Are you the only person who can make things happen?

Remind yourself, that no matter how multi-talented anyone is, no one is irreplaceable. If you vanished in the blink of an eye, would people mourn? Yes. Would people miss your jerked pork? Yes. Would the world continue to spin?

You get to decide about when and how and why to take breaks. You decide how heavy the plate is, you decide to work on feeling unnecessary guilt.

I feel a fit of psychoanalysis coming on. Are there unresolved issues (with parents) floating around?

Go lie in a hammock with an iced tea, for f#@k’s sake.

thanks gail. yeah, you’re right.

Milo here: I’m a lot smarter than Gail normally, but this time I agree with her. I feel NO guilt when I lie around, sun, roll in catnip, and generally fritter the day away.

Maybe talking to someone objective and trained will help you dump unnecessary baggage.

I’m a mom to two teenagers and a full-time caregiver to my disabled husband. Yes, I feel as if I am the only one who can get things done in our house, but if I suddenly were to vanish I suspect folks will survive. My daughter would probably have to take on a fair amount of responsibility, and most likely the state would step in because of my son’s history.

OTOH, I’m a mom. Let me enjoy my guilt.

I struggled with this for much of my working life. it was very hard for me to prioritize myself and my needs before those of everyone and everything else.

It was very hard for me to say the N word.

My life is so much better with less in it.

It’s very difficult to let go of things and delegate them to someone else when you are used to being the do-it-all kind of person. However it can be done. Don’t feel guilty. Enjoy your day in the sun, and if you find yourself beginning to feel the pangs of guilt, tell yourself you are “re-charging” so you can do other things more effectively!!