Why is it that when it rains, it pours?

Life just goes like that sometimes. Your best bet is to get some help, find someone to talk to, because it is obvious you are hurting and you need someone to turn to before you turn to something even worse.

Never be afraid to ask for help, none of us is as strong as we think we are. I was having a life like that, and I needed help. I went to a doctor, got some medication and I feel like I can face the world again.

We are never alone as long as we have someone willing to share the rough spots of life with, and there are a lot of people here that know exactly what you are talking about.

Everyone has their own obstacles in life. Some harder than the others. I was abused by my mother, sheltered and ignored while tons of other things as well. But I got through it. I worked so hard to rise above. You have to believe in yourself. You have to realize all of things that you’ve been through, make you who you are. They shape you and really bring out YOUR true colors.

You’re right, when it rains, it pours and so far you’re still standing which you should give yourself huge credit for. Facing things while feeling in it alone hurts deeply but gives your power over yourself and appreciation for the times you can choose to share your pains and burdens with others- like now with us. Cry as you feel it, crying is release and you shouldn’t have any hesitancy to do it and let yourself grieve, fear, hurt and then recover.

Well, I do have have a person to talk to, but I don’t want her knowing all of my business. I am a very private person, and when it comes to my emotions. I hate the fact that when I am walking down the street, I see many people with their mothers, and it really hurts. It’s almost like I am jealous.

@brinibear: the jealous feelings are normal too and that’s why a lot of us get wistful almost pained smiles to see happy familes or old couples together.

@hungryhungryhortence that does make sense, but it sucks, and hurts.

@brinibear: it does suck and hurt but I did learn after a bit this little doo dad- one hit can heal nine misses, I really do believe in it because it comes around again and again. The in between times will test your resiliency and help you grow as well as develop empathy and appreciation for life even more.

@hungryhungryhortence There is has been so much that I have learned during the last several months, but it’s still not enough to fill the abyss that sits in my heart. I have always been the strong one out of my family, and when I lost my mother, everything just hit hard. I was having massive panic attack, and still do sometimes, not as often, or severe. And to make matters worse, on my birthday, i called my mom’s old number forgetting that she’s no longer here. That hurt the most, I would have to say.

Ask Morton Salt…

@brinibear I know what you are dealing with, my wife’s Mom passed away six years ago. She was the most incredible person in the world. I loved her more than I love my own Mom. I even had the evil thought that my real Mom should die so that my MIL could still be with us that was hard to admit to.

I feel jealous when I see people hug their father, or when kids run up and hug their parents. When people start a conversation with “My Dad…” I feel hurt because my Dad died over 25 yrs ago. I chose not to have kids, and when I see children hug their Daddy and give him little affections, it makes me wonder if I was right to make that choice.

A lot of things in life hurt, and a lot more things in life don’t seem fair. I understand your pain, and trust me, you need to get help. Go to a psychologist, or have your doctor refer you to a psychiatrist. Most insurance covers it, and if it doesn’t the psychiatrist will work with you on a sliding scale. That’s what I did. there is a stigma in my family about head shrinkers, but when you get to the point where you want to kill yourself, well, then you realize the stigma is BS, you are talking about your own health here.

Ask your doctor about Xanax, it is fairly cheap as a generic, and it handles panic attacks VERY well.

We are all here for a reason, but no one can tellyou what that reason is. To me, the reason is to help those who need help and to give a smile to those that need a smile, and to spread laughter around because there is nothing more beautiful than the sound of genuine laughter. Laughter really is the healthiest thing a person can do.

Good luck and remember, many of the people here on Fluther have been there, and they will be here for you if you want.

I think when something gets us down, we tend to point out yet other things that go wrong with the rest of our life.
look at the other positives in your life. you may not be able to see them clearly, but they’re there.

I’ve lost 3 people within the last 3 months it is a horrible thing to go through and I am finding it difficult too. I keep telling my self that life has to go on I have a beautiful daughter to live for and my hubby too. I know my cousin seized life with both hands and wouldn’t want anybody wasting their life. Remember it takes noth sun and rain to make lifes rainbows.
xx

It certainly feels that way sometimes – maybe so that when it shines, it dazzles

Well, that is definately a way of looking at it.

because God thinks we’re thirsty…and he knows best