How can I find out if my female friend is interested in me physically?

Are you saying that you want to date her?

In that case, tell her that you have feelings for her that go beyond mere friendship and ask her if those feelings are reciprocated.

She’ll be impressed by your honesty and straightforwardness.

One question: Don’t you want to know if she’s interested in you emotionally, too?

We are already friends, cyndi, so I take that as being interested in my emotionally as we already share our emotions.

Are you saying you want to figure out if she’s interested in being “friends with benefits” while you’re visiting, or did you have something more in mind?

“Interested” covers a lot of territory.

We both live in different states, and I suppose you could put it in the friends with benefits category, as she is very independent and has a few partners.

Have you slept with her before? If not, you do realize it could destroy your friendship.

No I haven’t slept with her before, and yes I do know that if it was improperly communicated it could damage a friendship, but I suppose I hoped we would both be able to talk openly to prevent that situation. Its a bit chicken and egg really.

Then why are you waiting?! Ask her how she feels about you.
(If it was that easy.)

Improperly communicated isn’t the problem. Properly communicated is the problem. “You look hot, I’m horny, let’s do it” is less of a problem than taking the relationship somewhere from where retreat is difficult.

@PandoraBoxx Nice way to put it! :)

Still, when you see her, you could hug her a little too long, kiss her hello a little too friendly, and see if she picks up on it.

I think your both right – I’m going to go with enjoying my friends company for whatever she is – and checking up on the body language :)

@PandoraBoxx Good call. But only two or three times. Doing something like that two or three times will give her a chance to process her feelings and reciprocate or not. But if he does it too much and she’s not into it she might start being bugged by how flirty her buddy’s getting, you know?

Dance naked in front of her. If she bursts in uncontrollable laughter or call the cops – probably not.

@DarkScribe – Emma Thompson did that to Stephen Fry when they were both at Cambridge, and we all know how that worked out. :/ ~
Turns out he wasn’t interested in the least and would never have been.

@Gunter – Looks like you’re going to have to bite the bullet and ask her if she’d be willing to give you a tumble. And make sure you make it clear that you’re not going to hold it against her if she’s not interested.