Is this a right thing to do?

It sounds like a guy with a problem. It would not be within the bounds of OK for my relationship.

Normal? I don’t really know. But boys will be boys! (just kiddng) How old is the guy we are talking about? And how long have you been married? Sounds like he has a very strong sex drive and the two of you need to have a talk. If it makes you uncomfortable, you should ask him why he does this and tell him how you feel about it.

Not in my relationship. I guess that some couples may be ok with it, but unless both people feel the same way I think it could cause a lot of problems.
Feeling rather thankful for my amazing husband right now

“Normal” does not always mean “right” or “good.” That said, no, I don’t think it’s normal. You two should talk.

Why do you care if it’s “normal” or not? The only thing that should matter to you is what goes on in your own home, not anyone else’s. If it’s bothering you, talk to him about it. If you are the ‘him’, and it bothers you, seek help (professional or friends/family).

Whether or not other married men have similar habbits should have no baring on the matter, imho.

I like the way you formulated your question (A little help please?).

If I were married to that man then I wouldn’t think it’s normal.

If you’re not comfortable with the live sex videos, does it matter if everyone else is doing it? If everybody here told you it was “normal,” would that make you happier with the situation?

(The penile enlargement pills are just stoooooopid—they’re snake oil.)

well, my husband has been quite addicted to this latey and i find it a little disturbing.

@alex_85: So if every male on Fluther told you that we found it acceptable, would you find it any less disturbing?

You need to sit down with your husband and work this out. YOU find it disturbing; does it matter what anyone else thinks?

Who’s asking? Who’s defining normal? Personally, I don’t think it matters where one gets an appetite just so long as they eat at home.

Not in my marriage, but I believe a few other husbands do such things. As long as the wife is comfortable with what is going on, there is no problem. However, if the wife is not happy with the situation, then the two of them need to talk.

Sex addiction is a real possibility.

Sounds like one horny boy to me.
If it is not a problem with his partner. Then there is no problem.

In your case it is a problem.
Let him be totally honest with you. Not that general stuff.
Let him share with you his deepest desires. You have to be honest about this. And you have to be willing to accept what he is and will be telling you. Could get pretty dark. At first he just might not tell you everything. Feeling you out, seeing if he cant truly trust you.
Let him share. Work with him on it.
But understand if his deep down sexual desires are too much to handle. You will have to come to a conclusion. A place of neutrality. That give and take point where you both can find sexual satisfaction with out it feeling like one is not getting enough and the other is not going somewhere that is too heavy for them.

If you cant find that balance. Him so into his sexual desires. It will always be an issue and eventually a big problem.

How are intimate relations between you and your husband? Does he want it more than you do? You more than him? Has he turned to porn because of some emotional distance between you?

Porn is easy. You don’t have to deal with a real person. You just get instant access to your imagination and it is so much easier to jerk off. If you don’t want to or can’t deal with a real person, that’s a problem in a marriage.

Porn is just a symptom. You need to look for the underlying pathology. You may even need to take some responsibility for that. If you focus purely on the porn, you won’t get anywhere. I wouldn’t even talk about it. I’d suggest couples counseling if you can get him to go. Don’t use porn as the reason. What do you think is the real problem in your relationship?