When I graduated from college, I moved from Indiana to Connecticut with a friend of mine. She’d been out here for several months already, and new all the “places to go.” One night, we had plans to go out with a friend of hers. I had a really nasty cold and didn’t really want to go, but my friend talked me into it. Since I was on cold medicine and not drinking, I got to be the driver.
We ended up going to this little dive of a bar not far from a Navy base. The place was almost empty, but we were still having a good time getting the DJ to play whatever songs we wanted and dancing all by ourselves. Then, this group of three guys came in. We couldn’t help but notice them because there were only two or three other people in the entire bar. They were all good-looking and about our age, but I just wasn’t feeling like talking to anyone with my stuffy nose and cough. My friend started talking to one of them, and they asked us to sit with them. This one guy was being a little pushy about telling me to sit next to him, so I just ignored him and sat on the other side of the table. After a while, he came around to sit next to me, but I’d already decided I didn’t like him.
For the next half-hour or so, we sat there and argued. He was an arrogant jerk, bragging about being an artist, being able to get me a better job, and knowing someone who worked at a local newspaper (I have a writing degree). During all of this, I kept whispering to my friend that I was not feeling well and wanted to leave. The guy I’d been talking to wanted my phone number, but I wouldn’t give it to him. He asked if he could give me his number, and I said yes just to get out of there faster. We then got into an argument over who would walk up to the bar and ask for a pen. It went something like, “I’m giving you my number, so you should go get the pen.” “No, you should get a pen because I am agreeing to do you the favor of maybe calling you.” Neither of us would budge, so one of his friends went to get a pen just to shut us up. He gave me his number, and we left. I had no intention of calling him.
Over the next couple of days, I kept laughing about the conversations we’d had. I didn’t know anyone else in CT except my friend/roommate, and was often bored because she worked a lot of late nights. One day I said, “Oh screw it,” and called the guy from the bar. At least he was entertaining, right? We talked a couple of times, and he kept calling me by the wrong name. Then he admitted that he thought I was actually married to someone in the Navy and was out looking for a fling while my husband was at sea (because I was wearing my grandmother’s engagement ring). I corrected him, and wondered why I’d called him at all. In spite of that, we started hanging out, and I quickly realized that I was crazy about him. He wasn’t a jerk at all, but has a wicked sense of humor. Unfortunately, my cold had gotten worse. I couldn’t laugh without going into a big coughing fit, and I was completely congested. I thought he’d be disgusted, but he kept coming around and even invited me to dinner at his parents’ house.
That was in January, and in Sept. of that year we were married. Next month will be our 11th anniversary, we have three amazing kids, and I can’t imagine my life being any different! He’s still really cute and hysterically funny, too!