Am I reading too much into this?

I don’t think you’re reading into it too much…but (personally), I wouldn’t think very highly of someone who wanted me to get a permanent reminder of him/her prior to them committing to me in a more…lifelong way.
What I’m getting at is, he could take off tomorrow, regardless of whether or not he’s trying to turn you into his ex.

@Breefield he doesn’t want me to get his name or anything just . . .something in rune

you’re jumping from him possibly having a thing for her tattoos to him liking her personality and interests more than yours. Thats a pretty big leap. It’s possible he might think she has a sexy/cool tattoo, but he wants to see it on you, not her.

@hookecho it’s more their intrest in musical taste and their love for werewolves/anything supernatural. The way they talk. more than the tattoo style

well it’s a bit iffy, yes….I wouldn’t like it because I’d think ‘my god of all the things that could interest you, does it have to be that kind of a tattoo’?

That would be a bit alarming to me. Bottom line, only get a tattoo if you want to get one, and only get what you want on your body.

yeah thats a good point, I didnt mention in my first post but obviously if you don’t like the design don’t get it.

I agree with Facade.

It sounds fishy to me. I’m a bit biased of course. One of my ex bf’s, who I thought was madly in love with me, was always pushing me to get a tattoo of his name. Sad part is, I actually considered it! A few weeks later I discovered he was cheating on me with his ex gf. As upset as I was, I was also very relieved that I didn’t permanently ink my body with the asshole’s name. My point is, just be really careful. Especially if you aren’t even sure of his reasons behind him wanting you to get the tattoo.

What do the runes spell?

@Jeruba it’s a Germanic alphabet (I think) so it can spell anything

perhaps he just this that kind of lettering is attractive in general, and crazy idea, thinks you’d look attractive with some, I find that a lot of times people don’t really consider the simple option in scenarios like this.

to be honest though, I’ve never been a huge fan of questions like these, because none of us know you or your boyfriend or who you are as people. So we really can’t give you any sort of advice that I’d personally confident in because we literally know a six paragraph Details section and if we’re ambitious some will check out your profile. If any of our advice really influences your final choice on this matter in any way, we could be ruining someone’s day who didn’t deserve it. If we say he’s acting out of line when he really isn’t, and you take our advice or it influences your final decision, we probably made your boyfriend one really unhappy camper unjustly. Or if we say he’s a sweetie and you take our advice when he’s really the john deer of tools, we probably just waisted weeks or months of your life with this jackoff.

I mean I’m not saying we’re the first and final authority you consult, but sometimes users here can come into a conversation and really put out a five star response, it happens a lot, and sometimes when you read them you forget that the person reading that is just going off a brief knee jerk reaction in which they have absolutely invested interest or emotion.

@ABoyNamedBoobs03 I did concider not asking this question due to the fact it’d be hard to convey the situation and how the people in said situation are, you guys dont know my boyfriend or this girl or even me. I just want peoples reaction . . . what they think based on the bare facts. I understand your point though and maybe this isn’t the venue to ask for advice on the matter maybe I subconsciously asked it just to vent cause I have no one in non flutherland to ask this question. And fluther isnt made for venting or emotion fulled questions so I might take this question off. I got a few responses on how people perceive it and I guess thats all I need

Always, always listen to your gut instinct. Not paranoia (which I think everyone feels from time to time), but what you instinctively feel – if you stop to give yourself some time and space to acknowledge that, you will know whether you are reading too much into it or not. In my experience, you don’t generally think that you’re reading too much into stuff if you are reading too much into stuff.

Whatever his reasons may be, stick with the advice @Facade gave. Do it for yourself, or don’t do it at all. As for the actual question, if I were you I’d want to have a conversation about it, and the way it made me feel. A non-accusatory conversation. :)

I would be slightly suspicious. I’m just saying, he can make a suggestion for a tattoo but the fact that this other chick has the same tattoo he wants you to get…sounds a little odd. Especially how he evaded the whole truth, by saying he only thought it was cool, and ‘forgetting’ to mention his good friend has the same tattoo. I wouldn’t get it. I mean, it doesn’t really sound like you are really into getting the tattoo to begin with. I know I personally would only want to permanently ink my body with a tattoo that meant something to me. Your body is a temple, and tattoo’s are forms of art that in a way represent a part of you. I guess what my point is, get the tattoo if you really want to, but don’t just get it so you think your boyfriend will think better of you for getting it.
My advice is to do it for yourself, not for anybody else.

Your boyfriend seems to think that he can make you into something he wants you to be, like in Pygmalion. The danger in this is that if you change to become what he wants you to be, then he will not be satisfied because you’re not this person, and the person you become is not the person he was attracted to in the first place. You will be unhappy with yourself, and lose your sense of self. speaking from personal experience on this.

You have to stay true to yourself. Getting a rune tattoo is not your original idea. Don’t do anything not original to your body. Every time you look at the tattoo, you will be reminded of this girl, long after you’ve moved on from this boyfriend. If he likes her rune tattoo, he should be the copycat and get one himself.

Maybe he just thinks it’s cool. If he is loving towards you and your relationship is good, don’t make your insecurities mess things up.

But I wouldn’t get that tattoo in runes. You should get a tattoo that reflects you, or not at all.

ya, its creepy.

BIG RED FLAG!!!

I don’t plan on getting the rune tattoo really for some reason it makes me think of hobbittish (and now this girl) so unless I have an epiphany and start to warm up to the idea i don’t plan on getting it.

Good!

@live_rose, I meant what does he want the runes in your tattoo to spell out? I thought he was suggesting a specific runic tattoo and wondered what message he wants inked on you.

I’m glad to hear that you’ve decided against the idea. Your next boyfriend will be too.

@Jeruba He didn’t suggest a specific term just something in rune.

Tattoos are personal things, I am glad you have thought about this and not jumped wildly on the band wagon. You know your relationship best, as long as he isn’t forcing you by telling you something has to be done, then don’t fret too much. However if you have any concerns raise them, honesty in this case is what you need, let him know that you may consider getting one, but it makes you feel a little uncomfortabe that he would like you to get one similar to another persons.

Good Luck and remember, its your body and your life, take on board what people are telling you and make it your choice.

It sounds like you’re insecure about your relationship. Have you considered talking to your boyfriend? You don’t necessarily have to bring up the whole tattoo issue, but ask him what the qualities are that he likes in you. Focus on the positive. If you don’t have much in common… maybe your personalities complement each other? Don’t think about this other girl it will drive you mad.

I think he’s a weirdo who wants “his” marks on all his women as he goes through life.