Well, @XOIIO, I’m glad to hear the answers to your questions, because I was worried about something that seems not to be the case. If you have mild aspergers, then you must have been diagnosed. Are you being treated in any way? Do you see a doctor as needed? Have you researched your condition to learn about it?
I have a cousin once removed who also has Aspergers. My cousin told me that he has been taking various classes aimed at helping people with Aspergers socialize more effectively. You probably have quite a few talents, or at least, something that really interests you, and perhaps you focus a lot on certain topics?
Folks, Learning tact is usually quite difficult for people with Aspergers. I don’t know what our friend, @XOIIO‘s situation is, but I think we would do well to learn more about it before we come down so hard on him. Asperger’s symptoms include difficulties with relationships and not being so good at empathy. They often say things straight out, calling them as they see them, and can have a difficult time seeing how they come across. It is something they can learn, but they have to focus intensely on it. There are classes for them. Things that most of us think are obvious are not at all obvious to people with Aspergers.
Anyway, back to @XOIIO. The things you describe are probably indicative of where your talents lie. You probably do have a greater facility with three-dimensional imagination than most people do. You probably do have a greater facility to use logic, however, like Dr. Spock, that may make you overlook the role that emotions play in other people’s lives.
So, for example, most people are brought up to be modest about things like intelligence. We are trained not to brag about it. Merely pointing it out can appear to be bragging to others. One way to avoid this kind of problem is to simply keep yourself to the facts, instead of adding normative terms such as “better” or “higher.” You think fast. You can visualize in three dimensions. Is this rare? Is there anyone here who is really, really good at that?
These are ways you can ask the things you want to know about without punching everyone’s buttons. (Does that metaphor mean anything to you?)
A lot of people here appear to think you are full of yourself—i.e., the Lake Wobegon Effect. However, since you seem to also be able to speak clearly about your weaknesses, such as assessing yourself as probably never having a girlfriend, I’m more inclined to believe that your way of talking about yourself is based on your observations, and not because you need to make yourself feel better about yourself.
I’m no expert on Aspergers. All I know is what I’ve picked up over the years—perhaps an article or two. So I could be very wrong in the way I’ve characterized it. Besides, not everyone with the condition has the same characteristics.
As @gailcalled said, finding support groups or classes to help you learn social skills. Learning about your weaknesses is just as important as understanding your strengths. You can fix weaknesses, such as being clueless socially speaking. You can also learn how to focus on your strengths, and how to employ them usefully. Being good at envisioning things three-dimensionally can be helpful in many professions—architecture, engineering, chemistry, physics, etc. Similarly, a need for symmetry and identifiable patterns (such as the ones in your lego structures) could be useful in design or art (especially computer art).
I’m not a great believer in the idea that perfect spelling is a correlate of intelligence. My son is highly intelligent and he hates reading and writing. But he thinks about philosophical and cosmological things in a way that I don’t think most nine year olds do. People have talents in some areas and not in others, and poor spelling doesn’t mean someone is stupid.
However, @XOIIO, in online forums (fora?) such as this, people do appreciate “proper” spelling perhaps more than in most places online. It just makes it easier for people to understand what you’re talking about. I find that using Mozilla Firefox as my browser, or Google Chrome are much better because they immediately underline words they don’t recognize. It’s easy to go back and check to see if those words are spelled “properly” if they are underlined in red.
Personally, I thank you for an interesting question.