If you flirt with other girls, does that mean you maybe bisexual?

my theory. All girls are bisexual. Even if its just a little bit.

<waits for shitstorm>

@uberbatman what?? lol

Sexuality is a continuum – whether or not you identify as bisexual or attracted, something is drawing you to do this..

You are not weird; it is not a black-and-white issue. We are all distributed along a continuum from heterosexual to homosexual, and like any other similar distribution you may land anywhere from one end to the other or anyplace in between.

Most researchers assume that we all have some ambiguous feelings about sexual orientation. and many of us have a sense of ambiguity about gender, but we are all ordinary, normal human beings. Relax. Have fun. Don’t worry.

Dude! I mean, Dudette! If you flirt with girls, it means you’re a lesbo. No ifs, ands, ors or buts! Look. It’s cool. You don’t have to pretend you’re not attracted to girls. We’re all cool with that. Honest. We’ll fight to the death for your right to marry your person of choice, no matter, how gay they are!

Be a flirt! All you want. Hell. I don’t even care if you flirt with guys! I’m sure it’s all innocent. Good fun. Just don’t leave home without your dental dam, ok? I just wanna make sure you’re safe, if you know what I mean. nudge, nudge, wink, wink, say no more, say no more

If you get excited by and become enamoured with women then you like girls. Do you want to kiss them and do you get, you know, the “feelings”? Go for it. If it doesn’t do it for you then maybe it’s not for you. Or maybe you need to find another girl.

I flirt with girls all the time and I’m not bi-sexual. ;)

The only person I know close to that at the moment is “buy” sexual. He is sitting in the next office and I know that he has several call girls on speed dial.

No I dont get excited. And no i dont wanna kiss them. I can’t really explain it. I’m not attracted to them but some of them are pretty. I have a boyfriend. If it came up i wouldn’t even go all the way with a chick.

@uberbatman That’s not a theory, that’s a male fantasy.

@LuhvKiller May I ask your age? You look (if that is your photo) young. I get the flirting thing. Look, other girls are safe to practice on. You are probably not bisexual unless you have sexual stirrings beneath all that flirting.

@Marina i’m 24 and yea thats me.

with my job i have to sell stuff that girls wear and they ask me how it looks on them and thats usually how it starts. Nothin ever comes of it. Just flirty conversation on both ends.

It’s not weird if you’re not attracted to them, and it’s not weird if you are. As others have noted, sexuality exists on a spectrum, but In some cases, I think flirting is just sort of an intuitive method of communication. I know I’ve flirted with girl friends (far more often and naturally then I ever did with boys, to which I was mainly attracted) and have done it without any sexual undercurrent.

@uberbatman, that’s not a completely ridiculous theory…

Don’t feel abnormal. I’m right there with you! I’m just a naturally flirty person. I flirt with young guys, girls, older men, and anyone in between. I have gotten a lot of shit for this but once people get to know me they just realize its my personality so you too might just be a naturally flirty person. Don’t sweat it I think you would know if you were bi.

And another question you should ask yourself is these other women that flirt back with you do you think they are all bi?? Probably not so they are doing the same thing you are most likely.

@uberbatman: more like all people. just that girls feel more willing and able to express it.

@sjmc1989 thanks I didn’t look at it that way.

@Ria777 Not everyone is bisexual, you know. I am not. Therefore, everyone is not as I am included in “everyone”.

@DominicX I don’t think he meant everyone is definitely bi, just that everyone may be a little bi in their leanings, no matter how miniscule the tendency. (i.e. if there’s one person of the opposite (of your primary attraction) sex you could, or have been attracted to, for what ever reason and in whatever degree, then you’re nudged the tiniest, nearly imperceptible bit towards the middle.) Of course, I’m a firm believer in there existing extreme and totally exclusive ends to the spectrum.

more like, almost every person will time experience romantic love and/or lust for their own sex, if only briefly, whether or not they act upon it. and according to Kinsey (I don’t know if his research still holds up), many more of us act on those impulses and not really make that public.

@Beta_Orionis @Ria777 Oh, I’m sure it’s common. I’m just saying that I’ve never felt romantic or sexual attraction to anyone of the opposite sex, so I have reason to say that I’m exclusively homosexual.

@Question

It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re bi, but is there an importance to labeling it as bisexual? If you don’t want to be in a relationship with a girl or anything, then it’s fine and no one has to know that you might like to flirt with them sometimes. People always want to label everything, but it isn’t always necessary.

Like i said i’m not attracted to the girls, I just do it. I dont flirt with guys at all cause I have a boyfriend. When I was single I flirted with guys alot. I dont mean anything with it. I’d never kiss a girl or do anything sexual with a girl. I was just wondering what everyone thought or does that make you bi or what you know? jeeeeez I should’ve deleted the question.

@DominicX totally reasonable. That’s why I made sure to mention I believe in exclusive identification

@LuhvKiller Oh don’t worry, I think we’ve (for the most part) agreed that your flirting can be entirely divorced from attraction. We’re not trying to convince you that you’re not anything more that what you identify as. Now we’re just speaking in general terms.

@DominicX: by everyone I meant a deliberate generalization. I wanted to avoid using weasel words.

@LuhvKiller: though flirting has a sexual connotation, I think it has as much to do with friendly interest, almost teasing, though less malicious, than anything. I flirt with guys when in a good mood. don’t worry about it!

There’s nothing wrong with flirting, regardless of gender/preference/etc. If you really aren’t attracted to them though, don’t lead girls on. That’s just weird and mean.

There was a girl I knew in college who would flirt with people in extremely come-hither sorts of ways, and then when they responded positively and attempted to up the ante (a physical touch, an attempt at a kiss, etc, etc), she would get suddenly, dramatically weird, and be like “Oh, how could you ever think that I… I was flirting? What kind of person do you think I am?” despite, you know, having just flirted more forcefully and extensively than anyone else at school.

Most of my friends eventually decided that she just liked breaking boys’ minds, but some part of me kind of believes that she really didn’t know what she was doing, because she is a psychopath and just doesn’t make that connection.

So, yeah, don’t string people along.

There’s a difference between being bisexual and being flirty. If you aren’t physically attracted to girls and you don’t get turned on when thinking about naked chics then you’re not bi.

Sometimes flirting is just fun, and often everyone involved knows that. If you flirt with girls but have no interest in having sex with them, then you are not bisexual or lesbian. Just don’t let it get out of hand so that someone’s feelings get hurt.

Not every girl is bi, sorry uber.

@LuhvKiller Since one of your last comments said that you flirted with guys a lot before your current relationship, I think it just means that you really liked the playfulness of flirting. You probably wouldn’t dream of flirting with other men now because you’re in a committed relationship, so some part of your brain knows that flirting with girls is okay; You still get to do something you enjoy, knowing that it means nothing.

However, as others have said, just make sure you’re not flirting with a girl who will take a genuine interest, ‘cause then it’d just be kinda cruel. But yeah, you’re not bi. Not unless girls turn you on sometimes or you have fantasies about them.

I flirt with other girls all the time. I don’t know why. I just do. I don’t feel any attraction to them. I just think it is fun. No I’m not bi.

Flirting doesn’t have to be sexual. I used to flirt non-stop with a woman in her eighties – a Hungarian woman who went to school with Zsa Zsa Gabor and was very like her in looks and manner. (She has passed now – this was back in the nineties. )

No you are not weird. I know many girls that do this!!

It sounds more like sales than sexuality.

I flirt with people I’m not attracted to (in a romantic or sexual way) all the time. It’s harmless fun (providing that both people are aware that it is only flirting and no more) and usually I think nothing more of it.

Relax and enjoy the human interaction without worrying about labels that’s what I say. If you’re not attracted the women then, chances are, you’re not bisexual.

It just means that you’re a flirt.

It just means you’re having fun, you’re a little promiscuous, and you’re comfortable with them. It’s quite all right.