I am so glad you asked these questions. I study brains for a living and nothing makes me happier than when people ask questions about them on Fluther because they are the most amazing machines in the universe. There is another Fluther user, girlofscience, who also studies brains. She might be able to help you out, too.
You are asking some very difficult and interesting questions! Let’s go through them one at a time.
1. How many (people) names can an average human being remember?
I don’t think a real scientist could answer this question, and here is why: how would you design an experiment that tests how many names someone is capable of remembering?
When I test people’s memories in my lab, I usually use two kinds of tests. One is called a free recall test, and the other is a recognition test. In a free recall test, you ask a person to generate as many answers as s/he can remember. So in this case, you would be asking a person to list as many names as s/he could think of.
Why don’t you try it? See how many names you can think of, right now.
A recognition test gives you a list of names and asks how many of them you recognize. You could test yourself on this one, too: go to a website with baby names and see how many are familiar.
I think what you will probably find is that you get completely different numbers depending on what kind of test you use. So what does it mean to be able to remember a name? Is it recognizing a name, recalling a name, or something else entirely?
No matter what kind of test you use, I bet you will find that in the long term, your memory for names—like your memory for just about anything—doesn’t really have a clear boundary. As far as we know, you can keep learning forever.
2. How many of those names actually belong to people they know?
I think this would be another one that would be hard to answer scientifically. What does it mean to “know” someone? Would celebrities count? Dead family members? Does it change what you mean by “memory” if it’s a real person with the name or just the name? Is this question about memory, or about how we organize the information we file away, or something else entirely? I would be willing to bet the raw answer to this question varies a lot from one person to another and is contingent on a lot of things beyond just memory capacity.
3. Does this persons gender make a difference?
This is an especially interesting question! Not to mention controversial. As a group, women tend to have better verbal memories, so it would be safe to assume that they also tend to remember people names better than men. The question I want to pose back to you is: what does this mean for any individual woman?
4. And where exactly in the brain are names stored?
If you could answer this question you would win so many prizes and millions of dollars! A very famous neuroscientist named Karl Lashley spent literally decades trying to figure out where the brain stores memories. After years of searching, he is quoted as saying, “I sometimes feel that the necessary conclusion is that learning just is not possible.”
But you and I both know better, and today we have sort of a better idea. The best we can do is that memories are probably stored throughout our cerebral cortex in networks of cells that all talk to each other and store the memory as a dynamic manifestation of their communication with each other. Isn’t that neat?