Do you think romance and sexual attraction is more than simply chemicals coursing through your body causing the urge to have sex?

Yes. But a resounding no to the hairy legged women idea.

I have lusted after a lot of women, but I haven’t felt love towards them.
I have loved women, and not necessarily lusted after them.

Not really. I feel romance going on in my current relationship(not a couple…yet) and somehow sexual attraction, but as far as I know, I don’t want to have sex until I have a car, a house, a job, and taking pills or whatever to prevent pregnancy. But those two things(romance and sexual attraction) don’t urge me to want to have sex. I control what I want to do. Again, I seriously don’t want to have an image of a hairy legged woman. That’s just gross!

Doesn’t matter to me what it is – love in many ways is a combination of chemicals, social constructions and the unexplainable – so what, what in our lives isn’t like that…everything that truly matters is like that

No, I think there is more to it than that.

There is something special going on inside our bodies. I don’t know if we ever will quite understand what it is. No doubt there are all kinds of complicated chemical reactions and interactions going on inside our brains and bodies, but, in addition to that chemical/mechanical level of our selves, there is a layer of consciousness that floats on top.

Love/romance/sexual attraction cannot exist without the chemical level, but this is just the foundation for the consciousness level.

I believe we become smitten with someone due to experiences we had as our consciousness was forming (when we were young). That person of our desire has a very high resemblance to an image we carry of our perfect mate/sexual partner.

When we see that person of desire, our internal attraction detector goes into overload. Love is inexplicable.

Not really.

It’s not, but the fact that it is that shouldn’t deter anyone from enjoying them.

People like to romanticize emotions. And when someone says that they’re just brain gunk, the romanticizers feel like that belittles the experience.

It shouldn’t.

Nope.

@boots Definition of is please. ;)

@billclinton

Here ya go!

@boots I miss that man! :(

I don’t know. I have lusted after people of both genders, and yet, haven’t loved many of them except from afar. I’ve even had a romantic attraction towards someone of the same gender, but it wasn’t actually sexual, or perhaps I didn’t immediately feel sexually attracted to him. He was 20 years my senior, and I’m not sure what the attraction was, but I do know it probably wasn’t sexual. Later, upon reflection, it may have been construed by my mind as sexual, since my mind works things out in odd ways.

One thing about being bisexual, it makes who you are attracted to a bit more interesting.

Yes and no. Yes, romance and love and attraction and sexual desire are all explainable by material phenomena (the right cocktail of neurotransmitters drank by the right parts of the brain). Does that minimize their value? Not at all, to me.

probably i reckon its probably just chemical though sometimes i guess it overlaps with other stuff and gets confusing

I’m not sure we entirely understand the chemical part..could it be the connection to the spiritual?

Well, it’s like asking ‘Is the Earth more than a bunch of atoms?’ The answer is yes and no.

Even if a bunch of chemicals are responsible for sexual attraction and romantic feelings, why analyze it? It feels good, right? So I just leave it alone and let my body feel what it wants to. Picking apart the reason behind the feelings really makes it not so romantic or sexy. When something makes me happy I just let it be. No need to figure out WHY.

No. I’m sorry but everything is scientific…
The sad but oh-so-true reality

well that’s an awfully boring way to put it.
maybe that is true, but i allow myself to be ignorant to some scientific facts. probably for some reason that can be explained away with science.