How not to be in love with someone.

Guh. I know how you feel. I’ve been there. Twice.

Let me tell you, it is terrible to be in love with the wrong person. Really, terrible. The only thing that worked for me was to avoid all contact with that person. It is really really really hard to do at first. You’ll be depressed and upset and think you’re making the wrong decision. But. It gets better. You’ll soon realize that you don’t need her to lead a fulfilling life. And eventually, you’ll wonder how you could have ever felt that way about her.

Thing I don’t like about it is, she could have just left me alone instead of being all great and everything. People are maddening. Thankfully, my ego isn’t getting bruised over this. That would suck. Thanks for the words Les.

No, I know. The two experiences I’ve had, the guy was all over me. Flirting, texting, even sending emails. One of them even asked me out. More than once. We’d talk for hours and hours and find all these things we had in common. He’d tell me I was such a great person and was so happy I was in his life. All while being tied to another woman. And when I’d try to wriggle out of it and cease the relationship, one of them said I was a selfish self-centered b****, and the other got mad. It is maddening.

You need to break loose from her.
Sounds like trouble is at hand.

This is a hard thing, but you know the right answer.

You can’t get her out of your heart until you get her out of your life.

It is clear from this Q and the earlier one that she is a user. You know this. She likes having a bunch of guys admiring her. You’re just one on the string and not even number one.

Stop seeing her at all even, as a friend. Move even father away if need be.

You need to get your own life. You need to like yourself enough to want more than the dregs this woman is offering you.

If you put up barriers with others, you need to work on letting new people into your life.

Take care of yourself. Listen to your head here.

when I was dumped after a 5 year relationship, and I thought I’d never find anyone in this world like him, I sort of forced myself to find things I didn’t like, and then I dwelled on them.

That’s sort of terrible, but it worked like a charm.

You love her and you know cannot get rid of her from your heart. So learn to accept it. Denying will make things even worse.

Some people say that you dont need to be together to be in love. I think its quite true but it is hard to do it. If you love her you want to do the best for her. Ask her and talk to her about the situation. Face the it or forget about it.

Been there once. I still liked the guy a bit.

But I moved on, even though you can’t get her out of your heart, try to be happy somewhere else. Smoking won’t help.

The heart wants what the heart wants.
Im sorry but this reminds me of a show that a girl is getting married and before she says “I do” the other guy interupts and takes her away. But this isn’t the case. Try not to do that please.

This doesn’t sound like a healthy situation for you at all. You deserve better. Try telling yourself that. Hang in there.

the only thing to do is to find someone else.