How can I know for sure if I'm in love with somebody or not?

law of averages. :)

Weird? How weird is weird? It’s very vague. Does your stomach churn and you start breathing faster? Does your heart start to pump quicker? Do you find that you just can’t take your eyes off her?

If yes to the above, you’ve probably got a crush on her.

But judging by the details which you have given, I find it doubtful for you to be feeling love for her. You’ve only felt these feelings since yesterday, plus it doesn’t seem as if you two are that close (are you?).

But you do need to fill us in with more info man.

No, you’re 14.

You are not in love with someone you just met yesterday. You are attracted to her. (That’s the feel weird part.) You may possibly become infatuated with her,

At your age, these things tend to burn hot and quick. Relax and enjoy.

If you like her, give her a call.

This is the fun and the miserable part of being a teenager all rolled in one!

Oh yeah.. He met her yesterday.. I thought I missed something…

No. You aren’t in love. You’re attracted to her.

When you don’t have to ask this question. But this doesn’t sound like it to me.

Here are the stages: Like, Attracted, Infatuated, Love

In order to be in love with someone, you have to know them really, really well. Attracted happens when you meet someone, and want to spend more time with them. Infatuated is when you become obsessed with someone and think you’re in love, but really, you’re not.

It’s important to know that there are emotions between Like and Love. If you learn to identify infatuated as part of your emotional scale, you will keep yourself out of a lot of trouble in the future.

It’s a little soon

@PandoraBoxx : the word ‘stages’ implies to me proceeding in a typical order from one to another, but i can imagine, say, physically desiring and being infatuated with someone i don’t really like (for example, i’ve heard of lots of cases of couples who had to divorce because they couldn’t live contentedly with each other, yet nonetheless can’t resist having sex with each other) or loving someone without being attracted to them (for example, my children). To me, desire is one thing, and love—treating the other person’s happiness and well-being as being just as important to me as my own—is something entirely different. Desire wishes to possess, love makes an effort to benefit. For us Christians, marriage ideally includes both love and desire. Another Christian way of expressing love is in terms of the second Great Commandment: “and you shall love your neighbor as much as you love yourself.” For us mere humans, fully loving even just a few other people in that way is difficult, yet truly Christlike love embraces all God’s other children.

But i agree with what i think @Marina was saying about the “funny feeling” —that’s the first stirrings of infatuation, but, after a sufficient period of friendship, it might turn into faithful love.

I think that “true love” originally meant “faithful love” (as in “be true to your school’) rather than “real love” (as in “the whole truth and nothing but”), but nowadays it’s used more often in the latter way.

@LexWordsmith, no order intended. Mutually exclusive states of emotion. Thanks for pointing that out.

You’re in lust. Love happens after knowing someone for awhile and having time to develop those “I can’t live without you” feelings.

If you have to ask then your not. All in all though do not worry about it, you do not always have to be in love in order to be with someone. Live in the moment get to know them even more enjoy your time with them. If you feel strongly enough to say ‘I love you’ then say it. And hey your young, there will be many loves.

It means you like her, you can’t love someone you don’t even or barely know.

naw, this is all wrong ^ law of averages, yo!

for example, let’s say 14 year old boy dies tomorrow after having posted this thread.. in his limited experience, i think very clearly he reached that which could only be described as “love at first sight.”

if he lives on to have such feelings about another young lady, let’s say they are twice as strong AND coupled with a 6 month relationship! Then he would be able to look back in hindsight, clearly, and conclude that this instance today was simply infatuation compared to the great thing he’s experiencing with this 6 month keeper.

If he dumps this broad after 6 months and moves on to have 32 other women in his lifetime and none of them match up to this 6 month feeling EXCEPT for the 33rd.. then THAT would be love.. in fact.. before he found the 33rd, he would have already had an idea of exactly what love could be like in his imagination.

haha, okay enough nonsensical nonsense… but isn’t it possibly that love could be relative?

You don’t even know her… so no! You are definitely not in love, but she did catch your attention and you might have found her very appealing. If you like her, talk to her, get to know her and maybe when you actually have a connection with her, we can be talking about being in love ;) .