraining order in your state/county.

If this person had unrequited romantic feelings for you at any time, the above caution still applies. (I have been a volunteer advocate at a Rape-crisis-Domestic Violence hotline for three years.)

this person already threatend me with my job, and I already filed a police report. Im not sure if that would be enough. I still work with her, is it possible that if I make a restraining order against her will it keep her from the job we both work in or will she continue to still work there?

@michelebooboo that all depends on the size of the building/lot you work in, and the distance mentioned in the restraining order…

Can you speak with someone quietly in HR? This is intolerable, and the company you work for may incur some liability if they don’t intervene.

I have already brought up the subject with my manager and he has done nothing about this situation. All he said to me was to call the cops

Memorialize the conversation with your manager, ask for a restraining order, and go over your manager’s head to report the situation. Your manager may live to regret shining you on (I am not a lawyer.)

There is very little you can do about a stalker without the services of a lawyer. You are the one with the burden of proof. If it is an internet stalker, you are helpless, because there is no way to prevent someone from finding you.

In my real name, I had a stalker, and even when she was sentenced to a mental institution, the results of her false allegations against me remained all over the internet.