If he's not interested, why does he randomly call to see what's up or invite me out?

He’s just a friend. There’s no romance here.
If you were going to be anything more than friends, that would have happened by now.

Not to get in your biz or anything but how far did you guys get?

Either that, or he has something else going on and wants to keep you on the hook.

i say ask him to move in. he does, you’re gold. he doesn’t, it wasn’t meant to be. drop the zero, get a hero, girlfriend.

heaven forbid something with two legs and a penis really does just want to be friends…..

or he’s just a busy guy with a solid group of friends that occupy him enough, or he’s just trying to be nice without just dropping you. I mean, we’re not all dbags after all ;)

.If he really liked you he would take any moment he had to get your attention.

A) He legitimately wants to be your friend, keeping the ebb and flow in an equilibrium as to neither lead you on nor distance you too much.

B) He wants dat ass.

Be advised that some guys will do this to keep an option open. If plan A doesn’t work out, some men (usually very young men) will have a plan B in mind.

You don’t want to be someone’s plan B.

@andrew & @The_Compassionate_Heretic speak of what could very possible, it’s also usually a woman’s tactic, but I’ve seen guys do it too. It’s true you don’t want to be “someone’s ‘B’” but there is also the chance that he’s just interested in being friends, maybe even with benefits. Besides 4–5 days really isn’t that long. I’ve gone weeks before contacting someone and that’s because I’m busy usually. Be forward, ask him what he’s looking for, what’s the worst that could happen? You’re minus a friend that you’re not even sure you had anyway?

Why does a new relationship have to be all or nothing? Relationships are supposed to grow – you have someone who is interested enough to stay in touch but who has a life and associated commitments that existed long before you met. Give it time.

Ask him. Tell him that you want more. Love as a guessing game, has no future.

Seems to me that he may just want to be friends…wild thought huh :)

sounds like he’s just being and nice and being a friend…appreciate it ..many wouldn’t bother

Several scenarios:

He enjoys your company though not romantically.

He wants your company and romantic interest but not to reciprocate; he needs tons of attention and will take it where he finds it.

He is stringing you along while he tests out other compay.

What do you want? Are you interested in his friendship? More? What kind of signals are you giving off? What would his question to fluther be?

Oh man, I’m going through the exact same thing except it’s been a month.

I have two thoughts about my situation:
1. “He’s just not that into me”
2. He thinks I’m not that into him so he doesn’t want to risk calling me. (He expressed to me one time that he felt like I was reluctant to hang out with him.)

But he’s in his 30s and guys that age don’t BS right? They know what they want and go and get it right? If this is true, then my first theory is correct.

Frick.

Oh well, if it’s meant to be than it’ll happen right? ..............

@Axemusica – so you’ve waited a long time to contact a girl you were into? What’s the longest time you’ve waited…?

@lostinyoureyes it’s not that I was or was not “into” them, so to speak. I’m just not infatuated with them.

I’ve truely fallen for 3 females. 2 did unspeakable acts with lead to heartbreak, 1 of which was 10Xs worse than the other. The most recent one wasn’t even avalible. I.E. She already had a SO, but I don’t want to get into it with that one.

Since then I’ve learned that being “into” someone is never a good thing, at first. I’ve been dating & having sex, but none of them ever seem to be truely matter. That’s not to say I haven’t been interested in getting to know them, because many of them I was very interested in. Of course, then after time see their true colors arise & I fall out of interest.

I don’t think I’ll ever find someone I will truely be infatuated with again. Speaking in a healthy sense of the phrase, lol. Then again you may never know, until then I’ll keep to contacting them when they come across my mind again since the last time we interacted. Which could be the next day or 3 weeks from then. I think the longest I’ve gone was 3–4 weeks.