New mommy out there.. if you were called a MILF do take that as a compliment or offensive?

It would have to depend on whether the comment were coming from my husband/boyfriend, or coming from some teenager passing me on the street, on the subway, etc. In the case of the former I’d take it humorously, in the case of the later, well, there’d be some bitchslapping to be had.
Then again I’m a sixteen year old boy in boarding school so my opinion doesn’t count.

I only use the term as a compliment.

@azhaiaziam If you were called a MF would you or your mother take that as a comp;iment or offensive? When you figure that out you will have the answer to your question.

When I was a new mommy, I would have been very bothered and offended. I was a hormonal and emotional mess for the first several months, totally devoted to my daughter and entranced by her innocence. I existed solely for her benefit and sex of the random fucking variety was beyond disgusting. I would have thought the guy was a creepy jackass.

Any other time of my life? I really wouldn’t pay it much mind, but it wouldn’t be a compliment.

If i was a mom i would feel good, but i would also think less of the person that said it

It’s “Mother I would (or I’d) like to fuck” not “mom I like to fuck”. If a stranger said that, I’d probably slap them. What the hell do I care who wants to fuck me? I don’t give a damn about them. If it was my SO, then it would be cute, in a jokey way.

By “New mommy out there..” do you mean you are a new mother, or are you trying to ask the question to new mothers?

When my daughter had her son, she wanted to buy a shirt for him that said:“My Mom is a MILF”. I had to tell her how inappropriate I thought it was.

Just skip word “mother” and ignore the abbreviation. Then ask youself how you would feel if that same person announced to you ” I would like to fuck you”

That’s your answer. Just because it’s disguised as an acronym, DOES NOT mitigate it’s basic meaning. It’s just a form of code for saying something that would indeed get someone slapped in real life situations and definitely disciplined if uttered by a student (without putting it in code form)

Initializing something doesn’t magically change it’s meaning and transform it into cute.

yeah yeah, I’m a guy. Deal with it

I’d say I’d be incredibly offended. It my sons friend called me a MILF I would find that disgusting. Even the idea of a MILF grosses me out.
but not as bad as a GILF

Just in case you don’t get it, GILF stands for

G randmother

I ‘d

Like to

F **k

I guess I would rather be an MILF than a mother no one wants get it on with, as long as there are no lewd pacific comments associated with it.

This one drives me fucking crazy. It originated (I’m pretty sure) in the movie “American Pie,” which operates from the comically exaggerated perspective of a group of teenage boys who are basically incapacitated by their tremendous desire for/anxiety about sex. One of them ends up sleeping with a classmate’s mom, and the main source of the humor in the situation isn’t that he has sex with her, it’s that he thinks she’s sexy. He calls her a MILF, and his desire for her is understood to be perverted and ridiculous. Romance between young men and older women is seen as slightly wrong – I can’t explain why, but you know what I mean – and that dialectic of “danger” “ick” “haha” is amplified about a trillion times in the hormone-addled phobia-ridden teen boy mind. So it becomes a giant joke. The fact that the kid is attracted to a woman who’s the same age as his mom. It’s like being attracted to your actual mom, which is incest, which is terrifying, and therefore funny – like sex! I don’t know. Anyway, in the movie, it actually works. It’s not a bad movie. If only it had ended there. But instead, the term became a crossover hit. And here’s the truly maddening part: people started using MILF as a general term for any woman who had kids, or even any woman over 35, but it still carried those pervy connotations of its original use, which was to describe a woman who was the same age as the describer’s own mother, whom the describer was attracted to. So, like…argh. As if aging weren’t stupid enough already. Now if anyone thinks I’m sexy when I’m forty (which I certainly plan to be) I’ll become a fetish category rather than an attractive individual – great! I’m going to need surgery AND therapy! MILF FTW.

@mponochie

What if there were lewd Atlantic comments associated
with it :D

Any statement that uses the F word is an insult in my opinion.

This is so random, my sister has just been told by her son that all his mates fancy her, however, she is a little embarrassed by it, as they are only quite young. She is now rightly or wrongly having to think about making sure her bathroom door lock is working etc… As she doesn’t want to be put in a compromising situation.

Another one of those degrading colloquial that we have turned into humor and common place.

It is in poor taste to use unless describing someone on a porn site.

The term just turns a woman from a person into a thing to fuck. It might say she looks sexy, but so what? Guys will fuck almost anything.

It’s also associated with the porn industry. It has connotations that the MILF would put out for anyone if she were paid to perform.

Now guys think a lot of this stuff about women in general. We look and we want. However, most of us are concerned about women’s feelings. Most of us wouldn’t want the women we care about to be treated this way. Most of us have some idea that a lot of women don’t want to be thought of just by how sexy they are (although many don’t seem to mind).

At best, MILF is disrespectful. At worst, it’s insulting and demeaning. Some people like playing those games—acting out roles—usually within the confines of a stable relationship. People who need that kind of attention from random strangers—well, one has to question their self-image.

I prefer using cougar :D

I’ve almost always dated older women, that said the terms MILF and especially cougar make me cringe.

Granted MILF is a pretty tasteless term I would consider it somewhat of a compliment.

I’m glad you didn’t put a comma in your description:

Mom,
I
Like to
Fuck

@daloon you know saying ‘guys will fuck almost anything’ contributes to the general notion in our society that men are somehow retarded in their development except when it comes to sex and then they’re all about it – this isn’t true, you know it’s not true…guys will not just fuck anything…some guys will and some girls will but they don’t have good self-esteem…

I’ve been called a MILF a lot…no I don’t like it…it’s offensive because it assumes that once a person becomes a mother, they’re somehow not fuckable anymore and then once in a while you find an attractive mother and ooh my , the surprise…wtf? that’s just dumb

@Simone_De_Beauvoir It is more like stating the obvious about the pseudomen who use language that objectifies women. It is even more sad when young women, as seen here, think that being viewed as a thing is a compliment.

How are these women going to give their children any positive sense of self if they think no more of themselves as a sex toy. It’s like they can’t recognize their own value without the basest form of male validation. Even more so is the loss of male honor toward their wives and daughters-daughters who learn from their fathers attitudes.

It is easy to say that most of these guys are young and stupid but by the time guys are in their late teens they are pretty fixed in their attitudes. Unfortunately those attitudes more often seem to be egocentric, selfish, boorish and crass as evidenced by the popular culture’s love affair with the adolescent 35 yo.

@galileogirl young people, of all genders, have a hard time figuring out the old gender norms from the new, if at all and so fall back onto what’s most acceptable…American Pie was very popular, I liked it, even, lol…so the term was something to use…why would any ‘normal’ teenager spend time assessing societal patterns of sexism through the media…they wouldn’t…I didn’t question my being a sex toy when I was a very young, hot, seductive teenager…all I thought was ‘this is how I will trick men, through seduction’...I thought this was a ‘woman’s strength’...what a load of crap…it took me many years to become the person I am now…yet I don’t think women are anything to honor either…I don’t believe any one gender should be ‘honored’...so women who are all about getting in touch with their sacred feminine or saying we’re goddesses just don’t speak for me or to me…anyway, tangent…parents have a lot to do with this kind of socialization…it is very scary for people to go against the grain and proclaim to their sons that they don’t need to be sex-obsessed or obsessed with scoring more ‘chicks’ than some others to be ‘real men’...but it can and should be done…and it will be done…in my household…

Ah, if it were only teenagers! You know as well as I do there is a coarsening of much of our culture and historically I don’t see when it has trended in this direction. The more educated people become the more they should be able to rise above insults and crudity and communicate intelligently. And I feel disheartened that women, especially, whose rights to basic choices, like getting an education, were questioned when I was a girl, now think it’s OK to be denigrated and insulted.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Ok, you caught me out ;-) Most guys have more self control than letting them have sex with any woman who is available. And, while there probably are men who really don’t even think about any woman other than the one they are in a monogamous relationship with, I’ll bet that if you could read the thoughts of the vast majority of men, you’d find them thinking about sex a surprising amount of the time. Inside, they are wishing they could fuck that hot girl over there.

Of course, I suppose I could be an exception to that generalization, but, given the number of times I’ve heard generalizations like this, I’m inclined to believe that a whole lot of men think this way.

Having an interior thought pattern does not mean that one has to act on those thoughts. I think most men are respectful of others, and most men have an idea of what it means to respect women. It may not be the same idea that women have about what constitutes respect, but I think it’s there in most men.

Like @galileogirl, I find it disheartening when women don’t mind being seen as sex objects. I find it even more disheartening to find out that some women don’t even recognize that sex objectification is a put-down.

I’ve known some women who value their hotness very highly and feel entitled to use it to get whatever they can out of men using their sex appeal. It seems like a cynical view to me, and I think it keeps them from finding decent relationships. It is a guaranteed way to meet only a certain kind of man—the kind who values only hotness in a woman.

But it takes all kinds, as the cliche goes.

@galileogirl okay so adults are ‘in’ on this too, fine…but i really don’t think women like getting insulted (okay some do, but that’s a different topic and includes sexual spanking, :))...it is just that empowerement can be gained in various ways even if it’s not ‘actual’ empowerement (though many would say who am I to judge and may be they’re right)...for years many fought to have women seen as beings in charge of their sexuality..the problem is when that’s all one can be valued for

And I don’t care for teen movies so I didn’t see American Pie but wasn’t the abuse of a pie the high point of it’s humor? Who said guys won’t boff anything they can?

@galileogirl yes there was and it was hilarious and it conveyed the desperation a virgin might feel when they don’t know what sex is like

@facevalue: The term doesn’t originate from American Pie. The script-writers didn’t make it up, horny dudes were already using it long before that. The movie probably popularized it to some extent though.

In charge of one’s sexuality doesn’t include “taking it like a man” when it comes insults and indignity. It means having self respect and pride in one’s lifestyle and accomplishments. There is no empowerment in accepting the label as the community kleenex.

“I didn’t see American Pie but wasn’t the abuse of a pie the high point of it’s humor? Who said guys won’t boff anything they can?”
@galileogirl: If a man saw one movie, and one female CHARACTER in the movie did something dumb (like fucking a pie), and then the man said “See, women are so dumb” or “Who says women won’t f* anything?”, (even, as a joke) would you be offended by that?

@galileogirl look I’m with you, I am but we must stay fair – you can not tell others what ‘in charge of their sexuality is’ no more than I can wish away all the dumb-ass womanly forest retreats in the world…to each their own

@La_chica_gomela It’s the context w/i the culture, not the individual act.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir I didn’t say what it was, I said what it wasn’t.

@galileogirl lol never fucked a pie before, never really knew anyone who did anything relatively similar. and context within the culture goes both ways if you want to go that route, how many times to you hear of women getting creative with vegetables?

I guess I just don’t understand the point you’re really trying to make.

It’s an ignorant compliment, but it’s still a compliment. I’ve been called this before. I was also called “sweetcakes” by a stranger the other day as I was walking to my daughter’s school. I’ll take an ignorant compliment over being called a “crazy bitch” any day.

@jonsblond ooh, I’ll take the ‘crazy bitch’ one then…definitely over MILF and sweetcakes…which, p.s., would have gotten him the finger from me and from my infant, whom I’d help form the finger

@Simone_De_Beauvoir lol

@ABoyNamedBoobs03 Giant assumption about the experience of others being anywhere near as foodaphiliac as yours.

@galileogirl lol how many people have you honestly met that have a pie fetish? please, I’m eager to know a number.