How/when did you know he/she is the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?

I was given the, why buy the cow when the milk is free, speech.

So I had to marry her.

Only to find 20 years later the milk was not so sweet.

If you have to ask yourself then you haven’t found the right person.

I knew within a couple of weeks of meeting my wife.

We were sat in my local pub just as friends having a laugh and a drink, when all of a sudden I realised how much I liked her and that she was the one. I can’t explain it…you just know.

I don’t know…I’m not sure I will ever know
Because I’m a perfectionist I don’t think I should get married
That would be just asking for trouble!

Well he has proposed yet because of outside circumstances, but I’ve kind of always known that we would be together forever.

I’m too critical of people; I can find a reason not to live with anyone for any period of time.

Strangely enough, I still think it’s possible for me to find the one.

You know they are the one when you can’t stand being apart because they seem to be part of you, and you feel incomplete without them.

People always said to me that when the right person came along, you would just know. When he did, I knew. There is no explaining the feeling.

I could actually make a pretty big list but here’s a few…

1. When I realized he was not just another boyfriend but my absolute best friend.
2. When I realized that I could be my weirdo self around him
3. When I realized he knows more about me than anyone else and I can tell him absolutely anything, even the incredibly embarassing stuff that I cant tell anyone else
4. When I say something to him and I know exactly what he’s going to respond with
5. When I answered this question :)

I really figured it out when I found myself on a business trip to Ontario and realized that all I wanted to do was talk to him. I was very glad he had told me to call collect.

I did, and twenty years later I know he will still accept the charges.

“How/when did you know he/she is the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?”

Usually when it is too late to get her back.

We were high school sweethearts, then we were on again off again quite a bit. I just figured if we kept coming back to each other maybe there something more here! The 22nd of this month is our 18th anniversary so I guess I was right! :)

When I started having trouble remembering my life before her.

@cprevite What a great husband you must be.

When I knew being with him is worth the divorce from my first husband and all the subsequent drama that would ensue as we had a young child together and I would be changing all our lives around – as would my love who, too, was married

I was interested immediately. Then 2 days after meeting I had a dream that we were married and I was very pregnant and he was rubbing my belly and we were laughing. I woke up unbelievably happy the next morning and knew that we would be together for a very, very long time.

And then a few weeks later, my son told me that he knew this man loved me and just wanted me to be happy. That comment from my son affirmed my desire to marry him.

I have tremendous respect for him and feel so completely loved by him. I can’t wait for our wedding in less than 2 weeks!!

@chyna: aww thanks. But you’d have to ask my wife about that.

Since the first day I met him!

Ms. Cupcake up there ^^ didn’t tell me about the dreams until much later. She showed up at a fireside one night and came back the next week and then the week after that. By then, all I wanted to do was get to know her better.

We spent a lot of time emailing and calling to get to know each other and even sat down a few times and told each other everything that we could think of to scare someone away – sort of a “what’s wrong with you” night.

When I had told her the things I never thought I would be able to tell anyone else and found that we were more comfortable and more interested in spending time together, I knew it was the relationship I had been expecting for a long time.

That’s soon to be Mrs. Cupcake to you, Mr. Fireside! :P

Congratulations Mr. and Mrs. Fireside/Cupcake. What a wonderful start to life together.

@chyna – thanks : )

Conversely, I can tell you when I knew he was NOT the one.

1)When I felt trapped by a ring and a promise
2) When planning the wedding was more fun and exciting than actually getting married, when I felt
3) When our relationship had more bad times than good
4) When I realized I was young and stupid
5) When I wasn’t sure I was in love anymore
6) When I could picture my life without him in it.

Good luck.

@Cupcake @fireside that is so sweet. Congratulations!

@shipwrecks – thanks!

@Cupcake and @fireside

I wish you the best. You are two lucky people. Have a wonderful life together.