Should I be patient or put my foot down?

I think demanding anything more than phone calls more often would be out of line. but talking to your boyfriend once a week is reason to get upset, and your feelings are certainly reasonable. I’d just ask him to call you more often. as busy as he is I’d be very surprised if he didn’t have a spare 5 or ten minutes each day.

What do you want to do?

No putting down of feet, but certainly explain to him quietly how it’s making you feel. Communicate, communicate.

A relationship without communication is doomed to die.

Be his soft spot to land. By that I mean be encouraging, and don’t put any more pressure on his already stressful life. If he feels like you are nagging him, he will probably want to avoid you and you will see even less of him. If you think he needs more rest, do what you can to help him towards that end.

For example, you could cook a healthy meal for him if you think he isn’t eating right, and leave it at his place so he can heat and eat when he gets home. he will enjoy the mael, and love you all the more for thinking of him. The more understanding you are of him right now, the more he will want to go to you as his comfort zone.

If you think he is busy now, just wait until he is working ungodly hours. you need to prepare yourself for what lies ahead in his future and yours.

Putting your foot down will only serve to stress him more and make him want to avoid you completely.

If you are not getting your needs met then you need to change the situation. Talk to him, and tell him you want a boyfriend not a date. Tell him that you are worried about him and that you think he might need to see things from a new perspective.

You can’t make him change. If he doesn’t want to change then you need to consider your own needs.

You should just say how you feel even though you know there’s not a lot to be done about the timing. It will get the tension and anxiousness out of the way. Maybe talk about if just laying down together to sleep the few hours will help you both through this.

If you’ve more time, want to do it and he’s receptive then offer to prepare meals, run dry cleaning, whatever. That and master hot quickie sex

What can you do that would fit into his schedule, and perhaps make his life a little easier? Doing laundry together on Sundays and grabbing a bite to eat? Fixing dinner for him once a week while he studies? Showing up with bagels and coffee at 5 am so you can spend a half hour together before he goes to work or school? There are things that he has to do, that you can do together, but it might not be a conventional date type of scenario. As busy as he is, there should be times and things that you could do together, even if they are mundane.

You need to ask him what those times are, and work with him to figure out how you can have time together without adding a time demand into his schedule.

He needs some down time or he will burn out. He may just need someone to gently pull him out of his routine and remind him there is life out there. “I know you are working so hard and I am so proud of you, but I am getting worried about you. I think you could use a little break.” Suggest something relaxing like you making a meal and the two of you relaxing on the couch to watch a movie. It is 3 hours of his time. Be casual about it and say sometime within the next couple of weeks – give a time frame but let him choose the day.

The devil’s advocate side of this question is, exactly how long will he go without you calling him, before he calls you on his own? How long have you been dating? What level of commitment do you have to each other? Perhaps he’s your boyfriend, but you’re not his girlfriend because he doesn’t have time for a girlfriend?

If you give him an ultimatum or even ‘talk’ to him about giving you more time, don’t be surprised about the outcome. Why not concentrate on your own education and/or career. Then you aren’t waiting, you are both building for the future.

is he really care about you?

first of all and always most improtant thing in a relationship is communication. You need to ask him to find some time to talk to him, let him know how you feel which will make you feel better and him realizing what is at steak or at least knowing how you feel about him being so busy all the time.
But besides that as his girlfriend do be there for him, wait for him, communicate when you can, support him, and like I just said be there for him. But there is always this little nagging feeling inside you if you feel that something is off, does he really work 20 hours a day? work that long? or ? Technically you never know and I am not saying anything negitive, listen to the way he talks, his responses to the way you feel. If he really cares about you and this relationship is important to him then trust me he will do some kind of adjustment and if he cant then just move on cause obviously he is choosing other things over you and you don’t deserve to feel neglected or not cared for in a relationship. But be wise, be carefull, and choose your words right. He might be a great guy so maybe he needs support from you and you do that for him. Maybe this wont go on for to long and if everything is great and your not suspicious about anything then just be there and wait it out and wait for him ,but like I say be extra carefull and keep your eye open.

Good luck.!

He doesn’t really love you, he’s just using you for support as he goes and becomes a hot nurse. Quick stone me I said “jehovah”!

put your foot down like your the green giant- cause after he’s done with school he’ll be like this with a job- that what you want??