How can I solve this psychological problem?

Who says you have to have a female partner?

I’m with Darwin. I was just going to ask why, if you’re bi, you’re so concerned with having a particular sex over another for a relationship. Maybe you lean more toward men naturally and it might be easier to have a relationship with a man, too?

I think if I were you, and this were causing me genuine distress, I would talk to someone who is dealing, or has dealt, with the same issues. To me, this would mean contacting people in my local GLBTQ community and finding a copacetic person to discuss this with, If it doesn’t distress you, and you are merely concerned that your behavior is not normative, I encourage you to adopt my motto: “Fuck ‘em.”

I fancy women more than men, I want to have a family when I get older, I don’t want to go out with a man.

Those are sound reasons to investigate further, maybe even to seek short-term therapeutic help to learn to reduce your fears.

@pdworkin
I don’t understand why I’m so bad with girls I like but I’m really good with boys I like

It may not be necessary to understand it in order to change it! Some people have great insight into why they act a certain way, but still can’t seem to change the behavior. Others learn to change the behavior first, and allow insight to follow. In my opinion, you don’t need to be discontent. Cognitive-Behavioral assistance is available, take advantage of that, if you are sure that’s what you really want. If not, try to relax and allow you to be you, without making invidious comparisons to others.

Actually, a lot of guys get along easily with guys but not with girls. Part of it is shared experience and shared vocabulary. Girls are just more different from you than another guy is, and that can cause extreme nervousness.

Without knowing your age it is hard to pin down your maturity level, but be aware that many guys under the age of 20 are hopeless with girls, and many guys don’t really start to be sure of themselves until they are 25.

When you meet “the right girl” you will know it because you won’t be as nervous. She will just seem like a good friend, but one with benefits.

@Darwin
That was very good advice that’s Darwin.

LOL A good friend with benefits. NIce