Quick g/f advice please?

I would go ahead and be very sympathetic to her and then say “I’ve had a rough day too,” and tell her about it. Let her take care of you a little. That might actually take her mind off her troubles.

Just be sure not to do it in a competitive or one-up way, but rather, “Hell of a day for both of us, and even harder because we’re apart. Tomorrow has got to be better, sweetie.”

Listen and talk. If she doesn’t hear you and goes back to telling you about her crappy day, then just listen. More than likely, though, telling her about your crappy day will give her something better to think about (i.e. how can she be good at taking care of you). It might be just the thing to take the edge off her day, and you can maybe get to a laugh about how ridiculous te day has been.

Sorry about your shite day.

@kevbo It’s cool. I mean to be honest I wasn’t a big fan of the job…. But I definitely need the money.

The irony is, there was a job I did want (less commute by about 20 minutes, more in my career area (pharmaceuticals as opposed to food science). I interviewed with a contractor hiring for them, and it went well, and they said that they would contact me for another interview next week when the next lady I needed to speak too was back from vacation. She never called, I called/e-mailed and received no response, and eventually took the job I was just fired from out of necessity. Then a week and a half later, the first job called back to set up an interview, and I turned them down cuz I already had a job now, and I couldn’t afford the gap in money.

But yah, maybe one more opinion on the g/f issue? lol

You can let her speak first or you can speak, either way, make it look and feel like a collaborative thing and be careful not to ignore each others feelings as adversities have a sneaky way of driving two people apart.

Maybe later on, you both could plan a fun date like a movie and ice cream.

I would suggest giving her some reassurance that things will get better once it all falls into place and to not get upset about things out of her control. I’d also pull a rude number like “suck it up, bad days happen” but you should skip that part

I like a sympathetic ear and a sympathetic human behind the ear when I have something on my mind. But I like to feel as if I have one to offer as well, so after you listen, tell her your troubles. If she is like me, she will be sort of pleased that your share your woes and that she can be of help to you too.

Well might point of view on this is….........I am sorry that you had a rough day and I hope everything turns out good for you and gets better. But back to my point here…lol
It’s very important in a realtionship to communicate…..otherwise it don’t work. What i mean yes….....i am sure she would want to hear about your day and make you feel better….but my advise would be is hold off on that. First see how the converstation goes with her the next time you two talk. If she is sad or depressed or what ever and is telling you about her problems…....maybe you should just hear her out…..and just watch where the conversation goes. If she asks you how was your day…....then your in a perfect timing. You can tell her all…but make it smooth. and say something like….( honey yes i had a rough day…...and i know you did too. But i know everything will get better and we are gonna be just fine….....there are people that have it so much worse then we do) I know it’s not easy, it’s life no one said it would be easy, just stay positive. even though in the end you might feel like crap anyway. Just watch how the whole thing goes. If she is a good girlfriend she will ask you how your day ways and when you tell her everything she will want to hear you out and listen to your problems and try to comfert you , if she cares.

Good luck.

Saying something like, “I’ve had a bad day, too, and I wish you were here. Just hearing your voice makes my day better. I miss you.” That will make her day a little bit better, and saying something nice will make you feel a little better, too.

Control what you can control. You can’t control the rain or the friend not showing up, you can control the work situation by going into your boss, telling them you enjoy the work and asking them for constructive feedback because you want to perform well for them.

Listen to hear day, then tell her you understand how rough days can be because yours was crappy too. then tell her you are glad the two of you have each other to lean on in good times and bad. Present it as a “we’re in this together” kind of light, and tell her that this type of sharing makes you feel even closer to her.

If it’s possible, you might want to ask her to meet you somewhere for drinks or dinner, or simply to hang out to console each other about the day.

Remember this, weather is never a factor.

I’m sure she would want to know and try to make you feel better. If she really cares about you she won’t want you to have to suffer in silence while you try to comfort her. Sounds like her problems are only temporary and that she just needs to relax so they can work themselves out. I’m sure she’d be happy to comfort you.

Maybe I’ll find a girl tonight, on my way to a concert, flying solo, probably bring in a bottle of wine, and wander. And as for you asker, go ugly early.

I would say go ahead and share your day with her too. On a bad day rating scale, your two situations seem pretty equal…. if she’s venting out to you, I’m sure she won’t mind you doing the same.

On a side note – it’s so sweet that you even ask this question. You sound like you really care about her and her feelings. Seriously, this is awww worthy to me. I am jealous.