Does acting psycho with a loser get rid of him without hurting his feelings? If so, who would have all the time and the patience to do that for someone they want to get rid off?

That sounds worrisome to me. Humans, especially couples, are meant to know how to communicate. What would keep her from being direct and using words? Maybe her “losers” aren’t the whole problem. For example, if they are losers, why does she keep repeating the same experiment?

She’s being dishonest and making a fool out of these guys. And she calls them losers?

Honestly, that’s not normal. She enjoys the drama and weird feelings she causes, that’s why she does it.

Not only does she fail in not hurting their feelings, she’s giving herself a reputation for acting psychotic with boys. This will almost certainly ruin (or at least seriously mess up) her chances later when she really wants to have a relationship later on in life.

Wow, I don’t even know if I could be friends with her.
That’s a whole lot of crazy in one chick. She’s not doing this as a last resort – which is childish and ridiculous enough, if she’s doing this repeatedly it’s something she does. Your willingness to list of all of her good qualities just gave me the impression you know it’s an issue and you feel the need to cover for her. If you thought it wasn’t a big deal, you would have presented the facts and asked us our opinions, instead you presented the girl, the package, introduced us, then quickly got the nastiness out of the way.

You know it’s wrong, so do we.

Could she be picking “losers” on purpose just so she can do this to them? This is downright creepy and could be dangerous. What happens when one of these guys out-psycho’s her? Stay away, far away.

@Quagmire summed up what I was going to say perfectly.

I agree with all of you. This way about her really does disturb me because I would never know if she just has issues and needs a friend or if she’s just trying to get rid of me. I’ve never had many friends and she has a really great personality I just didn’t swallow this whole reverse psychology thing it could be she’s so psycho she’s trying to give me a message.

Being yourself and being honest with him is the only way to go.

There needs to be complete tranaparency in every relationship.  If one is a loser and the other one chooses that particular misfortune as the sole reason to bail, then being truthful means you will never have any regrets.

Regrets..

BUT, think of the absolute brilliance.  Embracing the life a twisted character for a roller coaster ride through the alternative world of role play.  I mean, it could be an outstanding adventure. Especially if you craft the backstory, illuminate the details and really invest all the way in the entire production. Commit.  Really commit.  Also, document everything.  Blog it.  Record it.  Publish it.  Launch a YouTube Channel and open a Facebook account.  Wire your house with 42 webcams.  Draft a business plan.  Get an agent and a marketing director. Design product placement and cultivate a series of endorsement agreements, book deals, movie rights, talk show appearances and blueprints for a series interactive theme parks and couples only resorts.

Play out scenes of your madness in public places.  Build an audience.  Nurture the cult status your endeavor will no doubt attract.  Claim to be secretly dating any B-list celebrity that will add valididty to your illusion.  There is no such thing as bad publicity, as that is exactly what you want!

And then, as the final scene wraps and your defeated ex-lover runs screaming from your life.  Hand them a letter of agreement on their way out the door, worth 9% of the net profits, after you have recouped expenses, for your new global enterprise: THE PHILANTHROPIC PSYCHO REPERTORY COMPANY, and you are finished!  You have exorcised yourself from the loser, attained a guilt-free dissolution in the form of a generous buyout, and you are filthy rich and famous.  You can now troll for A-list celebrities.

I mean, if you are floating the possibility out there, in of all places like Fluther, of attempting something so extreme as deceiving another human being just to remove them from your life, then by golly, you might as well do it all the way. Right?

She might find it’s a little harder to do anything in the future when everyone knows her as a psycho maniac.

And who would have the time to continually act like a psycho? You can’t keep up an act like this forever, this might actually be something she… does.

Tell her how much this creeps you out before this goes on any longer.

So what qualifies them as losers?

That’s not cool at all. She should do what I do when I have people that are interested in me when I don’t share the feelings. I don’t share their enthusiasm, I don’t seek out conversation with them regularly, I act completely non interested in them at all. If they don’t get the hint at that point. I will tell them I was picking up more of just a friend vibe, and I don’t see a relationship coming out of it.

Sorry – I answered earlier from an airplane – we landed safely, but my answer seems to have skidded off the runway.

Here it is again:

There needs to be complete tranaparency in every relationship. If one is a loser and the other one chooses that particular misfortune as the sole reason to bail, then being truthful means you will never have any regrets.

Regrets..

BUT, think of the absolute brilliance. Embracing the life a twisted character for a roller coaster ride through the alternative world of role play. I mean, it could be an outstanding adventure. Especially if you craft the backstory, illuminate the details and really invest all the way in the entire production. Commit. Really commit. Also, document everything. Blog it. Record it. Publish it. Launch a YouTube Channel and open a Facebook account. Wire your house with 42 webcams. Draft a business plan. Get an agent and a marketing director. Design product placement and cultivate a series of endorsement agreements, book deals, movie rights, talk show appearances and blueprints for a series interactive theme parks and couples only resorts.

Play out scenes of your madness in public places. Build an audience. Nurture the cult status your endeavor will no doubt attract. Claim to be secretly dating any B-list celebrity that will add valididty to your illusion. There is no such thing as bad publicity, as that is exactly what you want!

And then, as the final scene wraps and your defeated ex-lover runs screaming from your life. Hand them a letter of agreement on their way out the door, worth 9% of the net profits, after you have recouped expenses, for your new global enterprise: THE PHILANTHROPIC PSYCHO REPERTORY COMPANY, and you are finished! You have exorcised yourself from the loser, attained a guilt-free dissolution in the form of a generous buyout, and you are filthy rich and famous. You can now troll for A-list celebrities.

I mean, if you are floating the possibility out there, in of all places like Fluther, of attempting something so extreme as deceiving another human being just to remove them from your life, then by golly, you might as well do it all the way. Right?

I know the whole idea of asking this question was kind of silly but as I said I haven’t had a chance to socialize much and move around in the world so it’s hard to gauge if something is realistically possible. Besides, I know decieving someone is a horrible thing to do but I seem to be the only one that understands her and after much thought I feel I’m going to be consistent and help her sort her life out.

There were only two guys she’s ever known- one was an altar-server, who looks like a total nerd to me and still won’t leave her alone. He writes her emails and tries to get her all jealous, and he doesn’t even know how to write, he doesn’t call her he leaves missed calls so she can call him back. The other guy’s a drummer who has acne problems, he doesn’t know how to speak properly, let alone write. He’s selfish and a dope and a braggart. He actually dumped her and got back with his old girlfriend.

The reason I’m perplexed is that these guys needed to be kicked out of her life not ‘psycho-ed out’. I think she tried to like them and put the reality that they were not in her league way out of her mind. While they just clamped on to her and she genuinely didn’t want to hurt their feelings. I have had similar problems but my dad has always been there to save me and I use him as an excuse if I don’t want to date a guy.

She’s probably the coolest friend I’ve ever had. So I might just help her devise better plans to ruin those arse faces. Who cares if we’re being childish.

I think she is absolutely brilliant. It’s okay for guys to “do our head in” but as soon as a girl does this to a guy, everyone jumps at her for being cruel. It’s obviously a coping mechanism to deal with situations she doesn’t feel comfortable in. You said they are losers anyway…. when the right guy comes i’m sure she won’t do this because she will reciprocate the same feelings.