Does anyone want to actually see the passage in question? No? You would prefer to loll around comfortably castigating Freud as a psychopath to make yourself look smart to other ignorant people? Too bad, I’m going to show you anyway. But first, a word about terminology, so you guys can understand this: The “sexual object” = the person you want to do it with (though Freud, like Proust, does divide the person from the feeling).
The “sexual aim” = what you want to do with that person. Also important to remember when reading this stuff is that Freud thinks that the sexual drive is made of component drives.
Ok, now I’m not going to show you guys the passage itself, unless someone really wants me to, because I think my notes from class are easier to understand if you’re not familiar with psychoanalytic thought, and because I’m worried about copyright issues. So here goes, from my notes:
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Thumb-sucking: Every time the baby is fed, it is also erotically stimulated, because being fed is an erotic stimulation. There is no question, for the baby, of nourishment in the act of thumb-sucking. It is a remembrance of nourishment. When a baby puts its thumb in its mouth, it is going for the erotic stimulation. So this represents the first purposive moment of purely sexual activity. At first, as a somatic function, it has no object-relation: it is auto-erotic. Nourishment → sexual satisfaction. Our sexuality is inherently auto-erotic. This is why F insists on the separation of sexual aim and sexual object. This also fits in well with F’s theory of wish fulfillment in the baby’s hallucination of the breast before it learns to cry to get the breast.
A symptom is formed by the repression of the perverse sexual aim. The disposition to perversion is universal.
Thumb sucking shows us the derivation of the sexual aim itself. It is the experiential aspect of the satisfaction of the hungry baby. This is the point where the sexual aim, divorced from any aspect of self-preservation, appears. It is auto-erotic, which means that sexual satisfaction is not originally/initially object-oriented.
All sexual acts performed as adults will contain elements of infantile sexuality. Sexuality and fantasy are interrelated (wish and auto-erotic activity go together). One cannot tell the difference between truth and cathected affect. interjection: “cathedted” = “mentally processed”, more or less
In the second phase, when sexual aim begins to be concentrated on the genitals, there is object-choice (the parents). The parents have become implicated in the child’s masturbatory activity. This is due to the inevitable seductions of the parents themselves.
Freud is beginning here to adumbrate his account of human experience. Human mammals have a diphasic onset of sexuality, unlike other mammals. In the Oedipus complex we get something that is very close to the adult version of adult sexual relationships. F must account for the inevitability of incestuous object-choice in the phase of genital masturbation. Then all this gets repressed in the latency period, and is preserved in the unconscious. These are revived at the time of puberty, and can escape repression.
We would have no respect for our parents whatsoever except that we were passionately in love with them.
Should that (what that) not happen – and in neurotics it never happens – the focusing of all desires upon a single object will be unattainable.
Now, this is the really pertinent part: Because of the relatedness of the child to the breast, the child can extend that relation to the mother. This doesn’t happen – it is only that now it is possible. It is only in adolescence that there is really an idea of another person sexually. Only when this connection arises can the further connection be made between self-realization and sexual object extension.
Caring for the child is sexually gratifying for both the child and the parents. This is desirable within limits, because it teaches the child to love and allows her to grow up into a normal, psychically strong person. An early sign of a neurotic is seen in a child’s insatiable need for parental affection.
There is the postponement of sexual maturation in humans to set up the barrier against incest. This is a universal (this universal point is hotly contested) cultural demand, because if children get swallowed up by their families, they cannot reproduce (Later, the superego, the formation of guilt and its role in the Oedipus complex will add a more detailed layer of reasons for this.). However, the theory of a period of sexual latency has not stood up (presently) to observation.
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So, guys, please do try to realize that Freud was not crazy, and he did not at all think in the way that the OP portrays his thought. Infantile sexuality does, in fact, exist – this has been proven. And in fact, everything except for the theory of a period of sexual latency has stood up to observation! The object of infantile sexuality is invariably the parent(s). This does not mean that Freud thought that people consciously desire their parents sexually. What it does mean is that here we have a brilliant thinker who finally came up with a coherent explanation for how humans develop sexually. F’ing appreciate it already.