How do you deal with a passive agressive friend?

Ignore it.

Hire a hitperson?

Don’t ask me, I have a passive aggressive streak myself. personally, I’d tell FaceBook to go to hell. I hate that site.

Life is about choices, your results may vary.

I’m not sure I understand how the behavior you describe is passive aggression. It sounds like quite active aggression to me.

Maybe I’m lazy, but I just don’t call people like that “friend” anymore.

pdworkin, you’re right…I should’ve specified that she’s also pretty passive agressive at times. The thing is she has been a really good friend for a decade, always there for me etc. Just in recent years this hatefulness has become really prominent. I’m assuming it’s jealousy over my large snowglobe collection…

Hateful would be going too far for me. I don’t like being around people who personally attack others, call names. Sarcasm is fine, but there is a line. When this has happened on my fb my other friends have come back at that person with, “why are you so mean?” or “no need to attack, we are just discussing the topic,” things like that, but I have to say the obnoxious mean people did not really learn and I wound up defriending and blocking them, BUT they had not been friends of mine for years, just fb friends I met through other friends.

I guess you can risk telling her directly that you find it uncomfortable when she does it constantly? Or, maybe talk/gossip about someone else who does it and maybe she will get the hint, even if it is a made up person or relative.

Bring it to her attention that people aren’t understanding her humor, that most people are “sheeple” and don’t take her superior intellect, sarcasm and wit very well. These aggressive types like to hear that kind of BS.

Have you considered the possibility that she is suffering in some fashion, and doesn’t know how to deal with her pain?

I’d find a replacement friend, myself. Life’s too short to be around nasty people.

“jealosy over my large snowglobe collection”

Really?? Or are you also being a little sarcastic?

Sorry, that phrase just seemed to jump off the page at me and I’m just scratching my head in wonderment over it.

Maybe I just haven’t woken up completely yet or the rain here is fogging up my brain but that just seemed kinda weird to me.

Talk about making mountains out of molehills…

Snowglobes, really??

“I’m sorry, I just don’t find that funny.”
“I didn’t realize that was supposed to be funny. It just sounded mean to me.”

Don’t argue with her about it – you don’t need to justify your feelings or reasons. Just repeat the same sentence as often as needed.

Sarcasm can be funny, but being hateful never is.

I probably wouldn’t be friends with her.. I end up cutting toxic, overly negative, passive aggressive people out of my life. I just have no patience for it, and life is miserable enough as it is without having someone else bring you down all the time.

Also, I’m a very direct person (to the point of saying really awkwardly wrong or blunt things because I honestly can’t think of a better way to say it), so I tend to not buy into behavior where the person is acting out without being honest and saying what they really think or feel. After a while, I’m over it and on to the next person.

snowglobes=joke, yes. heehee. I think it is an insecurity thing for sure. good advice, y’all.

Ok. Yeah I really haven’t fully woken up yet.

:)

Block access to your wall. There is no reason you need to suffer because of someone else’s stupidity.

Tell her that it’s not her fault.

Now I have to rent Good Will Hunting. I can’t believe I haven’t seen it.

It’s a decent flick. Sorry I spoiled the climax.

@Lupin Excellent advice. If she can’t get on your wall to comment, she’ll wonder why. That will open the door to “You pass sarcastic and go straight to nasty. If you try to not pass go and collect your $200, you can come back to my wall but I got tired of seeing the mean things you were posting.” If the conversation goes to what’s making her so bitter and you can help her with it, all the better.