Help with friendship problems?

When you reach your teens all this won’t seem so important. Just wait for a couple of years. If you are already in your teens, then you will just have accept that this sort of thing is normal aspect of life and relationships. After all, you would like to exclude “girl2” – wouldn’t you? That makes you a player in the same game.

@DarkScribe: Of course it will! I think the age you meant was thirties! I’d wager that the OP is in her teens.

It’s a little sad to be excluded, but this happens a lot, and in the adult world, things like a boyfriend, having children, work, school, etc. will come between friends. Part of growing up is learning how to prepare for how to handle this eventuality. It doesn’t mean the friendship ends.

You have two choices: you can either mope about it and try to “get your friend back” which will make you look desperate, and push your friend away even more, or you can try to make more friends, which includes girl2. And girl3, girl4, etc. Do you have a cell phone or iPod? Remember how when you first got it, you thought it was the coolest thing ever? Making a new friend is like that, and your girl1 may be a little obsessed with girl2 because the newness of the relationship.

Take up some new interests and hobbies to feel good about yourself, and meet new people.. Resist the urge to stay in your room and talk about both of them on myspace or facebook. Don’t buy into the drama or create more drama. Get out and do something real and interesting. Join a group, either at your school or in the community. Do volunteer work.

If girl1 is allowing this to happen, then she is not as good a friend as you thought. Don’t let on how girl2 has succeeded in hurting you. Act as though girl1 is missing the great opportunity to be your fiend, which she is.

@Marina: I liked fiend better.(still there, btw, in second sentence.)

@gailcalled et al. Fiend though girl2 may be, I meant friend!

@DarkScribe: I see you’ve edited your answer. The polite way to do that is with the use of the word “EDITED” so that later answers still make sense. Glad to see that you think I’m right though. ;-)

@La_chica_gomela I see you’ve edited your answer. The polite way to do that is with the use of the word “EDITED” so that later answers still make sense. Glad to see that you think I’m right though. ;-)

Yes, but I did it immediately, before your post appeared (to me). Still if it worries you – I do apologise.