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What do you do when ambition & determination for a dream is lost?

Asked by seventeen123 (428points) October 10th, 2009

Do you let your dream/goal fade away, or should you hold onto it the best you can because you know it’s something you “always wanted”?

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Zen's avatar

It happens all the time. Then comes another one.

frdelrosario's avatar

Eat some ice cream, find something else to do, remember what that great American philosopher Bob Dylan said: “Basically you have to suppress your own ambitions in order to be who you need to be”.

jrpowell's avatar

I wanted to be an accountant. Then I took my first accounting class in college. 10 years of dreams down the drain. I only took one year of accounting since it was a requirment for my degree.

Clair's avatar

If I want it, I go for it. If I want it just because I’ve ‘always wanted it,’ ... that’s just not my style, things change.
When I was little, I wanted to change my name to Rainbow…see? Not so much now.

Samurai's avatar

At times dreams dim then blaze again or get forever buried, then to find a new dream or none at all. You always have goals small or big, you should always go with what you think is right.
I’m sure people go into depression or relief when an important dream or goal is lost to them.

ratboy's avatar

Wake up.

LostInParadise's avatar

There is no easy answer to your question. There are stories of people who keep pursuing their dream and eventually getting it and other stories of people wasting their lives pursuing the unattainable. It depends in part on the specifics of what you want. Can you pursue your goal and still manage to support yourself? Is there pleasure in the pursuit even if you do not reach your goal?

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Dreams require good work habits and commitment. If you put in the work and you discover it’s not for you, then you’ve gained experience that can be applied to other things. If you abandon a dream because it takes too much work, then you have to question your commitment.

Sometimes dreams are wishful thinking and not goals.

wundayatta's avatar

You figure out what is truly meaningful.

Jack_Haas's avatar

You must not be afraid to take as much time out as you need to figure out your chances. Once you definitely know, deep down, what you can and cant do, make your decision.

SuperMouse's avatar

Dreams don’t die, nor are they lost. Dreams are fluid, they change, they morph over time as you change and morph over time. Don’t let go of your dreams, embrace what they become.

saraaaaaa's avatar

Depends what that dream is? Maybe there is something you can do to rekindle your enthusiasm? Like take a trip or whatever? The passion may still be there but has just been damped down by other things in your life, I believe it may be possible to reawaken it.

RedPowerLady's avatar

Sometimes a dream is short-lived by nature. Other times they fade because you change over time: your goals, your personality, etc.. If it changes by natural reasons then I say let it be.

However, if a dream changes simply because you run out of ambition then it’s nice to know that there is always more of that waiting for you to snatch it up. To do so I often have to put myself back in physical scenarios that remind me how important my dream is in the first place. So say you want to go to college and you are working really hard to get there. But you just run out of steam and are now thinking it’s too hard or it’s taking too much time. A good way to get yourself amped back up is to go to the local college and sneak in on a class. Or to go hear a speaker talk about how college changed their life.

shego's avatar

I still have my goals and dreams, but I’m still at a point in my life, where I am more experimenting, and weeding out the ones that just don’t work for me now. It doesn’t mean that it won’t work for me in the future.

Jeruba's avatar

How long is “always”?

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

Come up with another dream, and go after it instead.

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