If you want a smaller community where you get to know each other better; if you want a place that attracts a lot of really intelligent people; if you want a place where people really try hard to be useful to others; if you want a place that works hard to rid itself of trolling and stupidity and other bad influences; then fluther is for you. If you just want practical answers to practical questions, stick to Google. This is not for you.
fluther is a smaller community where you get to know each other better. It attracts a lot of really intelligent people. People really try hard to be useful to others. It works hard to rid itself of trolling and stupidity and other bad influences.
Other sites don’t pay as much attention to assuring that the interactions between users are polite and helpful. Fluther actively works to rid itself of trolls, non-answers, and ad hominem attacks.
This site has developed a set of core users who often provide (sometimes excessively) complete answers. We are not afraid of long questions and long answers the way other sites are. We are not tweeting. We also are not in competition with each other. We cooperate, and build on each others ideas. We answer questions for love (as well as lurve), because we like thinking about things.
There are a lot of people here who actively care for other members of the community. It is an excellent place for people who are experiencing issues that keep them from meeting others in the real world. We get people to get care for themselves when they might need it instead of trying to play doctor or shrink. We express concern and we follow up on each other when a person disappears for a while.
We resist ranking each other. We do not want to create petty jealousies or cliques or anything that causes people to feel worse about themselves. I suppose this sounds like some kind of fake positivity place, but I assure you that we are far from that. People talk straight, and they often tell the truth—all of it. We get into the meat of a lot of issues, kind of like a seminar at a college.
This place is safe to be who you are, for the most part. It usually takes a while before people realize they can talk about what they care about, and they don’t have to get over on anyone or debate or win points.
A larger portion of our community listens. Sure, we have debaters and we have people who try to stir up fights, but we also have a critical mass of people who cooperate, and we have moderators who are making sure it stays that way. They care about the community, and they work to make their decisions as transparent as they know how to do (which is not always enough for me, but they really try).
I’m not the kind of person who puts up with stupidity and bullshit. I’m not interested in that. There is plenty here for me to be interested. Plenty of people I look forward to hearing from. There are even a number of people here I would trust the care of my children to, and I have not met a one of them in person.