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Rayvin14's avatar

Should I wait for this guy?

Asked by Rayvin14 (351points) August 12th, 2009

I like this guy, he likes me too. He asked me to be his girlfriend, then broke up with me the next day. He said he wasn’t ready to have a girlfriend because he wasn’t over rachel (a girl who he had a long relationship with) but if she says he needs to move on then he is mine. I understood so im waiting. Should i move on, or wait?

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sandystrachan's avatar

Do what you want , you are the only one who can fully answer this dilemma.

theichibun's avatar

Move on. If someone breaks up with you that quickly then they either never wanted to go out with you or you were an acceptable backup plan.

Even if he decides to come back, it’s only because someone else doesn’t want him. So you’ve become a backup (which is nothing more than a booty call in training).

teh_kvlt_liberal's avatar

I say….
move on, girlfriend
PS are you free this saturday?

Rayvin14's avatar

@theichibun
I told him that it really hurt my feelings that i was like plan b. and he said thats not how it is. but it seems the way to me.

Rayvin14's avatar

@teh_kvlt_liberal
i think i should, and that i might.
and drink and a movie? lol

galileogirl's avatar

Ask Rachel. evidently she controls this situation

samanthabarnum's avatar

Move on. Anyone who leaves someone for you is more than likely to do it to you.

hug_of_war's avatar

Move on, never be the person someone’s settling for

Judi's avatar

You think so poorly of yourself that you are willing to play second fiddle? Work on loving and respecting yourself first. You will have so much more to bring to any relationship and you wouldn’t even consider being with someone who doesn’t think YOU are the most amazing girl in the world.

Rayvin14's avatar

@galileogirl
she’d probably get pissed, because what she and him talk about or decide is none of my business.
@hug_of_war
you are absolutelyn right. I’m not gonna be the person that somebody is settling for!
Thank you(:

Rayvin14's avatar

@Judi
I know, your right. I just thought he was worth waiting on. Guess not.

CMaz's avatar

Blow him off. Sounds like a child to me. Or a player.

marinelife's avatar

You are likely to remain a rebound girl. Move on with your life. If he comes around again, it was meant to be.

Tearofdeception's avatar

@Marina I agree with Marina : Coming out of a long relationship and unsure what he wants is definitely a rebound… I’m pretty sure you can find someone that has no love drama in his life! :D

Cheers, good luck.

cak's avatar

@Judi and @Marina got it. Move on!

xzlslazcarter's avatar

do think it’s derserve to wait for this person? if yes, just wait, if no, move on.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

He’s not ready to have a girlfriend, period. You don’t treat girls who like you that way.

MerMaidBlu's avatar

How long have you been waiting for him to move on? If it’s been a while I wouldn’t keep waiting. If he’s not ready to be with you now he shouldn’t be stringing you along. Other factors are how long was his relationship with Rachael? If it was a few years I would let him know that you’re willing to be his friend and wait to see how he reacts to that. This way you can still keep yourself available to him without making him feel pressured or causing yourself strain from waiting.

Haffi112's avatar

Maybe he’ll get back together with his girlfriend, you should never wait for people, that’s my policy.

Rayvin14's avatar

EVERYONE! We are not dating, we got into a huge argument over him using me, we dont talk anymore.

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