@MissAusten
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Most of the time, my kids are fine in public. Once in a while, one of them will have an issue.
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No one but your family and friends see you “most of the time”. The rest of us only see you once, in passing. Therefore, if we happen to see you while your kids are having a fit, then 100% of the times we’ve seen you, your kids are having a fit. That’s not a fair sample size, obviously, but it’s the truth.
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So, what I think is that people need to be a little understanding and less judgemental.
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And I think that parents need to be a little more understanding of how they appear to the public. You’re with your kids all day long. You know what your kids are like the majority of the time. We only see you in that one instance.
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I’ve said it before here and I’ll say it again: Parents are not directly responsible for every single aspect of a child’s behavior and personality.
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No, but they are directly responsible for whether or not those children are in public, and therefore affecting other people.
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If I pay over $50 to take my kids to a movie, you’re darn tootin’ I’m going to sit there and attempt to talk them into being quiet or sitting still before I jump up and haul them out of the theater.
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It was your choice to spend $50 to take your family to the movies. You know your kids, you know whether or not they’re capable of being quiet for 2+ hours. Everyone else there paid the same amount as you to be there, and they aren’t bothering anyone, and most importantly, they didn’t choose to have your kids come in and disrupt their movie-going experience. You paid $50 for your tickets, not for the right to let your kids bother everyone else.
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If we’re in a restaurant and one of them starts to cry but I’ve already ordered the food, of course I’m not going to rush out. I’m going to wait for my food, pay for it, and take it to go if I have to. In the meantime, I’m going to do whatever I can to keep my kid under control (keeping in mind that I always choose kid-oriented restaurants). My kids and I have just as much of a right to do our shopping and enjoy some time out as everyone else.
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And everyone else has just as much right to be at that restaurant as you do. The difference is that they exercise that right without bothering anyone else. You are choosing to risk bothering everyone else by bringing children who perhaps are not yet ready for an extended social outing.
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I do all I can to make sure no one gets inconvenienced, but living with kids means just about everything is an inconvenience.
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Yes, but we don’t live with your kids. YOU chose to suffer that inconvenience. You made the decision to become a parent, with all the joys and all the sacrifices that it entails. It is inappropriate of you, in my opinion, to assume that because you chose to let yourself be inconvenienced, that everyone else should automatically have to put up with your inconveniences without getting upset about them.
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I wish I had been as knowledgeable about raising kids before I had kids as people nowadays are. People without kids always know what’s best and have all the right answers for every situation. :P
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I’m not claiming to have the right answers. I’m not claiming that you shouldn’t be allowed to take your kids out in public. I’m asserting that part of the sacrifice you make for being a parent includes the dirty looks you get when the choice you made (parenthood) inconveniences someone else.