What goes through your mind when you spend time with a member of the same sex who you consider more attractive than yourself?

Sure, I notice when I’m around an attractive woman. She looks like she does…I look like I do. So be it. I’m confident enough in myself that it bothers me not.

In my business, if a person’s looks are an asset to them along with their brains then it’s encouraged and honed. Humans like other attractive humans and we all know this. I enjoy to watch the young pretty things go work their wits. Do I get jealous? Sure. I get jealous when a very young girl much prettier than me gets to keep her job while I get put on on-call status even though I am a greater asset for my team and the business.

If it’s among friends, that’s a whole different game. I adore my gorgeous friends of both sexes and all ages. I love to see them complimented, flirted with, chased and loved.

If you live your life believing that everyone is more beautiful or handsome than you are, then it’s a normal thing. There goes Joe. Ok, he looks hotter than I do. He’s got it a little easier. He doesn’t have to work as hard. On the other hand, he may not like all that attention. He may think he’s getting attention for the wrong reason. Maybe he feels devalued by his beauty.

Anyway, after many years of thinking this stuff, I think it’s less of a kind of inner thought pattern than it was. I don’t generally think of it in a envious way. It’s more like a frustration. There are beautiful women everywhere. Even if I weren’t married, I could never get involved with one of them. I don’t have whatever it takes to pick up a woman on the street. Maybe that guy does—tall, handsome, confident. Maybe he’s had girls after him all his life.

I wish my mind didn’t run these tracks. It’s just annoying. I wish I could ignore beautiful young women with low-cut blouses, and long legs that go all the way down to the ground. I wish I could think about other, more useful things. But I don’t seem to be able to stop this, so there it is.

for me it just tells me which ones will make me look better in a party and which will be my competition…other than that i dont really care.

honestly, I dont really care. More or less goodlooking is subjective, unless you’re a chud or something. My point is, if you are average or goodlooking, and with someone who YOU feel is better looking than yourself, does not mean that otheres might not consider you to be the more attractive of the two.

What an odd thing to even think upon. I check out the people in my environment, but after I recognize an attractive female and remark upon it, I never give it a second thought. It’s probably because I am usually the hottest girl in the room. Yeah, right.

I get an ugly friend to hang out with us.

This has never been something I noticed. I guess I do notice attractive women, but I feel that they are equal to my looks level…just in a different way.
I have no clue how to answer this without sounding like a conceited person.

“Would I go gay for him?”

Beauty has an immediate impact but looks only go so far. A lot of beauty is found in how a person carries themselves too.

More attractive than me? There are women in that category?

Oh, I’m kidding!

After being around so many good-looking actresses after a number of years, I have come to ignore looks. Like, I can acknowledge that these other women are gorgeous, but in NYC, they’re a dime a dozen. Confidence makes people more attractive, though having good genes and symmetry obviously doesn’t hurt.

Frankly, I think it’s wonderful that people don’t think about this. To me this says they have a good self image. I am not one of the people in the world who has the gift of thinking well about himself. It’s just something I have had to struggle with most of my life. If I were in one of those wishing movies, where I could be anything I want for a day—I think I’d see what it was like to be a chick magnet.

@daloon I agree, but the people who don’t think about it are maybe the ones who don’t need to. I like to observe peoples reactions to social environments, this is a particularly good one I think, and one maybe not everyone will be honest about.
I think too much, leave me alone for 5 seconds and off I go. >.<

I don’t think about it. If the person is a hard worker, worthy of respect, is kind, then I see them as attractive. Looks alone mean nothing.

Word to @jbfletcherfan. Word.

@saraaaaaa Are you saying the people who don’t notice it, don’t notice people getting special treatment? That is different than looking at a person, thinking they are more attractive than you..and thus concluding they are getting more in life because of it.

Jeez, I hope I get his second stringers.

I agree with @casheroo.

I bartend when I’m not in school, it’s funny because I’m one of the only male bartenders I know, it’s just a predominantly female job because drunk guys tip hot girls more. So the fact that I’m still considered one of the better bartenders in the area despite not having a d-cups is kind of a confidence boost.

but just in general it is kind of a pain in the ass when tall dark and handsome walks in, I mean, I’m not gay or anything, but fuck dude, loose some teeth or something, level the playing field for christ’s sake… because let’s be honest, I know where I stand, I’m not ugly, but I’m no brad pitt, and women can be just as shallow as men, so when some American Eagle playtoy walks in and steals your thunder, yeah you notice.

I have a friend who is very good looking, and going out with her when I was younger was a nightmare. Every guy in the room wanted to talk to her, buy her a drink, etc. I was merely the dopey friend who they had to deal with to get to her. It didn’t annoy me that she is pretty and guys hit on her; it annoyed me that she flaunted it like crazy. I really don’t notice when other women are beautiful, just when a woman (no matter what she looks like) acts like she is above others because of her looks. Yuck!

Shit, that’s everyone. So I guess just the usual stuff goes through my head. Y’know, things like transvestite clowns and circus music.

I’ve never been in this situation… i just don’t give a crap. I enjoy hanging out with people because of their personality and not looks (especially people of the same sex)... i’m just not interested in how attractive or unatractive they are. It’s a non issue.

(plus in my mind there’s no way they’re better looking :P)

I’m a guy, and beauty does not carry as much weight for men as it does for women. I may admire or even envy someone handsomer than myself, but at the same time they might admire me for some other traits where I am better. I have an extremely good-looking but not-so-bright friend who is like that. I think he envies my brain more than I envy his body, and always asks for my advice. He can easily get one-night-stands, but he’s looking for a long-lasting, meaningful relationship, and of course girls don’t take him seriously. I think his problem is bigger than mine.
Overall, I think it’s much different for men than women.

What goes through my head is not suitable for Fluther. Just kidding.

Usually I just end up admiring the other person. Then I usually make resolutions (which die off in an hour or two) to look better.

I usually compliment them and act no differently than I would around any other person. I’m more apt to be jealous of someone’s body than their face.

Nothing goes through my mind regarding the relative beauty of the person I am associating with, nor do I associate with people who treat “prettier” or “uglier” people differently. I also work in an industry where it is my brain and my control over it that is valued, not my looks. I don’t value beauty. I care way more about a person’s personality than their looks. Looks are fleeting, but your personality is you.

I don’t really think about it. I definitely notice when I’m hanging out with a woman that I think is beautiful, but I admire her looks. Jealousy and depression over something as fleeting as looks is a big waste of time. Personality definitely takes highest priority. There might also be someone who many people think is gorgeous, but if they have a bad attitude, they become one of the ugliest people around, in my opinion.

I think ‘I’d hit that’ and move on
the other day I was walking after yoga feeling all fat and swollen again, lol, and I noticed 5 girls in a row that I consider more attractive than me, I suppose…and I shrugged and said to myself, this time believing it, that I have so much more than looks in my life…that I’d never give up my brains to be skinny instead, that I have real love and beautiful children…that my body has been good to me…that I am always so negative about it…that those girls are probably thinking how attractive others are in comparison to them…how we’re all in this trap…all o fus…

@Simone_De_Beauvoir It is a trap, isn’t it. Every woman complains and envies the other.

@Facade men are in the trap too, less so than women, but still