Social Question

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

Have you ever felt that your personality doesn't match your physical features?

Asked by NaturalMineralWater (11308points) August 15th, 2009

Some days I feel like an indomitable machine, yet I still look like me. Other days I feel like a sordid bloke, yet I still look like me. It’s strange perhaps, but I’ve often felt that my personality didn’t match my physical features. Have you ever felt this?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

38 Answers

gailcalled's avatar

What would you like to morph into?

wundayatta's avatar

Never occurred to me. I suppose you’re talking about how ax murderers must have this bloodthirsty look on their faces, instead of looking like the clean cut boy next door. Or how the wild girl is covered with tattoos and piercings, instead of looking like the girl next door.

My personality matches my features because there really is no other choice. I just look like your ordinary joe. Maybe a little more unkempt and less well muscled, but that’s what I look like, and I can’t say my personality is very good looking or well muscled either.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

Constantly, I feel like I should look like this and usually I wonder if people see me as this when they look at me.

marinelife's avatar

Sometimes.

eponymoushipster's avatar

Yeah, sometimes i feel people think i’m handsome, but really i’m dashing. it’s a rough life.~

casheroo's avatar

I used to hate how people thought of me like a “girl next door,” because of my long blonde hair, and blue eyes…constantly being asked which country I’m from. It got annoying. I think that’s why I rebelled, and cut off all my hair, dyed it all sorts of crazy colors. I’m not sure if that’s why the tattoos and piercings started…I think of them as part of me, and my personality so I guess that is what helped morph me into what I viewed myself as.

But, I also feel, given the moment…I can morph into the person I want to be. I can be very humble and wholsome for interviews, and just day to day…but I also feel I can be “mysterious” and sexy, just by changing me personality at the moment.

I can’t say exactly how people view me. Everyone sees different things.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@eponymoushipster how dashing can a monkey be with his head stuck in a sock?

eponymoushipster's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra that’s part of what gives me my roguish charm…

casheroo's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra It said your first picture was “forbidden” I’m now curious.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@casheroo not forbidden in my browser.

eponymoushipster's avatar

forbidden in mine, too. is it a site you have to login to epz?

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@eponymoushipster and @casheroo okay, how about this

Nope, I simply googled the first one.

eponymoushipster's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra a bald man? you opted for a bald man?!

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@eponymoushipster I’ve been bald for 13 years, and I see myself as bald, but sometimes, I’ll see my reflection when I am being unself conscious, and it scares me, much like that second picture would scare small children.

eponymoushipster's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra oh. way to dream big, dude…~ hehe

Facade's avatar

I feel much taller than I am. I’m 5’1. I feel about 5’9
and my voice doesn’t really reflect my personality.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

Sometimes. Mostly because people make me believe that I should act like an airhead. I couldn’t tell you how many times people have assumed I’m stupid just because of how I look.

drdoombot's avatar

I have the kind of face that attracts women (no joke). The weird part is, once people get to know me, they find I don’t have the charisma or suaveness I seem like I should have. In fact, I’m a total geek. As a teenager, I was the “cute guy” of my group of friends, yet they all had more girlfriends that I ever did. One of my ex’s recently described me as a “sexy nerd.”

So yeah, I don’t think my personality matches my looks at all. I guess there’s a lot to be said about how personality can take your farther with the opposite sex than good looks can.

bcstrummer's avatar

Yea, I’m a skinny athlete in a fat kids body

augustlan's avatar

I look like a lady (well, like a tomboy-lady), and cuss like a sailor. Also, I don’t look like a smoker, but I am. In the past I have: been called beautiful, but was not an airhead as expected; looked wholesome and athletic, but really wasn’t either thing. When I was a wild, sexually free teenager, I could fool all of my boyfriends parents into seeing me as the girl next door.

tiffyandthewall's avatar

@daloon i think your personality is good-looking!

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@augustlan hun, you could live next door to me anyday!, I like a woman who can cuss a blue streak and look sexy doing it.

Sarcasm's avatar

I have a goatee that seems to exude badassitute.
I certainly am not nearly as badass as it leads people to believe.

I wear glasses to try to balance it out don’t tell that to my optometrist though

Jack79's avatar

I feel a lot more athletic than I look. And I am actually extremely fit, back from the days when I was an athlete. I sometimes forget that my body has changed, so I keep jogging up mountains or jumping off walls just like the old days. And I can still do most of the old dance moves, which I guess looks funny when you’ve got a belly permanently attached to the rest of your body.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

I’ve been told I look “too sexy to be so nice” and “You’re so hot—I thought you would be a huge bitch”. I’m not sure if it’s a compliment or an insult.

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

@La_chica_gomela It’s a compliment dear. A good one at that.

noodle_poodle's avatar

rofl yes i am much thinner in my mind

Facade's avatar

@noodle_poodle reminded me that I have a nicer ass in my mind haha

StephK's avatar

I feel a lot more put together and business-like than my features let on. I’m constantly being told I’m ‘cute’ and ‘adorable’. This past summer my job consisted of working with children ages 6 – 17 and I was constantly being mistaken for one of our clients. My general aura seems to be that of a teenager.
In reality I’m very put together, very organized, and not kid-like at all (unless you count a fondness for Disney movies). The right clothes are really an asset in business situations where I don’t get to say much/present that side of myself—if I don’t dress professionally, I tend to get written off by some many.

Not saying this is a horrible thing to deal with: I’m sure I’ll be thanking my lucky stars when I’m 80 and have the face of a 40 year-old.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

@Facade: Me too!!! When I was more in shape, I had an amazing ass, and since it’s one of those body parts I don’t see that often, that’s how it still exists in my mind. It’s kind of sad. Ugh, I’m getting so flabby, I need to hit the gym now. Please excuse me. Byes, everyone.

Facade's avatar

@La_chica_gomela Same here. exercise extra for me!!

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@Facade, for some reason, I picture you with a very sultry and smoky voice, something that sounds sexy even just reading from the phone book. =)

Facade's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra That’s the voice I wish I had! My voice is extremely feminine and when I get excited (which is often) it tends to jump the octave lol

wundayatta's avatar

For a long time, I used the handle “Bad Ass.” Wishful thinking, of course, but then, that’s what this thread is about. See, I couldn’t even spell it right. It probably should be BadAss, or Badass! Of course, it’s not that I get into trouble all the time, but when I do get into trouble, I hurt (unintentionally) really nice people (not the kind who like bad asses).

Jack79's avatar

…yeah, it should actually be “bad arse”. “Ass” means “donkey” :P

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

I echo @Facade: I’m 5’2” but feel as though I should be about 5’9” and I hate my voice, that it doesn’t hold steady, that it often sounds like a squashed frog, that I stumble through my words and get tongue tied at so many of the right/wrong times.

wundayatta's avatar

@hungryhungryhortence Lovely images. Now I want to learn how to sound like a squashed frog. I think it could be a good talent to have, especially in certain circumstances. Especially when I forget what I’m trying to say. I think you should consider your ability a useful talent—especially when you stumble over your tongue. I think it would get you out of a few tight spots.

kleinzeit's avatar

I’m fat and people expect me to be jolly and eat pies all the time. So I guess over the years I’ve developed an extrovert personality to fit my body type and peoples expectations of that. The reality is that I crave quiet and calm and am happiest at home pottering round the house or reading.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.
Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther