Would it be disrespectful or what do you think would happen if I colore my hair brown without my parents consent?

-“My parents are very influencal on what i do with my hair and clothing”

Run!

The would probably be real pissed at you. But it’s your hair not theirs…

Well, unless your 18, and out of the house, I think that you should respect their rules. I know it is hard, trust me all of us have gone through it. But mabey it is time for you to sit down with them and tell them that you are no longer walking around in diapers. But make sure that you tell them that you are thinking.

they are decent enough to let me wear clothes from hollister and aerpostale and american eagle, but they FREAK when my hair gets long (like over my ear long) so i want my hair to be ear lobe length and brown thats it…its not a tatoo, its not sex, its not drugs, alchohol, or even a 1 on 1 date (which my dad doesn’t wan’t me to, but my mom does, and my step dad really doesn’t care)...

I never let my red headed daughter color her hair because it was just so beautiful. I know, I was a mean mom and the day she went off to college she colored it anyway.
Now she’s 28 and loves her red hair.
Her brother (the baby) highlighted his hair all the time. O was just to tired to fight (and I was sad he was loosing his bonde)
in 2 more years they really won’t care ( unless they have some religous objections) so you have to decide if it’s worth the fight to you now.
Good luck!

I hate it when parents try to control their kids’ appearance. I can understand if they don’t want their kids to dress like a whore or a gangster as that can get them into trouble. I can understand tattoos and piercings as those are essentially changing a part of your body forever. But dyed hair being bad and long hair being a “no-no”? Come on. Anyway, I agree with @brinibear in that you need to talk to your parents about it and explain to them what you want to do and why you want to do it and try to understand their point of view on it. A good discussion never hurts. “Having a feeling” that’s not what they would suggest isn’t really good enough. Ask them why they wouldn’t suggest it. Find out. Blindly accepting things without questioning is never the way to go. I also agree with @Judi in that you have to decide if this is something you want to fight about, but still, find out why they object to it so much first and discuss it a bit without fighting and arguing.

I’m 17 and I’ve been doing the whole “parents” thing for the past 17 years.

They’d obviously behead you.

You realize that red heads are supposed to be extinct in 100 years. You are a dieing breed. Wear it proudly!!!!

i just wan’t to try something new, and i feel that some teenagers do things alot worse than color there hair, and atleast i ask first (i have asked my mom before, she said she doesn’t wan’t me to because she thinks ill look ridiculous and i haven’t asked my dad, which is who i think ill be fighting) if im paying for a hair stylist to do it, i don’t think it will look bad, the only problem might be when i would have to color my roots…because i don’t have a ton of $$$ just probably enough to get it colored and a box of hair color for a month later

you mean orange hair?
I think you should talk to them one day and tell them that you’re going out to dye your hair and get out of the house as fast as you can, so they won’t have enough time to call you back in or try to persuade you to not dye your hair. It’s your hair. As for the consequences, I think they’re(parents) just not going to talk to you for like a day, but then after that, it’s going to be okay…no feelings hurt. :)

Just do it. Exert some independence. But be ready to deal with the consequences.

@jdogg

Personally, I don’t think it’s up to the parents to decide that their kid will “look ridiculous”, but that’s just me. @tinyfaery‘s suggesting is sounding more tempting now… :P

I think we had this discussion before about a man letting his son wear tight jeans.

well now that i’ve decided that i know what im going to do, i need your opinion, what happens when my red roots start to show? Any suggestions?

dye it red. :)

I believe that once at a certain age, you need to add some of your self into you. If you don’t do that, your going to be what everybody else wants, and that’s no fun. You’ve seen the commericials where the kids dress the other kid to fit in, have some independence. you sound like you need it. The question is are you ready?

yes!!!!

@jdogg then go for it!

Do what you need to do! I’ll be rooting for ya!

Roots are a maintenance issue. If you choose a more auburn brown, that is not quite as drastic a change from your red it will last longer.

I’m up for going against parents rules!! Do it!

I don’t like it when my parents make the decisions for me. I am 16. lol. Every teenager hates that. Let’s protest!

I think this is a good way for you to find out if you can bear to have your parents angry with you. Can you survive it? If so, it might be about time.

Your hair will grow back out. This is not a final decision of any kind. It’s reversible. It’s safe. It’s minor. In 5 years you will be a legal adult. By now you ought to be able to make free and independent decisions about your own appearance, whether your parents agree with them or not.

When my blond son decided he wanted to try black hair, I did his dye job. Watching it grow out was really fun. For a while it looked like his hair started half an inch away from his head. One of his teachers accused him of bleaching only the roots and gave him hell for having weird hair. I just laughed. Who in the world was hurt by that? No one at all! Kids have to experiment with their looks. I say go for it.

@Jeruba

Don’t you mean 2 years? I’d hate to think I have 3 more years instead of 12 days…

Yes, 18, age of majority. Sorry. In a few states it’s older.

I think you should sit down and talk to them. Tell them how you feel about how controlling they are. Ask them to be more leniant with their rules, and see if they are willing to compromise. Let them know that you respect their rules, and you will gain their trust, which will help if you want more freedom. Hope I helped!

your hair, your decision.

You didn’t say why except that you have red hair. Is it carrot orange-red or a deep mahogany: We have redheads in our family and the brighter it is the more teenagers seem to hate it. Mine was more brown with reddish hilights in the summer. At about your age I started using one of those shampoo in dyes in a dark brown. Of course it turned out badly. The hair color didn’t go with my skin tones so it looked kind of fake. Then it would fade after several shampoos and the peroxide in the dye left the hair with an orange tinge. The roots started to show within 2 weeks and when I tried a root touch up a kind of zebra effect appeared. During the surfin’ dude fad of the early ‘60’s my brother tried to get that sun-faded look by using peroxide and ended up an orangey pink.

If it is something more vital than not liking your hair color, you might want to talk about it with your parents or a counselor. If you are not fundamentally happy with being what other people want you to be, you need to talk about what is going on inside. Changing the outside is futile.

its orange like the red head from that 70’s show orange, ron weasley orange from harry potter.. and its just to try something new, i figured i might as well instead of getting piercing or tattoos which are permanent…

Usually when kids justify things by comparing what their peers are doing it is hardly that persuasive, but in this case I think you have a very valid point.

Regardless of when you talk to them about it, you should definitely let them know how minor this is compared to what some others your age (with extremely poor judgment) are doing such as drugs, booze, irresponsible sex just to name a few. If they think about it for a few moments they should come to their senses and realize how relatively benign your little quest for independence of your hair really.

Of course if you REALLY want to drive the point home before you actually do anything (depending on your acting skills) you could somberly sit them down for an “important” talk. With a fake tear in your eye, announce that you got a girl pregnant and don’t know what to do.

After they pick themselves off the floor and recover from the heart attack you can tell them the truth and why. All of a sudden a little dye job won’t seem like nearly as much of a big deal.

As others have pointed out, there is a huge difference between temporary (hair) and permanently life changing.

Hopefully thy will realize how fortunate they are to have a son like you. That is once they forgive you for scaring the cr*p outof them :)

i want my hair like this but like an inch or 2 shorter all around

http://www.hairstyles53.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/10/mens-shag-2.jpg

@Buttonstc
ahh, that was a fantastic post!! (everyones elsed post were great too thanx)!
i laughed SO hard, but I hope that they think like that, and they’ll understand my request…
+10 virtual lurve points!

Well, I can tell you that method works, I told my parents that I was pregnant. At that moment when they looked like they were going to kill me, I told them I just wanted to see how they reacted, and i got what i wanted.

Sometimes shock therapy really works :) :) :)

BTW I clicked on the link and saw the pic. Nice.

You can also point out to them that that’s the look (except a few inches shorter as you mentioned) that got the Beatles noticed. You could be I worse company.

My daughter has had her hair dyed every color under the sun. As a parent, my take on forms of self-expression through appearance is this: If you can fix it at the mall with a credit card, it’s not a problem. Hair can be cut, or dyed back.

At 16, you should have some say about your appearance. Perhaps start with your mom, and tell her you want to change your look. Ask for suggestions. Get her looking at pictures. Suggest blue hair, bleaching it blond, etc. Then say, “I wonder how I’d look with brown hair.”

Or you could do it the way they usually do it in my house—get a female friend to dye your hair, and get the haircut. Then show up at home with the new look. Things will blow up, and then they will get over it when they realize it’s just hair, and it’s not a blue mohawk.

We always saw hair as an easy “battle” for the kids to win. As people above have said, hair grows back. We were more adament about tatoos and piercings until the boys were older, but our older son went blond and then blue when he was fourteen and our younger son cut off all his beautiful curls, then had a Jewfro, has shaved his head…....

Hair is a form of self-expression and a good way to experiment with your individuality. I think once you are about 14, you should do pretty much what you want with it (short of shaving swastikas in it!)

Having said all that, only you know your parents and their probable reaction and only you can decide if it’s worth it to you. If you decide to do it, I would suggest telling them that’s what you are going to do rather than shocking them.

FUCK YOUR PARENTS!!!!

@stratman37 I think that would get him in a lot more trouble than the dyed hair.

I would not recommend lying to your parents even for the fun of shocking them, not after all you have done to earn and keep their trust. That’s the kind of thing people do in sitcoms, and it’s entertainment, not a model for behavior. As a parent I would be so disgusted with my offspring for pulling a stunt like that that I would wonder if he was even mine. This is not the way to move into an adult relationship with them.

she said no…she said as long as im under her roof, that she won’t let me, she says it won’t turn out right and ill look dumb and that it costs way too much money (even if I pay for it) i told her its just to try something new, and i thought that id ask her first, under respect and it is alot bette than gettng a permanent tattoo or doing drugs, but she still said no

@jdogg sorry seriously how much does dying your hair cost?

$12 max at the drug store.

Does your mother ever get a new “look’?

Do like my daughter did and do it your first weekend away at college. Only 2 more years.

you can do it yourself for $5 or just make a friend do it after school.

Parents are lame.

she does ALL the time and she spends $100 to get it done too…

That sucks, but I guess, if you don’t want to get in trouble, it is best that you respect their wishes. I mean yeah, it’s not fair, but neither is life. You will only find that out more when you are older. I seems as if your parents are being unfair, but I’m sure they have their reasons. That was why I was usually told no.