How do you take rejection?

Rejection gets you one step closer to ‘The One’.

Everyone gets rejected from time to time, just consider it THEIR loss and move on. The right one is out there, it just takes time to find them.

I’m a coward I try never to put myself in a situation that might lead to rejection. I know this way of living will make me miss a lot of oppurtunites but I’m scared of it. <————-(It being rejection)

I stretch out my left arm in front of me, point at my adversary and shout.
OBJECTION!!

@MrKnowItAll Could be….
@DrBill That’s very true…good advice! :)
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@ragingloli Haha :P

I really only got rejected once by someone I thought would not. Then I found out who she was seeing and the rejection didn’t hurt AT ALL.

I usually take it with a grain of salt with the exception of some sudden disappointment. That quickly disperses when you realize that the sky has not yet fallen and the world still exists just the way it was before you got rejected.

Why? You’re not leaving me, are you?

I sulk for a while and then get over it.

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Removed? You bastards! I’ll kill you!

I’m not sure I’ve ever been “rejected” but I guess it would hurt for a while, then you just get over it, move on to someone who is actually worthy of you.

@filmfann Lurve for having a South Park avatar and using the phrase “You bastards!”

i dont recall being rejected by an actual person, but i didnt score high enough to get in the regional chorus one year in high school. I didnt really care because I knew that I hadnt done my best due to being sick.

Try occupying your mind with other things if u get rejected.

I don’t deal with rejection well, but fortunately, I have friends in the landfill business, so those that reject me never get to do it again. :^)

I take rejection very badly. When it has happened to me, I consider it very personal. I really like to be accepted, and when I’m not, I am convinced I must have somehow done something wrong, and I feel a need to find out what.

Unfortunately, this is also coupled with a stubborn belief that I am usually right, and the two sides are at a constant battle.

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@YARNLADY: Would it upset you to say that I have noticed? Perhaps when you get to be my age, you’ll learn how to laugh at some things.

Well, I have little confidence to start with, so I don’t put myself in situations where I’ll be rejected. That’s how scared of it I am. If I was rejected, it would shatter my confidence even more.

Poorly! And very personally.

I feel humiliated and awkward. Whenever I venture timidly forth and get rejected my reaction is similar to coming in contact with a stove burner—I jerk back and withdraw to lick my wounds.

But then after a few hours I’m okay. I still think about it, but after a meal & a good night’s sleep you just keep on plodding on in the world. It takes a few days for my confidence to ramp up back to normal, but I’m never entirely crushed. I’m just temporarily dented. ;)

Ha ha, @filmfann.

@gailcalled It would suprise me if people didn’t notice. I have a real (OCD?) need to be right. I have several more months before I reach your age, so we can always hope. I have a very limited sense of humor

Badly. I get nauseous, go quiet, start closing up and if I can, I get away from the humiliation. If I can’t physically remove myself then my brain will want to shut down by going to sleep.

It’s quite painful, so much so that it can keep me from moving on to the next guy. It;s as of I lose part of who I am, but eventualy I recover.

lol @filmfann

Perhaps the worst time of my life happened when my first love broke up with me. There wasn’t a day the next couple of years that I didn’t think about her at least once. Each time, it was like an arrow through my heart, and not one of cupid’s, either.

Gradually, as time passed, it hurt less, and maybe a couple of years after that, I stopped thinking about it, and even when I did think about it, it no longer had that power.

I’m not sure how many other times I was turned down. I don’t know how many women have refused various invitations. Mostly I didn’t even bother to ask after a while. I’d wait until I knew someone fairly well, already, and we’d been doing a lot of (non-date) stuff together.

I suppose the lemonade side of it is that I learned a lot about what people want in a relationship. I learned a lot about a lot of things through rejection—how to find a job, how to sell ideas, how to fix a relationship, how to beat even my own rejection of myself.

I certainly did lose confidence in myself. It was quite depressing. Hard to do things—get out of the house, etc. It made me feel like I really didn’t have any friends at all. So yeah, if you love someone, and they dump you, it hurts like the proverbial hell. I don’t recommend it. I also find it a little disturbing and difficult to believe that someone has never felt rejection. Yikes!

@filmfann Lmao

I take it pretty badly. It’s always been what I’ve gotten and it felt worse every time because it seemed to renew my belief that I was completely unattractive.

But lately I’ve understood more of myself and what people look for, and I know I just wasn’t their “type”. Plus the way I act….well, heh.

Not well.

Better than I used to, but I have a ways to go.

Of course it’s going to sting, especially if you’ve placed a lot of expectations on the situation you wanted to happen. People make their own choices for whatever reason and it’s not about you. It’s about them. I’m going to keep reminding myself of that until it’s automatic.

Have a good cry, and then remember to breathe. Deeply. A lot. And get back out there.

With a stiff upper lip and a side order of booze.

When I was a kid, rejection hurt so much that I went to extremes to avoid putting myself in any sort of position to be rejected. However, by the time high school rolled around I would go home and mutter to myself for a while and then decide it was their loss.

As an adult I got into theater, which is a wonderful mechanism for learning how to cope with rejection. I auditioned for about five parts before I actually got one (although I started getting asked to help as crew). Now if I don’t get a part I simply say, “Their loss! When’s the next audition?”

It gets easier as you get more experience.

I go over it after half year…...................................................