When has flirting "gone too far" for you?

I don’t think you’re over-reacting at all.
And “too far” depends on the situation, how well I know the person, if I even like the person (as a person), etc.

when your wife finds out.

F L I R T I N G < me unsure of this word
When you end up with 6 kids in secret

@eponymoushipster or when the husband finds out.
(:

Once at a wedding, my older gf and I were seated with an older man and his younger SO (and she was similar to my age and he to my gf’s). Conversation started off well, until I took a picture of her holding up the fancy butter that was on the table. Upon reviewing the picture I let slip some trying-to-be-funny remark about the juxtaposition of the butter and her cleavage. That ended up rocking the boat and before long she and my gf were engaged in this all out war for the other man’s attention. Ms. Buttertits sort of lost, since I had moved on to conversation with another girl at the table, which prompted her to inform her man that they were leaving.

Oops.

If flirting, or any other kind of contact makes you uncomfortable it has gone too far.

@SuperMouse – That’s a really great answer. Very simple, yet right on, I think. Thanks.

It was back before I met and married my wife – shortly after splitting from my first wife. (I had a brief and disastrous marriage to a very pretty and sexy girl who couldn’t keep her knickers on if a reasonably attractive guy made a pass at her.) Cue Dr Hook…

I was living on the beach on the Central Coast and had been at a beach bonfire party flirting with an attractive girl for a couple of hours when she disappeared. I went back to my home a little while later to find her in my bed – she had climbed in through an open window. It took weeks to get rid of her – (I wasn’t as blunt or forthright then as I am now).

It goes too far when a guy is following you around all night and can’t read the non-verbal “go away” expressions.

After all parties orgasm.

@DarkScribe: Penthouse forum?

As an old man, I dont think there is a limit when a woman is flirting with me. Unless she grabs my junk. Then the line has been crossed.

@majorrich Unless she grabs my junk. Then the line has been crossed.

I don’t regard mine as junk – I still have a good use for it.

(Where did that expression originate?)

The only times I’ve ever felt it was over the line were the two times “innocent flirting” (in my mind) led them to attempt to kiss me. One of them got a slap for his efforts, the other was quite drunk so I just dodged him and sent him on his way.

After I get confirmation that the man is taken/married. It’s just really disrespectful to the Mrs., I think.

I’ve had friends tell me, though, that if the man just has a girlfriend, “it’s OK, because he’s free to keep shopping”. I think that’s nuts. If he cheats with you, 99.9999%, he’ll cheat on you, is what I say.

@Les, thank you!

@Facade – Thanks for not thinking I’m overracting. :-)

When I get the sense he’s taking things seriously and making a pass that’s too far. It’s hard to say for everyone what would be too far. There’s more latitude with friends when you know they’re joking around. A stranger you can’t read so well has a different line.

When talking leads to fondling.

depends on situation….new people are difficult as everyone has their own personal boundaries and the only time you know where they are is when they have been crossed…still that always has to happen to get to know someone…...i dont think your overreacting but maybe they are just a touchy feely person when drunk ..some people are and have no intention behind it I wouldn’t worry about

When it becomes work.

When you find yourself having to hide things from your s/o such as flirty texts, late night phone calls, etc.

@ItalianPrincess1217 When you find yourself having to hide things from your s/o such as flirty texts, late night phone calls, etc.

That isn’t flirting, that is a relationship at some level. Flirting is one on one.

@DarkScribe That’s not necessarily true. Flirting comes in all shapes and sizes. What is a “relationship” to one may be innocent “flirting” to another.

Anything that bothers your SO means you’ve gone too far.

@ItalianPrincess1217 Flirting comes in all shapes and sizes.

To me (and many others) flirting is an opportunistic endeavor in that the occasion presents itself and you respond. When you create that occasion – i.e., make contact specifically for the purpose of engaging in any form of sexually charged behaviour – that has gone past flirting.

@DarkScribe: Well said.

Thanks for the responses, all. This “situation” that I described above is a little frustrating for me. I like to flirt, but really, I didn’t do it in this case. It is completely one sided. I get that he may think I’m flirting with him, but I treat him no differently that I do anyone else here. I don’t mind the conversations and the like, but when you take that step towards intimacy without even knowing for sure that this feeling is mutual, that is too far, I think. He doesn’t even really know if I’m single or not. Yuck

@Les And you have nowhere to hide. Literally. :(

You’re still on the ice, yes? You can’t even get away from the dude!

@augustlan Great minds think alike? :)

@jonsblond Apparently! :D

@jonsblond and @augustlan – Right you both are. That’s the worst part. It makes it pretty awkward.

@DarkScribe Instead of quoting eveyone else’s posts and correcting them why not worry about your own opinion and stop ripping apart other’s.

My final opinion is flirting has gone too far when either you or your s/o feels uncomfotable with the situation. “Too far” for one couple make be considered still innocent for another. At the end of the day if you have any guilt about something you did, things went too far.

Why is everyone talking about how the “significant other” would feel? What about one single person flirting with another single person (who, in my case, is not flirting back)? Doesn’t that happen?

@Les It seems like you already know at what point the flirting had gone too far. You were clearly uncomfortable. You should never let anyone put you in an awkward situation like that. Everyone opinions differ when it comes to how far is too far but you seem to know your limits. I would make it clear to this person that you’re not comfortable with how far things went and if it ever happens again I would take that as a sign that they lack respect for you and steer clear of them.

@ItalianPrincess1217 – No, you’re right. I’m tired. I forgot what I even asked. Forget what I just said. ;-)

@Les No I see what you’re saying. I assumed you meant flirting when one more of the people involved had an s/o but after reading the question again I realized you never said that. Sorry about that confusion :)

@ItalianPrincess1217 instead of quoting eveyone else’s posts and correcting them why not worry about your own opinion and stop ripping apart other’s.

How is what I am doing not expressing opinion? Cleraly so that there is no mistake as to what I am referring to?

Thanks for the suggestion – but I’ll continue as I am.

@ DarkScribe You just made my point perfectly. Thanks for making it so easy.

@ItalianPrincess1217 DarkScribe You just made my point perfectly. Thanks for making it so easy.

Happy to oblige. I am an obliging sort of fellow.

(I have no idea what s/he is talking about.)

When you end up feeling guilty about it!.. and you know you wanted it..

I’ll know when Jeruba drops me from her fluther.

* sigh *

Will I ever be able to flirt again . . .

@MissA Why not?

‘came out in a sigh..

And yet… why shouldn’t you be able to flirt?

@zenele I was being facetious.