Do you think there is certain age that a women hits that makes her less attractive for marriage?

http://weddingstraighttalk.wordpress.com/2009/08/17/too-old-to-get-married/

Of course not. What the hell?

I pressed “submit” too quickly. That should have read:

Of course not. What the hell? Do your love receptors turn off after a certain age?

No way… if marriage is your thing, I don’t think it matters if you decide to do when your eighty. The union is between the two people who decide to enter into it. Personally, the reason why I think less woman marry when they’re older is not because they are less attractive for marriage. Sometimes the desire to marry dwindles, especially since most women in that age group are more independent, especially financially. Marriage just isn’t what it was back in the day.

How silly! One female friend of mine married for the very first time at the age of 56. Another eloped to New Orleans on her 80th birthday to marry for the very first time. I married at age 35 for the first time.

Since women live longer than men, by the time you get to your 70’s and 80’s there really aren’t enough men to go around, single or otherwise, but before then anything is possible if you are dealing with adults and not teenagers in adult bodies.

No!

I feel like these days it is more appealing to marry later in life.

@IBERnineD here I was thinking we had something special

D:

No. I don’t think age is a factor when it comes to wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone.

Oh @Grisaille We do, but I was implying that some people aren’t as lucky as we are ;)

hmph

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good save

don’t test me, you should get used to the fact that I am always right…sometimes…

pfft

I’m still trying to get used to your cooking

whoa

Don’t bring my cooking into this! I slave away in the kitchen all day so you can have a home cooked meal!

meal, is that what you’re calling it?

i might as well be chewin’ on tree bark.

I don’t think so, and the article that top link is referring to is from 1986. Things have changed. Some men are into ‘cougars’ now.

Not at all. I personally love how women look in their prime, and I’m sure most men do as well.

@Grisaille okay now that’s just rude :\ unless you can make it up to me you are sleeping on the couch tonight buddy

fun fact:

us men enjoy sleeping on the couch. it’s like camping.

Okay, okay. I’m sorry. I’ll spend some time with your mother tomorrow. is that better?

okay that made me laugh, and visiting my mother? You aren’t very good at this marriage thing are you?

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hey, you chose me, toots.

never said i was good with this whole relationship thing.

what has happened to the man I married??!?!

IF YOU WOULD JUST GET OFF MY BACK EVERY NOW AND AGAIN

I’m sorry baby, I didn’t mean that.

I don’t even know what to say to you right now :(

D:

baby don’t go

okay I’m good now, being dramatic isn’t fun anyway :D

I didn’t have any problem finding possible partners, but that was a long time ago.

word.

I’m fucking hungry. later.

I’m sorry, but I have to ask this. Is this a serious question, or a way to get readers for your blog?

Meh. Even if it was, it started a convo. Same difference as linking to Huffington Post or something, I guess.

Yes it did, but I was wondering because the guidelines talk say self promotional posts are moderated/prohibited.

Yeah…

Ah well. Doesn’t bother me.

No. I think that used to be a more common myth when divorce was frowned on but in the past decades, I’ve seen more people over 30 marrying and remarrying than under 30’s.

@notabridesmaid Welcome to Fluther. Lurve.

I married my wife when she was 29. She was the most beautiful bride I ever saw.

awww :)

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only in some countries

even though I’ll just be redundant here… no… if she can still love, she can still get married.

Honestly, I think the reason women didn’t get married often past a certain age was a result of the more rigid approach to marriage. It used to be people got married in their late teens or early twenties, period. If you weren’t married by then you wouldn’t have much of a choice in potential marriage partners since they were already married off. Divorce was less accepted then so the men that would be in an unmarried woman’s age bracket would either be married off or dedicated bachelors for the most part.

Some of those married guys might be up for an affair but that sure doesn’t make then marriage material. There just weren’t many viable mates for unmarried women out of their twenties.

With peoples attitudes towards marriage shifting this is less the case now.

@scamp To answer your question..Both. I actually wrote that post and this question because I have a cousin who is now in her mid thirties and my family has been giving her a hard time thinking she’s never gonna get married. There is a theme in my family of unmarried women. I think they assume the same will happen to her. Actually none of the women in my family are married with the exception of my mother and grandmother. So I honestly did want some opinions on that. But I didn’t know that self promoting stuff that you mentioned. I’ll keep it in mind. Thanks

@filmfann Too Sweet!

@notabridesmaid thanks so much for clarifying, and Welcome to Fluther. In the past, we’ve had people join, post a link to their blogs/sites, and never bothering to post again. So that’s why I felt the need to ask. Sorry, but I didn’t want to waste an answer on a spammer, I hope you understand

I can see why some people may think that the ‘bloom is off the rose” after a certain age, but I don’t think it means that a future marriage is completely out of the question. Lot’s of people get married later in life, and bring with them much more maturity and life experience that can serve to enhance the relationship. People who marry later seem to have a better idea of what they want from life and life partners, so there is a less of a chance of “growing apart”.

I did both. I married at age 22, and stayed married for 22 years. I was blind to real life the first time, and entered that marriage starry eyed thinking the world was our oyster. I grew and matured some here may argue that pint, ha ha! and my ex didn’t.

When I hit my early 40’s, I realized that the marriage I was in wasn’t a good one, and it was holding me back, so I chose to end it and start over. I have grown much more in the years since my marriage than I have during it, and was able to find a wonderful man who has it all together, and wants the same times I do. If we had met in our younger years, we probably would not be togehter, but now we compliment each other’s goals nicely.

So I guess my answer is not only can people find love/marriage at an older age, for some it is actually preferable. Does you cousin want to get married, or is she just under pressure from your family? I think this is an individual choice, and family should stay out of it to be quite honest with you.

@scamp She actually does want to be married at some point. It just has not happened for whatever reason. So of course I find myself wondering the same because I married at 18 and divorced at 22 (just turned 26) everyone says not to get married young but I honestly knew the level of commitment that I was getting into but long story short the relationship became a bit abusive. I’ll cut that story short so I don’t get all Myspace and put my whole life story out there but really would like to be married and have children eventually. So hopefully there isnt some weird “never get married” karma on my family.

@ 22 I thought I knew what I was getting into also, but found out I was sadly mistaken. Sometimes these things are revealed to us with time and maturity. sorry you experience abuse. I did too at one point in my life, and it certainly colors all relationships afterward, sometimes for the better, but not always.

It seems like we aren’t able to find a partner if we look to hard. It’s amazing how these things have a way of working themselves out. You both have plenty of time left to find your life partners. Don’t fret. He is out there somewhere. There really is someone for everyone! :)

Why did I jump into this conversation with this answer. It’s a two part answer. People get married at ages. And generally as people, it’s great to be young. America picked out a good number with 18, I guess, though, nowadays, I think it helps to maybe be a little older.

Until she hits the age of 16 she probably isn;t a good choice, although I knew a 13 yo girl who married a 16 yo-but that was in E. Texas and she wasn’t even pregnant!

If a guy wants children. probably 60 is the cut-off. Sure that Italian 60+yo went AI but nobody wanted to marry her. And she died and left her 3 yo twins orphans-another reason not to marry a woman with a very old biological hourglass.

Poor women seem to have a shorter shelf life than rich ones’

And a VERY rich. vain and foolish woman is never too old to attract a man. Anyway that;s what Klaus von Bulow told me.

Some women, like my sister, have remained unmarried because same-sex marriage isn’t allowed where she lives. I would suspect that at least some of those maiden aunts of yesterday remained unmarried because men didn’t interest them.

Uh, I strictly remember writing “that” not “this” hmmmm

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