Can my relationship be saved?

Is it possible you have a physical reason for a lowered sex drive?

A few questions.

Is it just your fiance or do not have sexual feelings toward any guy?

Has your sex life become formulaic? (same old position, etc.)

Is your fiance a caring lover who works to make sure you are fully pleasured?

have you gone onto an anti-depressant in the time you noticed the decrease in your sex drive?

I would definitely look into a physical reason, like..are you on any hormonal birth control? They sometimes mess with my libido.
Currently I’m pregnant, and I feel sorry for my husband. It’s not him, it’s me. I can recognize mine is hormonal though, and I can’t wait for it to go away.
Why is “cheating” a tag for you? Have one of you cheated on the other? That may seriously affect the physical aspect of your relationship.

You are not talking about specifics of your sexlife with your boyfriend (and i’m not asking for them), so it’s a bit difficult to answer.
But if i assume that untill now you have had a non-adventurous sexlife, you might try, after talking about it with your boyfriend, to change some routines, and/or add some spicyness.
That could increase your turned-on-ness.
And his.
If all of the above isn’t about you, then i’m afraid i have to rethink it and come back to you later.
Good luck.

He really does everything possible to keep things interesting and make me happy in the bedroom. So it’s nothing he’s doing wrong. I am on birth control but have been for years. I haven’t started any other medicines recently.

@ItalianPrincess1217 You answered all of my questions but one. Since then I saw your Question about dreams of your ex-boyfriend. So, can you be turned on by guys other than your fiance?

Another thing to consider is he may be a great guy, but a great guy you are not attracted to. If that is the case, do both of you a favor and end it. This is not something that will get better with time usually.

@Marina Actually with my ex boyfriend the sex was the only good thing about the relationship. It was amazing. So yes, I am able to get turned on by some men I guess. That’s my concern. Why not with my current guy?

Another question…I’ve been on birth control for years but I notice that certain times during the month my sex drive is abnormally low. Can the pill cause these fluctuations?

Yes. Hormonal birth control can and does affect sex drive for many individuals. You need to talk to your doctor about what’s going on.

Have you ever had great sex with your BF?

This could have a physical cause, and/or an emotional cause. Have you felt as connected to your fiance lately? Are there things you no longer talk about? When you’re together are you together or are you just inhabiting the same space? Do you find yourselves doing different activities a lot more now than you used to? Have any chronic issues appeared that just don’t seem to get resolved (other than the sexual issue)?

Sometimes the body tells us things that our conscious minds don’t want to or can’t see.

Just don’t think too much about it, your drive will come back. Don’t let him go ..or don’t cheat until you’re sure what’s causing this. Talk to him about it, he will understand.
If this does not change soon, go talk to your doctor, he can prescribe u a birthcontrol with less hormones .. they know what to do.

Thanks for all the help everyone. You’ve given me lots of helpful advice. I think I’m just over analyzing things and putting too much pressure on myself to get in the mood. Hopefully once I stop focusing on it so much it’ll improve on it’s own.

Compounding pharmacies often do saliva tests on hormone levels. They can tell you if your chemistry’s out of whack.

Any relation can be saved, as long as the members want it saved. See your doctor about the lower sex drive, this can be caused by several things, including some medications including contraceptives.

Let out your deepest sexual fantasies and don’t hide anything. That’s the best sex there is (at least from my experience).