Is it strange to be almost 20 and have never kissed anyone?

Well, not out of nowhere. Don’t just go around with creepy extendo-lips, trying to kiss the nearest person.

It’s not strange, don’t fret. You’ll know when the time is right.

Relax, don’t worry about what is normative, and wait until you find someone you really want to kiss, and who seems like he or she may want to kiss you. That will be far more rewarding.

and tell this @Grisaille person that stalking is against the law

it’s not stalking when the other person loves you

give us a kiss

It’s not “normal” but I wouldn’t call it abnormal either! I think it’s just fine – and let it happen naturally. If you harp on it, you’ll psych yourself out. I always find I have the most opportunities when I’m not looking for them. :)

Strange? No. My father has a female friend that had her first kiss after age 30. I have a friend that’s 45 and still a virgin.

Should you try? If you want to, yes. It’s an activity I recommend highly :)

I was 23! Yeah, I felt like I was pretty unusual because of it, but I waited until a friend of mine told me that he had always been interested in me. Then, we had a convo where I told him that I had never kissed a guy and that I wanted to try it with him. It worked out well!

It’s not that big of a deal.

It isn’t strange for any age, some people just don’t meet anyone.

It is perhaps less common than the reverse, but it in no way indicates there is anything strange about you.

I wouldn’t worry about it too much. It’ll happen when it happens. Take your time.

I was 21! I turned out alright. No wait, no I didn’t.

Is it uncommon? Probably. Is it strange? “Strange” is dependent on the perspective. Uncommon doesn’t necessarily mean it’s strange or “bad”.

It’s uncommon but not odd. It doesn’t matter that much, and everyones different.

I don’t think I’ll ever find anyone who like me for who I am :(

We have all felt similarly at one time or another. My grandmother used to say, “There is a lid for every pot.”

Don’t despair – the more you feel relaxed about the issue, the sooner things will begin to happen.

Your first kiss will be a lot more memorable and meaningful if you save it for somebody you’re actually atracted to. don’t make the same mistake I did.

Not really :D

What, not even a cat or dog?
(though not on the lips)
(unless it was a Saturday night)

I hope I don’t sound like a jerk, but I don’t think the OP requires jokes in this thread. He seems upset, and he has very nearly said outright that he is sad. Could you cut him a break? (You guys know I joke all the time – I’m not criticizing you.)

I don’t think it’s strange at all, you’ll know when the most natural time is. I’ll admit I was only 15 when I was first kissed but I was a freshman in highschool and my at the time boyfriend forced the kiss on the school bus SO AWKARD. I’d rather wait for the right moment no matter how old than go through that experience again.

Not strange. No, one shouldn’t try kissing in order to be not-strange.

Gulp!

At least its better then forcefully being kissed against your will right? Wait, it actually depends on what your into.

I had the same problem. Don’t worry about it you’re fine.

Nope. You are doing just fine.

It will happen.

When his first wife died my husband thought no one else would ever love him again. He was wrong and has been wrong for the last twenty years.

Eventually, the right person will come along. Don’t push it. You will find that person someday.

* dabs hanky *

Just be confident, you will do everything you want!!

It’s unusual, but if you’re not ready for it, then why rush? It will happen when it happens. Just kissing anyone for the experience is not really worth it.

Wow, I wish that I had access to the internet when I was younger—and that sites such as Fluther existed. Perhaps I would not have felt quite as alienated and weird.

I know this is really hard, but really, try not to compare yourself to other people. I did that, and I just drove my self-esteem right down to the center of the earth. One of the nice things about fluther is that, at least until recently, they avoided things that encouraged people comparing themselves to others.

It’s a kind of yoga practice. In yoga, they tell you it doesn’t matter how you are compared to anyone else. What matters is that you work and do what you can. There’s no coach yelling at you to work harder, and stretch further. It’s all about comfort and taking your own path.

Well, the same is true for relationships. If you compare yourself to others, you’re going to want to dig out your own eyeballs. If you stretch yourself in a way you are comfortable with, then you don’t give yourself an injury.

The whole idea is to take care of yourself. Try not to make yourself crazy. You may get impatient, bu then you get desperate, and instead of helping yourself, you hurt yourself. It’s better just to give up. Then you can relax, and focus on doing what you do. If you do that, you may surprise yourself with what happens. Stop trying. Just do what makes you happy without hurting others. If you don’t force it, but just keep working at it, eventually you’ll loosen things up a bit, and you will find yourself in a better place to get what you want.