How can i make my relationship work with my girlfriend if her parents do not let her date?

This seems a chore for your girlfriend first. She needs to let her parents know she is dating the information coming from her will eventually open the door for you to work your magic of just being yourself.

Well uhm ask the parents why you can’t. And try to see it from there view I’m 14 myself and I went through the same thing

I’m not a parent, but you’re probably doing the wrong thing by dating someone when she’s not allowed to. It’s the kind of thing that will hang over both your heads and will make things tense/weird.

16 makes you a Sophmore in high school and you’ll be driving soon if you aren’t already. 14 puts her in 8th grade, maybe shes a Freshman.

Understand that her parents could be very apprehensive about a 16 year old boy with a car taking out their 14 year old daughter.

The only way this relationship works is if you respect the wishes of her parents. Once you go behind their backs, you’re done.

Patience is your friend here.

Let her parents get to know you. You two should have a mature talk with them about why you want to date their daughter and address any of their concerns. Good luck. I was in this situation once. I just dated the little thug anyway until he got sent to some detention school lol

whoops…

Stop dating her. If her parents don’t want her to date at 14, they have every right to tell her not to date. How stupid is it that you’re doing something that… Whatever.

Stop it. Learn to respect rules. They’re there for a reason.

I think you should just be friends with her, and get to know her family and establish some trust before you let them know that you want to date her. If you come in and try to sweep their 14 year old daughter away, it might be a little much too soon and will probably only result in negative things.

If you inform her parents you’re already dating….

BAM! Grounded.

If you inform her parents that despite their rules on her dating, you intend to date and continue dating their daughter…

BAM! Grounded.

If you think you can date someone who’s on lockdown because she disobeyed a rule that makes perfect sense to most everyone who isn’t a teenager, you’ll find yourself having a hard time of it. I hope her parents find out that she’s been disobeying the rule that she’s too young to date and shut her up in the house and take away the phone and computer. Enjoy that when they do find out. Also, enjoy not being allowed anywhere near her.

This isn’t Romeo and Juliet.

What is “dating” at 14 anyway? I mean, can’t you just be friends with her without anyone knowing that it’s a “date”? I had female friends that I hung out with, a lot of times just me and that friend. We could’ve easily been kissing and dating and no one would have known. Other than that, you can just wait. High school dates aren’t going to go anywhere anyway.

@DominicX Probably because you didn’t like them ;)

Aside from that, I like the suggestions of requesting to talk to the parents. At least be up front with them, get to know them and get them to know you. But you know… 14 is a very young age…. For now I don’t think it’ll go much anywhere (I could be wrong though).

I can see why her parents would be against her, a 14 year old, dating.. She’s still in that “I’m not a girl, not yet a teenager” stage. It’s quite a risky time IMO.

And @Tink1113.. What do you mean by “whoops”? Hmm…?

If you are doing good job. Then you should first try to make good relation with her parents. But if you are not doing good job then try to find good job…

@DominicX hits the nail right, in my opinion.
Just red rid of the term dating and go on with hanging out with her like all 16— and 14 year olds do.
Then, i due time (one or two years, to be precise), you’ll both be one or two years older and you can date.

@Saturated_Brain Heh heh…
<<walks away nervously>>

16 year old boys are rarely of the trustworthy type. Some may say gross over-generalization, but I say observation. Show them you are a respectful young man, and try communicating with them, not going behind their back. 14 and 16 seem close, but there can actually be a world of difference between them, her parents likely know this.

I’m not allowed to date, either. I just don’t tell my parents when I’m in a relationship. It seems to work (although, there is the chance that they may find out eventually and possibly stop trusting me). It may not be the best idea for your girlfriend to follow in my footsteps. It’s really annoying to not be allowed to date. I feel for your girlfriend. If you stick around, be patient and understanding of her situation. Also, realize that if her parents ever find out, they may very well try to break you two apart simply because you are interested in their daughter. It doesn’t even have to be for any other reason when it comes to parents who are like this.