Is it possible...not to be interested in sex at all?

Low libido in women is common and can trigger other health concerns.

Has your friend gone through menopause?

Has she sought a doctor’s advice?

Yes. Yes it is. I promise you that it is not something I think about often, and I’m a perfectly healthy, functioning adult female.

That is very possible. And if it doesn’t bother her, then honestly I don’t think it really matters.

There are also people who identify as totally asexual and have never been interested in sex, ever in their lives. To them it can be anywhere from a bad thing that they don’t enjoy to more like “I mean, it feels good I guess, but it’s just such a waste of time, I’d rather do any number of other things.” It’s hard to imagine (for me at least!), but it definitely exists.

Of course it is. Many reasons. Low hormones. Depression. Bad association with sex. Recent break up from a romantic relationship. All sorts of reasons.

Everything in human sexuality is distributed across a normal curve. There will be outliers who are hypersexual, there will be outliers who are hyposexual. If this set of circumstances is causing this person distress, the situation can be addressed; if not, it is fully normative, and she can just relax and go about a productive life.

Lots of reasons.

If she’s been separated from eponymoushipster, the lack of ambient mojo could definitely cause a drop in libido.

a lot of sex and sexuality is psychological. perhaps she’s created some sort of block. if she’s happy with it, not much you can do. if she isn’t, she may need to see a psychologist or a sex therapist.

Thanks for all your responses so far! To be honest I had never considered some of the reasons mentioned above, and wanted a better understanding of how and why she felt like she does.

Yes, it’s called my last relationship.

My current relationship though? hooooo boy. He has to beat me off with a stick.

no pun intended

I don’t know if it’s possible to change sexual orientations (without technology), but maybe she became asexual.

Well there are people who call themselves asexual, and I believe them. Not having any interest in sex is something that I have encountered before, when I was in a bad relationship, I wasn’t asexual, I guess I just became more of a sex camel.

Perhaps she has felt in the past that sex was more about her partner’s pleasure than her own, and she felt like just a body. Intimacy takes trust and care to build and that is what makes sex sexy for many women. She may have given up trying to explain this need, and so gives up sex. If she were to meet someone as a friend, and whom she found attractive (inside and /or outside) the desire for sex would likely follow naturally.

Well I’m a guy and I’m not interested in sex all that much. Intimacy yes, and I’d sure like to have a relationship (yes, I’d like sex too), but I’m not that crazy about it. So by that logic, I can imagine there are many people who have no interest in sex whatsoever, and never even think about it.

I have a gay friend who is actually more asexual than gay, I think he’s sort of given up trying to find a boyfriend because of all the social complications. It must have been 2 years since he last got laid, and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t think about it much (though I could be wrong). And a straight female friend who is probably still a virgin at 37 and does not show the least bit of interest in men. She dated this one guy 20 years ago for maybe a month, and that was it. It’s not that she can’t find the right guy or that she got hurt or anything, it’s just so low in her list of priorities (taking care of her sick mother and disabled uncle, going to work everyday, feeding all her cats etc) that she probably forgets men even exist in the world.

So yes, different people have different levels of sexual drive, and some people’s urge could be close to 0.

yes especially when you get older and youre a woman, but you do it anyway and like you love it cause your nice and you want him to be happy. right?

If it wasn’t possible, AVEN wouldn’t exist.

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Share this tidbit from Dr. Oz with your friend:

“If you have more than 200 orgasms a year, you can reduce your physiologic age by six years,” Dr. Oz says, basing this number on a study from researchers at Duke University who surveyed people about the amount and quality of sex they had. “They looked at what happened to folks that are having a lot of intercourse over time, and the fact is, it correlated.” Frequent sex helps prove that your body is functioning as it is supposed to. “But in addition, having sex with someone that you care for deeply is one of the ways we achieve that Zen experience that we all crave as human beings,” says Dr. Oz. “It’s really a spiritual event for folks when they’re with someone they love and they can consummate it with sexual activity…seems to offer some survival benefit.”

intimacy is tricky. My last relationship, sex was not important to me at all. But, for me, it was correlated with not being completely invested in or satisfied emotionally in a relationship. Now that I am in a healthy, happy relationship, heehee….:) I think if just depends on what you value at particular times and relationships in your life.

yes: chemical castration