Are you alone, or lonely?

im alone and lonely.

—I love you, @eponymoushipster. If I were there, I’d spend all my waking hours with you.

I am alone, lonley, and happy.

I am alone, as well. I really don’t mind being single. The way I see it, I have to put myself out there and proactively try to find a partner, which I am not doing. If I were lonely, it would be my fault. As it stands, eventually I’ll want to be out there meeting people, but for now, I enjoy being alone.

I’m not single, but I’ll still answer Often times, I feel alone and lonely.

Although I’m very comfortable with being alone, even proud of it, I’ve been feeling rather lonely lately.

Doom needs some love.

I am alone and lonely, but I haven’t really put myself out there to meet people. I’m not really sure how to do that anymore.

@Tink1113 Lonely and happy?

@NewZen unless youre a female and not crazy, thanks but no thanks… :)

I am alone and content. I used to be lonely even when I was in a relationship. But within the past couple years, I’ve reached a place where I love being me and being my own company; and I no longer feel that chasm in my chest – even when I was being dumped by the man I thought I would spend the rest of my life with.

Not single, although, I wish that I could spend more time with my girlfriend. I keep busy, and am surrounded by kids and people all day, so, I’m certainly not alone for the most part. Honestly, I feel alone when it comes to family. Mine has pretty much fallen apart. My sister lives a bit away and the rest of the menz (Dad and Bros) don’t put in the effort to get together.

I’m in a relationship but am often alone and lonely anyway. Like right now. yeah long distance relationships suck

I’m not alone, but I am missing someone something fierce. It makes me feel lonely.

I am not alone, but for most of the summer, I felt very lonely. Certain things were happening in our marriage that caused us both to be VERY unhappy. Unhappy to the point that I didn’t know what to do next. It’s gotten much better in the last few weeks, but I’ll never forget the emptiness & sadness I felt. It was terrible.

(((daloon)))

Alone.
Occasionally lonely.

@eponymoushipster You know I’m neither.

@chyna Why not?

I’m such a loner.

—{{{hugs lonely people}}}—-

It’s been about 2 years since I’ve dated and the last 2 guys were not good choices, so I don’t think I have good judgement in choosing men. I don’t know where I would go to meet guys either.

@NewZen Yes alone and happy. I’m not happy that I’m alone but I’m not terribly depressed about it.

I am not single, but I want to answer anyways.

In highschool, I used to be afraid to be seen alone eating lunch. I used to be a complete loner and I was really ashamed of myself.

I am still a loner, but I think I like it. I am enjoying the aloneless, there is so much more time to reflect and focus on my consciousness,phsyical and mental being. I am not good with alot of people, I tend to shift my attention to pleasing others, wanting to be accepted by others, and living up to certian personally unachievabe standard, I found that being alone protect me from trying to be someone else, to have expectation or to face rejection.

@Tink1113—Sorry, but you said: I am alone, lonely, and happy. Can you be lonely (a negative thing) and happy? Maybe alone and happy?

@NewZen Loney as in I don’t have an SO kind of loney.

Alone, kinda lonely . . . there’s this guy I like that I don’t know how to talk to, but otherwise I’m fairly content with my lot in life. I tend to want to be around people when I’m alone, and then when I’m around people I get pissed and want to be alone. So, lose/lose situation.

@eponymoushipster Female AND not crazy? Those are some high standards, dude.

@MissAusten: It took me a few decades to get there, but I fit those criteria!

@hearkat You’re female now? ;)

@MissAusten: LOL4rl!

I’m not alone, but I can often feel lonely despite being a husband and dad. I was very lonely for about half my life -I guess it’s a feeling that’s hard to shake or crops up easily even after you’ve supposedly grown past it.

So, can I offer some ((bear hugs)) to lonely Flutherites?

I’m not alone. I often have the company of my s/o and family. But sometimes I still feel very lonely. I’m not really sure why that is.

For all (us) lonely people, a song of hope

I am both alone and lonely. The only thing I get to hold is my teddy bear. It listens to me too, without talking back.

@brinibear I’m guessing your teddy’s name right now…

May I answer? Thanks.

I believe “loneliness” is due in part to disposition. As long as I can remember, I have had bouts of feeling lonely. Even now, I find myself thinking or feeling lonesome, but I know I am not (I am married, have children, friends, and a job that surrounds me with people…for crying out loud!).

There are many who are married, have children, and are surrounded by friends and family who feel lonely.

Married, sometimes lonely. Have been single and not lonely, single and lonely. I am not a natural loner, my spouse is. There are times when I feel like my existence in our home is something he doesn’t need beyond food, secretarial duties and the occasional bedroom romp. He says no, but I’m not sure I buy it. That may be more my issue than anything. Need to learn how to deal with a non-communicator without spending all my time talking to my girlfriends about the stuff I’d rather tell him.

@NewZen nope, I got the bear when I was in 3rd grade. His name is Stanley.

@brinibear ok

:-)

Why? the whole brinibear thing came on when I left home. I had friends who wanted me to have a nickname. So it grew on me. I also like it cause I can say There’s no need to fear! Brinibear is here!

I am not alone and I’m never lonely
this is new for me
however, I find that sometimes to be both alone and/or lonely can be benefitial
and so I get away from the hustle and bustle of things

No.

I’m both most of the time, but it’s been like this for decades, so I’m used to it. The keyword for me is “balance”.

I’m not alone but I’m often lonely since I know so very few people where I am currently.

@hungryhungryhortence: Meetup.com can help you find groups of people in your area based on your personal interests… check it out!

@hearkat: I actually know several co workers who’ve joined that site but out here anyways, it’s pretty much a “hookup” site, a step above cruising the Craigslist personals. I have to stop being lazy and hiding inside.

@hungryhungryhortence: Not hardly! Either they or you are mistaken. It is not a singles or dating site. Meetup.com hosts pages for people to organize groups. THe organizers pay something like $75/6 months to use the site to run up to 3 groups based on any common interest… such as book clubs, women’s groups, hiking, LGBT groups, travel, couples groups, movie goers, expatriates from various countries, skiing, yoga, art – seriously anything you might be interested in.
Yes, there are some “singles” groups on there, some of which are like speed-dating types of events, and others where the event is interesting in and of itself, and the people who participate are single people enjoying the event together without a “meet-market” type of atmosphere. I have made several new friends, even more new acquaintances, and I did meet a guy I dated for a while – and that wasn’t even at a ‘singles’ event. Seriously – go check it out for yourself!

@hearkat: I’ve visited our local site so I know what you mean about the presentation, just saying what people seem to be using it for.

@hungryhungryhortence: What do you mean, your “local site”? Do you mean when you check what groups are in your geographic region? Are you in a remote location or outside the USA or something? It’s free to create a profile – which you can keep very private; so maybe if you expand the search radius and add your specific interests in there you’d get better results? You could always start your own group on there, too!

@hearkat: Yes, the meetup.com advertises for our city and local suburbs. Several of my co workers belong to it and brag about their great success in picking up women who seem to be okay with casual sex.

@hungryhungryhortence: There are groups for sexual encounters… but if you don’t list that as an interest, then you don’t see them. I can’t imagine that you aren’t able to find groups within 25 miles of you that suit your interests unless you live in a remote area. There are literally thousands of groups near me… but I am in a densely populated area. I have had great success and made some genuine friends through groups organized on the site.