I dont know how to feel?

Would you really listen to complete strangers telling you how you should feel?

I guess @negitivecopy wants exactly that.
Hence her question.
Maybe (just guessing here) she wants to know what she should think of all this?

I think your friend is a heel, and the guy is perhaps not as big a jerk, but a jerk nonetheless for sharing the info with you.

i’d say get rid of them both, and get some decent mates.

How can you call this selfish bitch a best mate? -let alone even a friend! They are both for the tip. You deserve good friends who take how you feel into consideration.

okay i wouldnt want someone telling me how to feel, but i just dont know if i have the right to feel hurt, or if i am being an out of order bitch, as iv never been in this situation

Both of them are creeps, but your best friend doubly so, because she knew it would hurt you and you both had an understanding about exes.

I agree with @Sariperana and yes, you do have the right to feel hurt. If I were you I’d want to gouge the bitches eyeballs out but then I do have anger issues

The problem here is your best mate is not being honest with you. She may be worried how you will react, but she is still not treating you like a close friend, more like a stepping stone.

I can kinda relate to the guy moving on to someone else when he thought it was over with you, but…

your mate should have been honest with you, and she wasn’t.

Talk to her. Maybe there is a good reason she wasn’t truthful with you (but, I doubt it). Give her a chance to explain, but if the explanation is hollow, move on.

Well, with “friends” like that, who needs enemies?

That’s just my gut level reaction. You are absolutely entitled to whatever negative feelings you have.

Whatever you decide to do about keeping her friendship, trusting her again shouldn’t ever be considered regardless of what explanation she comes up with.

As for him just remember the old saying: “Men are like buses. There will be another one coming along every half hour or so.)

:)

“First guy I’ve ever had… sober sex with?” You’ve got some other issues that you need to deal with beside just your friend.

Write them both off.

You don’t think you have the “right” to feel upset about this? Maybe you have some self esteem or self worth issues to work out, but you need to face the fact that your friend is no friend at all, and you deserve better company. And I would completely disregard the guy, any guy who would sleep with your best friend, after you just broke up isn’t worth your time.

@negitivecopy, the fact that you’re here asking this question means that you do know. Your instincts are sound. Go with them. Run as far away as you can from the heartless witch, stop dating jerks, and quit drinking so much.

Your friend is a jerk, and the guy is too, but perhaps slightly less for at least being honest with you. I would say definetely distance yourself from both of them. One thing I have learned, nobody has time for jerks in their life. Move on to people who make you feel good about yourself, trust me, they are out there :)

You feel what you feel. The real question is, how should you react to those feelings.

Hell, I’m pissed off FOR you, just reading this. And almost at you, to some degree, because something tells me this isn’t the first time your “friend” has screwed you over. Part of me says boot her in the face. The other half says just cut her out of your life until she apologizes. I found that even when someone wronged me to the point where I honest and truly wanted to slit their throat, the minute they gave a sincere apology, I had absolutely no anger left in me at all, and was fine. So for now, stick to this advice;
“The best revenge is living well.” Just take this opportunity to better yourself, to grow, and let her play her stupid little games.