@seventeen123 It’s almost impossible to understand how our brains and thoughts can be controlled by chemicals if you haven’t had the experience. Believe me, it is totally weird. On day I was thinking about suicide, or about how useless I am, and a week or two later, I can’t even think those thoughts! The only difference is the change in brain chemistry induced by the meds.
You’ll just have to take my word for it that brain chemistry changes thoughts. I’m not sure how much science you’ve had, so it may be more difficult for you to understand.
Now, having said that, there is plenty of scientific evidence showing that you can change brain chemistry by changing thoughts. It is possible to use your will to fix your brain. However you will do a much better job if you get training in how to think in a way that can change your brain chemistry.
However, if you had to build a house, would you rather use a hammer, or one of those nail guns? If you want to have an essay for school, would you rather type it out, and correct mistakes by hand, or use a computer? If you want to calculate the standard deviation on perceptions of gender, do you want to do all the math by hand, or use a computer?
Your will is a tool. So are medicines. So it therapy. But even simple tools can be impossible to use properly without training.
Your parents believe that fasting and prayer will help. Well, they could help—if you are the one doing it. Parental fasting and prayer won’t help you.
Your will can be powerful. Self-hypnotism focuses the brain and helps us accomplish things more easily. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy teaches people how to use their analytical thoughts to banish emotional thoughts. Mindfulness teaches us how to accept our thoughts without being so attached to them. All these techniques help us use our will to change brain chemistry. You can learn them, to some degree, from books, and I urge you to do that if you must do this by yourself. Just look up CBT or Mindfulness on Amazon, and find some books that look good to you, and then see if you can buy them at your local bookstore.
If meds are out of the question for you, then you have to try other methods. But if you can train yourself in those other methods, you’ll do better than inventing it yourself. You could also ask more specific questions here. Let people know that meds and therapy are not options, so can they give you methods for training yourself to counter the thoughts brought on by the marijuana. Describe the feelings of “depersonalization” in more depth. I, for one, am having difficulty imagining what you mean. Tell me what it feels like and how it makes you behave and how that is different from your behavior prior to this.
You don’t have to believe in anything, you know. Just remain agnostic about it. You can let the evidence persuade you. Until you try the meds, you won’t know. And the meds don’t always work, either. Some people go through a dozen different meds before finding something tolerable that works. Some people never find a med that works.
All you need is the best tool available for the job. All you need is training to use the tool. That’s the best you can do, right now. So educate yourself. You can do it online, too. You don’t need to buy books. Again, ask people here for recommendations about web sites. Ask them to describe the differences between CBT and mindfulness. Ask for whatever will help you.
You’re doing the right thing in asking, and in trying to help yourself. We can help you do a better job. You can make a plan—steps to bring your empathy back. You can follow the plan. You can make it work. You really don’t have any other choice, do you?