Is there truth to this statement about women? (details...)

I hate these generalizations, I never fit properly. I never thought that. I probably thought just the opposite. Troy Donahue and Frankie Avalon were the heart throbs of my youth and I don’t think either one of them ever wanted me!

Perhaps men are just more used to dealing with sexual rejection if they are constantly pursuing it, the law of averages and all that. Unless they happen to be Brad Pitt or that Clooney guy.

It is something which must be taken on an individual basis. We are all different from one another and you just can’t make generalizations like this about a group.

@Zendo This was not my comment, i’m merely trying to discuss something someone else had said

Well, I will generalize, of course this is not true for everyone, feel free to disagree or be the exception. For my generation I think that is true; I am 41. A women would be shocked and question her attractiveness if she was rejected. I am not a man, so I don’t know how they feel, but it seems more like a statisical game…ask 5 get 1. Or, even if it is with one woman you have been dating, men try to have sex, she decides when its time, I assume men take this not as a rejection, but more of an annoyance that they are going to have to wait. But, if she is the aggressor and the man wants to wait or is not receptive she will feel awful.

hee hee.. I always assumed that men would naturally reject me…rather than the other way around…so I’m rather surprised when they haven’t rejected me…

if I had grown up assuming that the man would not reject me I think I’d deserve a little rejection and bringing down to earth!

Speaking as a female and from my own point of view, I’m seconding @JLeslie.

I think you have to go with generalizations here. Imagine a woman walks into a bar that is inhabited mostly by men and asked “Would anyone here go to bed with me.” What are the odds of getting a taker? Pretty high I’d say. (Unfortunately)
Now reverse it. A man walks into a bar inhabited mostly by women and says “Would anyone here go to bed with me?” What are his odds? Pretty small. In fact after the pepper spray cleared he might even be arrested.

[.“A girl grows up with the assumption that when she chooses to have sex the man will not turn her down” the point was – it is far more devastating when she is rejected, assuming man is always trying to have sex and women are more selective.]

no, I don’t think that is accurate.
I think that line of thinking is just sad, but don’t believe it to be accurate.

I don’t know. Someone randomly asked me recently if I had ever been “turned down” by a guy when I was single. It wasn’t something I had ever really thought about before, but I couldn’t remember a time when I had been. However, there are a few things to consider with this: 1) I was typically the one being pursued rather than pursuing, and 2) If I ever did start hitting on a guy and he didn’t seem into me, I assume that I would naturally back off a bit, so it would never feel like a rejection anyway.

Isn’t this the case most of the time?

I must agree with @rooeytoo. What she said makes the most sense and I never thought that either!

I think there’s a certain degree of truth to it, though of course there are exceptions. My girlfriend for example, she get’s pretty huffy and puffy if I don’t want to jump in bed whenever she calls my name, not that it happens a lot, but every now and then I’m just busy damn it.

@Zendo Of course we can make generalizations about a group (they’re general, meaning they hold true more often than not – a majority). Generalizations are convenient tools for ordering our world, but don’t hold for each and every individual within the group necessarily.

I really don’t fall into this group that I would have sex with any woman that throws herself at me. I suppose that most women would not get rejected if they aren’t particularly picky: their averages are a lot better than a man of similar attractiveness level or having similar personalities in finding a mate at the same level of pickiness.

I’m really not into meaningless, anonymous, casual sex. There’s a really graphically disgusting reason men are often not picky at all about whom they’ll have “relations” with and which says a lot about how they view women in general. Some women have similar views about men. That can be said for other categories than sex object, but status object, wealth object, etc.