This is from a UK perspective:
Ultimately you need to do something with the information that means it can later be entered as evidence in court. The idea behind the UK postal method is that not only is the envelope sealed but it also has the official date stamp of the royal mail, which is generally accepted as good evidence of when the package was sealed.
When it comes to emailing friends, do you trust them? Not to sound cynical but we’re talking about being absolutely water tight here. Also consider that their character is subject to speculation in court when deciding what weight to give their evidence. Not saying you’ve got dodgy friends (how would I know!) just pointing it out as a consideration before using that method.
Of course there is also the legal method of using a lawyer but of course that will involve cost – which is a bit like the chicken and egg scenario.
Depending how the legal profession works in your country I (as suggested by raredenver) would go with the postal method, just make sure you sign the envelope at the seal so you can’t be accused of sending a blank envelope and then opening it again. Make the opening process destructive in some obvious way so it can’t be argued.
With regard to who to pitch it at there are a couple of sites I’m aware of, these being:
1. BANDIT – this is an A&R newsletter where members of the industry advertise for certain genres of music and you can submit your work to them (having copyright protected it first!). It is a paid service and to be honest the website looks a bit cheap but I hear good things about it. I haven’t subscribed and ultimately you ‘d have to make your own mind up. I think they do a free demo to help you make your mind up. I think they send you a copy of their newsletter with all the entry dates expired but it gives you a flavour of how it works.
Several years ago I turned up at V2 in London (The publishing arm of Virgin) and spoke with the guy that signed the Stereophonics. He didn’t buy my track but he did suggest sending stuff to publications like BANDIT, so I guess it does have a certain amount of reach.
2. TAXI – an online A&R service. Again a paid service and they accept submissions from outside the US. I have no idea how successful they are or how happy there members are. So, again, you’ll have to do some homework and make your own mind up.
Something to consider is that sites like this can help with advice on copyright and a whole host of the other things muscians don’t like to think about.
My only other thoughts are pitch it to the world yourself. If you can record it yourself get your music on itunes or something like that. Do some viral marketing, email the links to friends/family/colleagues – get them to send it on to their friends and so on.
Get on myspace, Youtube and the like. Make it easier for people to find you. Link it all back to itunes or wherever else people can download for a small fee.
Hope that helps and just to reiterate I don’t endorse the above two sites but simply want to make you aware that they exist.
Keep writing and good luck.
AC.