Problems setting up meaningful relationships with friends or/and partners?

Do you find yourself more interested in men? Maybe your dislike of women is related to your sexual identity. Do some self-examination for the answers.

@gailcalled I get on with men a lot more. I find myself being bored to death talking to most girls, and that probably say more about me than the girls I talk to.
But I don’t talk to people male or female and think I get this person or we really get on well, I get on averagely well with most people but nothing more.

My friends are attracted to girl before they even know their personality, I want to get to know them better and by then I almost always realise I don’t feel that way about them.

Maybe you just haven’t met the right one yet.

Honestly. No matter what you say. I would need to see how you handle yourself to make any useful assessment.

Sorry.

Sounds to me like you are extremely discerning (not a bad thing), but mixed with what I see as possible introversion as well can limit who you find attractive or approachable.

I’d try hanging out or exploring different social circles – ones that cater to your specific interests or lifestyle. At least you have a better chance at being around folks of the same temperament – then perhaps you’ll find someone you’re not only mentally attracted to, but physically as well.

@ChazMaz
Sure I’m not offended by that in anyway.

Some folks seem to have a natural talent for connecting with others, but for most of us, it’s something we learn with practice. If you don’t mind my asking, how old are you?

@MagsRags
I’m 19

I have a daughter your age, and I see lots of young women as patients in my job. It seems that a lot of the social scene in the late teens/early 20s is either pretty passive going to movies, playing video games, watching sports or active in a way that doesn’t allow for much meaningful conversation dancing, playing sports. And if your group of friends are into getting high, it deteriorates from there. Not that anyone should be feeling like they have to be serious all the time, but if you’re wanting to really get to know someone, it helps to have all your brain cells firing.

If you tend to hang out with large groups of friends, have you considered trying to plan some activities for a smaller group? I think @inkvisitor had a good suggestion about getting a little deeper into something you’re particularly interested in – chances are, you’ll find more meaningful friendship opportunities there.

As far as girls, it’s OK if you’re not ready yet to find or recognise “that special someone”. If you develop your overall relationship skills first, the romantic relationships will be much more satisfying for both of you.

like other people said, try fitting into groups of similar interests to you. If not, maybe try seeing if you are attracted to men, or maybe both. its nothing to be ashamed of, i know loads of gay people. Or maybe your just not in the right place for a relationship right now. Is anything stressing you out at the moment? Work? Family? This could be the cause of it.

@xshortiex
WTF I’m not gay.

Sometimes it can be a function of where you live, If your area is homogenous, then it’s hard to get interested in people, because everyone is predictable. Maybe you need more variety. Expand your interests a little.

It sounds like you have trouble empathizing with other people. Maybe you just have a lot on your mind right now, or maybe you have something like Borderline disorder. It can be really easy to become withdrawn or absorbed in other things, and not realize that you’re overlooking the good in other people.

@Haleth
Maybe. I don’t even care about family members such as my mum and dad. I have family members that really care for me but I feel nothing back. I understand what people going through, but I don’t really care.

@inthecarofthe, do you by chance smoke a lot of pot? Have you ever been diagnosed as depressed?