How do I get a woman to break up with her boyfriend for me?

Stop being fixated with one girl. it’s called “oneitis” and it leads nowhere fast.. Go out and live your life and find someone else. Dont try to break them up, it will not end well.

Maybe that’s not what you wanted to hear.

You need to leave that one alone man. That’s a big no-go.

She’s made her choice. Now you need to accept it.

It is said that people are with the person they need to learn from. She must be learning something with him.

Why would you do such a disreputable thing? If it’s meant to be, bide your time.

Not worth it if you have to do it.

kick his ass?

Hearing it from the best friend’s mouth isn’t good enough to warrant spinning your wheels over. If you hear it directly from this woman and you trust in the rest of her behaviors that she wouldn’t leave you for another man come across her radar then go for it.

Easy! You turn your back on thousands of years of accumulated human wisdom and morality, and selfishly pursue a narcissistic, destructive path.

How about you work on getting over your over-inflated sense of self-importance instead?

Hey buddy, the world doesn’t revolve around you
It revolves around me

Apparently according to what you say her best friend told you, she has already considered being with you, and decided not to go that route for some reason. If you want any hope of her being truly interested in you, you will not interfere with her current relationship, and wait until she is free. If it’s meant to be between the two of you, it will happen. pushing things will not work in your favor. I think you should move on in the meantime.

Wow… you’re plotting how you can sabotage their relationship, but he’s supposedly an “insensitive buffoon.” Now that’s some irony! Pot, meet kettle. Seriously man… leave it be.

Positioning yourself so that hopefully she might come to you if the current relationship breaks up… that’s one thing. Maybe not particularly healthy or likely to succeed, but at least not actively harmful. But actually trying to break them apart? That’s messed up. Imagine how you’d feel if someone did that to you, and thought they were justified because they thought you were a jerk. Or if you don’t care about that, think about her feelings. Breakups are never easy, even under good circumstances.

Maybe the guy she’s seeing is a jerk. But if you set out to wreck their relationship, then there’ll just be two jerks…

Face it, she’s just not man enough to leave him on her own.

Tell one of her friends to tell her that her boyfriend cheated on her?

But seriously now, if she wanted you already she would get with you. Simple as.

Find someone else however, and she will be more interested in you. Fact.

(Especially if the new chick is fitter than her!)

I would be hesitant to date someone so easily swayed.

There’s a song I remember as a kid, went something like this:

the woman I love
took her from a friend
the fool got lucky
he stole her back again
well come in
into my kitchen
cause there’s going to be raining outside
something something something…

I always interpreted that to mean the woman in the song was just a pinball and she’d bring tears to one man after another

If it’s meant to be it will happen. But you cannot let the “what if” possibility consume your life. I agree with what everyone else is saying, go out and live your life, you can’t force fate, and if you try, fate will screw you over.

take him out for some drinks one night, and unknown to him hire some escort girls to come in and seduce him at the bar, take lots of pictures and then be like, zomg look at your boyfriend he is a skank.

I recently met up with an ex-gf who was on the verge of leaving her husband. We slept together a few times, then she left her husband a few weeks later. Sure, she didn’t leave him for or because of me, but where’s she going this weekend? Out of state to visit another ex-bf.

Just because “your girl” might leave a bad relationship doesn’t mean you’ll end up with her. And if you did end up with her after something like that, are you sure you could trust her? Leave this one alone.

As mentioned, probably not what you want to hear, and also as mentioned…..STAY AWAY and move on. Trust me on this…..I learned the hard way and was in your exact situation. I know EXACTLY how you feel and from going through it you do not want to mess with that situation…...

Are you a manly man or a decent man?

If you’re decent, then just be nice and polite, and attentive when you’re around her. Ask her to do things, but not datelike things. Just keep it cool. Be patient. When she breaks up with this guy, then you can make things a little more serious.

If you’re a manly man, then by all means, try to cut her away. Ask her out. Bad mouth the other dude. Tell her you’d be much better. If she’s the kind of girl to fall for that, then you definitely deserve each other.

You don’t make a woman do anything. She said she considered dating you but decided against it. She decided this guy was better than you. Leave it be and get far away. If they break up leave a long time before you start pursuing her (or never do it) You don’t want to be a rebound.

Sounds like trouble to me. She has to figure this out on her own—your job is to respect her relationship.

@Lladar You don’t. It is her choice who she is with, and since she is taken it is your duty back off. Your arrogance won’t get you far either (“because I am so much better than him”). She may see something in him that you do not, and it is not your place to judge their relationship. Anyone who intentionally breaks up a relationship for their own good obviously cares more about themselves than the person they wish to date, and is therefore not the right person to be with. Grow up, back off, leave her to make her own decisions, and lose your arrogance before you hurt everyone involved.

Become distant and unavailable. Some women want what they can’t have. Also, you won’t be the douchebag that broke up the relationship.

”...she is interested and has thought about a relationship with me several times. Info from her best friend’s mouth.”

The friend that told you this is the one that probably likes you. If you want her man up and tell her straight up that you want her, stop being a p*ssy.

As above this sounds like dodgy terratory to me.. be careful what you wish for…

This question makes me feel physically sick. Try imagining you are the boyfriend. Trying to do everything you can to save a relationship with a girl that you love desperately. Would you want some ‘friend’ to come and swoop in? It’s wrong. So wrong.

I hope you try it and everything goes wrong for you.

Karma dude.

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Why would you want to? If you can get her to dump Gilmore for you, what makes you think Sancho won’t get her to dump you for him? But, if you want to get on her radar, as close of a bond you feel you have or how great you feel you’d be better than Gilmore you do not fill what void she has in her life. When you find out what that void is and find a way to fill it then you will be on your way. That void once filled will cause her to be happy, if you are the catalyst for that void being filled and her happiness she will equate that happiness to you and thus be jazzed to have you near or be near you.