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Have you ever “settled” for a frog that later turned into a prince?

Asked by kihara (81points) August 29th, 2009

The importance of “chemistry” in a relationship is something I wonder about often. How much do the sparks really matter in the end? Have you ever “settled” for a frog that later turned into a prince?

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dpworkin's avatar

Everyone has some frogginess, haven’t they? I mean, who perfectly fits your every fantasy of what would be perfect in a companion?

My ideas of what “attractive” is have changed a great deal over the years. When I was younger, it was very important to me that the women I dated were conventionally attractive to men. I seemed to need the sense of validation that came with walking into a room with a beautiful woman. But that was my problem, brought about by my insecurities.

Now I am attracted by accomplishment. One grows to love the appearance of the people one loves. My companion is perfect for me – I see us spending the rest of our lives together in a loving, sharing, supportive relationship, and having lots of fun as we get older together.

I don’t think anyone would mistake her for Angelina Jolie, and I couldn’t care less.

kihara's avatar

Yes.Beauty is in the eye of the beholder :)

Judi's avatar

I dated a real frog when I was young, met his family who I adored and fell head over heels, thinking he must be a prince.
Turns out I did to good a job convincing him he was a prince. He dumped me because I was “from the wrong side of the tracks”
30 years later he came running back wanting me to turn him into a prince again.
Do I look that stupid?

deni's avatar

I once worked with 2 kids that were kind of similar personality wise but I thought one was way cuter and he was more the “bad boy” type that females seem to be attracted to even without realizing it or desiring it. Anyhow, I went out with one and then realized he was a douche and ended up settling for the other and dating him for 2 years. Looking back, he’s way cuter, way nicer, and way better overall, but he was shy so I thought of him as more boring at first.

Edit- for the record, at the time we were all 17 ish. I didn’t wanna sound like a perv and be a teacher who is dating students, or something.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

“Settling” often leads to disappointment. I don’t want to be with someone who “settled” for me.

ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

Nope. But I did have a prince that turned into quite the asshole…errrr…I mean frog.

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