How should I handle my cousins very long when they're driving me crazy?

Are they living with you or just visiting?

@Judi They were suppose to visit us but so far they’ve been here for 1 year now,looking for a house and working.

Is there a big age difference? What is going on that is driving you so crazy?

The only thing I can suggest from what you have here, take small breaks from them – a self imposed time-out. Hang out by yourself, cool down and realize that there is very little you can do about the situation, so you have to make the best of the situation.

@irocktheworld One year or one month? I’m reading your question and a bit confused.

You have a limited amount of control in this situation. There are a few things that you can do:

1. Speak with your parents about why this hard for you. Try to remain calm. Organize what you are going to say first. Quote Oscar Wilde: “Guests, like fish, begin to stink after three days.“Tthat should get a laugh, anyway.

2. If it has been more than a week, you have a stronger case. Especially, it you tried to be polite at first.

3. Consider asking a frind to invite you to come to their beach or vacation house for a week or you go to your grandparents or somewhere else.

4. Keep your dog in your bedroom. If it hates your cousin, I winder if he has abused it or teased it.

5. Speak to your girl cousin. Say something like, “Look, this may not be our choice, but we are stuck with this visit. let’s make a pact to at least be civil to each other.:” She may surprise you.

@cak Year sorry :P Nope,we’re just 2 years apart.Well she won’t stop being a bitch and she’s driving me crazy! One day we’re just hanging out and the next she goes wild at me for no reason at all! She makes fun of me and she fights over stupid things that she starts! A couple days ago we were in the car and she insulted me for who I got in my class I think and says more crap so I got really mad and asked her when she’ll get of of our house and we starting yelling and fighting in the car and it was crazy! She likes showing bad sides of me and she’s good at it too.
Thanks,I’ll try my best to get away from them like go shopping or to the park with my dogs.:)

@irocktheworld I know she is annoying, but take a deep breath here and put yourself in her shoes for a minute. Imagine that your day or dad and mom lost their jobs. You had to go live with someone else. Maybe it was far away, and you had to change schools. You didn’t really feel like it was your house.

If you can image what that would feel like, you can probably see that you might be moody in that situation too.

Lay that out for your cousin. Tell her you are sorry that has happened to her life. Say something like, “We don’t have to be best friends, but we’re family. We can try to make this difficult situation better for each other.”

@Marina Thanks I’ll try to talk to them.:) I’m trying to get together with my friends and go places and I hope it’s working.Ok I’ll do that and yes my cousin has kicked him and teased him alot and we are trying to stop that.Your right! I’ll try my best but not right now,I’m still really mad.
All right…I’m taking deep breaths and thinking..yeah..that would affect me alot and make me wonder.Ok I’ll try,but it might be hard for me to be nice to her and say that but I’ll try :)

@irocktheworld – Okay, I think also – and I’m not excusing her behavior – it may be time to put the shoe on the other foot. Basically, they are living with you guys – so something has caused that to happen and it may have stirred anxiety in her. It doesn’t mean she should get to be a major butt in the process, but it may take some time to work things out with her. I do think @Marina has a point, some sort of easy truce with her and try to just at least be civil.

There are a lot of raw emotions in her family, I’m sure. Uncertainty about financial issues and the future don’t just stress a parent, they do extend to children, as well. Unfortunately, that usually comes out in forms of withdrawal or acting out – poor behavior. You just might be catching the brunt of it. Ask her to go for a walk, talk to her. Let her know that you know things have been rough between the two of you, but you would really like it if you guys can find a way to work things out. Also, both parties need to understand when tensions start rising, it’s time to back off. Space is something that you probably don’t have enough of, in your house, and living with extra people just makes things a bit harder.

The parents need to be involved about the dog. If he is abusive towards the dog – that needs to be dealt with, immediately. You stand in and protect the dog, but turn the problem over to the adults.

It’s a great time to learn that trick…deep breaths, count to ten…twenty or 100…whatever works! Patience isn’t going to be what is needed and it’s not always going to be easy.

I agree that she is probably upset about the things going on with her parents. I imagine the reason she directs so much of it toward you is because you react. She wants some way to release her pent up anxiety and frustration. Arguing with you does that for her.

Talk to your folks. Have them address this with the outlaws.

@irocktheworld Good luck. Keep us posted on how things go. You can always vent on this site!

@cak Thanks cak! :) I’ll try to talk to her but I don’t think I can do it right away since I need a little bit time to think things through.Yes,we don’t have much space and they just make it harder and harder but I’ve tried asking my parents when they’d leave and my dad always used to say when they find a house and I ask when that will be! It’s kinda wierd since my mom hates my cousin since she loves dogs like me and seeing them abused gets her mad so she wants to throw a party at the end of this but we still don’t know.We don’t really get along since they’ve been living for a long time but my dad doesnt know what to do. I’ll do that :)

@Marina Thanks for helping me! I’ll deffinitely keep you guys posted and thanks so much for taking your time to help me. :D