Why are we consumed by appearances?

Well, in this scenario the answer would be because some people are shallow. Unless of course friend B dislikes friend A independently of his snobbery towards her.

sex sells, and no one want to have sex with an ugly person.

@Darbio16 – ouch! First of all, the guy friend is gay. Second, is spending really that tied to sex?

The guy friend is in debt. The girl friend has money in savings, and is working towards buying her first home. Isn’t financial stabilty most important???

In that scenario both people are wrong. Who gives a damn where people shop.
But as far as physical appearances go, those are important :)

the two people value different things – i bet friend B doesn’t care about appearances as much as friend A does

I was speaking in generalities, not that your friends wanna pwn each other in the bedroom. And everything is sales if you break it down. you can sell products, services or ideas. people want pretty. Not pretty doesn’t sell as well unfortunately. the ouch is society, not my mindset. I’m just letting you know that’s how the world works. Blind people are the only ones without that bias. No matter how nice you think you are, you probably practice a little more favoritism towards the pretty.

Your gay friend is probably mad that his parents bought his cloths at walmart growing up and the kids at school made fun of him. Or maybe a walmart greeter touched him in his pee-pee place as a youth and that is the source of his anger and sexual preference. Either way, he sounds like a prick and you should tell him so. You’re not much of a friend of the other one if you don’t.

The “we” in your question is presumptious. Your friend either has no fashion sense, or is insecure about his taste in clothing.

@Darbio16 – In fact, I do find myself embarrassed sometimes with friend B. She is not an individual whom you can take with you to certian stores. She critisizes all uneccesary purchases. The boyfriend bought a diaper genie for convenience, whereas she uses a seperate kitchen trash can for her child’s diapers – her home stinks because of this, but she saved money. There is absolutely no taking her into higher-end stores like Macey’s – it’s all over-priced (let’s be honest – it really is over-priced). Why can’t she let it go that sometimes people want to spend the extra money for convenience or finer things?

Friend A is not how you describe him. He had decent things growing up – not the nicest home or things, but better than hand-me-downs. He is actually a very down-to-earth guy other than his spending habits.

Yes – I am guilty myself of considering appearances – mostly because I don’t want to be viewed poorly. If I have money in savings and in very little debt, why is it that I am viewed poorly because of the purchases that I make?

Even more, if I have the same bedroom set as a friend but paid half the price due to GOB sales, why is my furniture not as good as the person who paid full price?

@Darbio16 Yeah, when people piss us off, let’s take a stab at their sexual orientation!

@avergerscion, your furniture is better than the person who paid full price. You could own two sets to their one, if you chose to.

Only an idiot pays retail; there’s always a deal to be had. When I married my husband, his mother told him never to buy things on sale because there was something “wrong” with it. After he bought a Brooks Brother shirt at closeout for $9 (small imperfection on shirt tail) instead of $80, he changed his mind pretty quickly.

@Darbio16 Your comment is a personal attack and should be removed. Personal attacks are not allowed on this site.

you didn’t even answer the girls question, you are here just to insert gay propaganda. A rally in CA is a more suitable place. Answer the woman’s question or just take your rhetoric elsewhere.

@Dominicx I’m not taking any sides here, but I don’t think that was a personal attack. He’s still arguing, just sounds like an interesting debate- that’s all.

@DominicX That’s not a personal attack. That’s called slang.

@NowWhat

No, it’s called an offensive term.

People – please! This is not about sexual orientation! I understand the thoughts and concerns from borth ends, but let’s assume friend A is heterosexual as it is irrelivant :o)

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Thank you moderator. Please check to see if DominicX is allowed to use the “N” word, too.

@avengerscion

The answer to the question is that it’s human nature to want to look good in front of other people and impress them. We all have pride and we all (some more than others) want to show that we’re doing well or that we’re “great” as it were. Some people are simply embarrassed by the idea of looking like they have less money, especially in a society where money determines a lot of what we have and what we do. Some people take it too far to the point where they’re shallow and put appearances and how they present themselves above who they are as a person.

Because appearance is the best way to determine a suitable mate, biologically speaking.

Suitable mates arent likely to be found at Wal Mart.

May I say that “we” (whoever that is) are not consumed by appearance, but obsessed. I am obsessed with proper word useage. Maybe an innoculation will be discovered soon.

@Noel_S_Leitmotiv, you must not shop at the Walmart I shop at… There are a lot of beautiful women who marry butt ugly men for their money, and there’s no guarantee their offspring will look like their mother.