Well, I didn’t fear dying or have a near death experience, or even spend 10 hrs on the tarmac, but my experience is very relevant to the world today.
Yesterday my husband and I flew back home from Maui on Alaska Airlines. The flights in both directions were very full and few options for seating were available. On the flight to Maui, we were lucky to have snagged two aisle seats across from each other in row 29. This plane had only 30 rows, so row 29 was right across from the lavatories. This was a new experience. I have a herniated disk and am going into surgery in a week. The trip to Maui was my last bit of fun before I can look forward to at least a month of pain. I needed to stand every 2 hours and stretch so that my back got a break. Let me tell you, being in the “bathroom row” was not a fun thing. But that’s another story.
This story is about our flight home, where we had a middle and an aisle seat together. As we waited to see who would be taking the window seat, we watched in horror as a young woman who must have weighed close to 400 lbs stopped at our row and said she had the window seat. We both got up, and once she was arranged in her seat, it was obvious to all of us that I no longer had a seat. A large portion of her had plopped over into my seat. I am not a tiny person, a bit wide in the beam myself, but I do fit easily in one airline seat. One whole airline seat.
I tried my best to arrange myself in the small amount of room that was left. My husband beside me, who is himself a 6’2″ man who weighs about 250, but can also contain himself in one seat without a seat belt extender, tried to give me a little room, but that put most of his right side out into the aisle. We could not lower any of the arm rests, so were just jammed in tightly, the three of us, like sardines in a can.
The young woman was very pleasant and we chatted a bit before the plane took off. She was a very enjoyable person, and had she not been sitting in my seat, I would have very much enjoyed having her as a seatmate. I imagine that the experience was as unpleasant for her as it was for me. She tried very hard to keep her arms glued to her sides like mine were, but her right arm kept shooting over, hitting my left arm. Neither of us could move, rearrange ourselves or do much of anything. When we were served our meals (purchased on the plane) I could not get my hand up to my mouth unless my husband moved his arm, so we had to take turns taking bites of our pathetic cheeseburgers. I had to slip my elbow under his in order to be able to move it enough to get my hand to my mouth. It was excruciating. And I am not exaggerating one bit.
After about 2 hours in the air, I noticed that my shoulders were starting to hurt from holding the position of my elbows against my sides for so long. To add insult to injury, the person in front of me reclined her seat slightly. Luckily not all the way. And the child sitting behind me started kicking my seat, and apparently his parents thought it was cute, because they did nothing to stop him.
Remember, I have severe back problems and am going into surgery in 6 days. All of this did not do my back any good at all. By the time I got off the plane, my entire body hurt. Today I feel like I was run over by a truck.
At one point we thought we had a reprieve. Our seatmate had friends on the plane, and one of them came over and told her that there were 2 seats available in the back near them, and did she want to come and join them. Here is where I fault her. She turned it down! I almost cried. She told her friend that she was making new friends and was enjoying sitting with us. She could have had two seats, and I could have had my own seat back, and she turned it down. And even though she was a delightful person, here is where I began to not like her so much. Apparently my agony wasn’t obvious to her. And I guess she wasn’t as uncomfortable as I thought she was. But I was!
So a 4 hour 45 minute, fairly easy flight turned into the flight from hell for me. And I don’t really fault the heavy lady. She had upgraded to first class on the flight out and had tried to do the same on this one, but there was nothing available. I fault the airlines. Obese people have a right to fly, and us smaller people have a right to our own seat. It’s up to the airlines to make that happen.
We all know that people in the United States are getting heavier. My seatmate wasn’t the only obese person on the flight. They were scattered throughout the plane. Alaska airlines has a policy regarding what they call “people of size”, but they apparently don’t adhere to it. I have an easy fix, and I think all the airlines should adopt it.
Most planes have 3 seats on each side. I suggest they set aside 4 rows in the back of the plane. Take out one seat on each side and make the two remaining seats larger. Then charge people 1 ½ times the airfare for these seats, and REQUIRE large people who need a seat belt extender to purchase these seats. Make it a written policy on their website, so that people booking could look at the size requirements, which would basically be that anyone who couldn’t keep their body entirely in one seat, and who required an extender, would need to sit in one of the larger seats. The airline wouldn’t lose a dime, since they would make up the cost of the removed seat through the extra amount charged for the larger seats. And if there weren’t enough large people on a particular flight to fill up those seats (which I can’t imagine), then they could offer them to people who would just like to have more room, and are willing to pay for it.
Flying is no longer an enjoyable experience. From start to finish, between the TSA and the airlines, they make it as miserable as possible. And as the flying public, they have us at their mercy. You can’t drive to Maui. Often you have no choice but to fly to get to your destination, and they know that and take advantage of it. While we can’t control the escalating prices, the charges they now add for every little thing, and the ridiculous rules the TSA keeps coming up with in the name of safety, we should at least be able to occupy the seat we paid for. We need to force the airlines to do something about this. In it’s own way, its as bad as the enforced 10 hour tarmac experiences that the public has been fighting against for so long.
How about it Kate Hanni, the one woman juggernaut who has campaigned for a passenger bill of rights? Can we get them to make sure we each get to sit in the seat we paid for, without having someone else take up half of it? Can this become a part of our rights as the flying and PAYING public? I can’t think of a single other instance where an entity can get away with treating people this shabbily and have them keep coming back for more. And we have absolutely no choice. We can boycott certain airlines, but in the end, we need to fly and they can pretty much treat us however they want to and we’ll keep coming back.
So now I know what it’s like to be the person stuck in the middle seat with an obese person. These people are human beings, and no matter what you think, it’s not really a choice to be fat. Losing weight and keeping it off is one of the hardest things for people to do in this life. Life is hard for them, and usually they have health problems brought on by their weight as well. They’d love to be slim, but it’s a whole lot easier said than done. I know, I’ve lost the same 50 lbs at least 10 times in my life, and I simply can’t keep it off. So flying belongs to everyone who can afford to pay for it, and the airlines need to adapt to changing times. Instead of cramming in more seats, they need to make the whole thing more comfortable for everyone. And give the larger people, the “people of size” an area where they can be accommodated and comfortable. And let the rest of us be able to sit in the seat that we purchased.
As Forrest Gump would say, “That’s all I have to say about that”.